ThinkPink218 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 So on my way to work this morning, I started to think about writing a eulogy for our dead relationship and it actually felt good. Instead of reminiscing on the downfalls of our relationship, i focused on all of the good that we did have and the things I learned from it. It felt good to say I'm gonna miss our relationship for x, y, z but understand that I also have to let it go as it is no longer. I'm not really angry at him, although I'm still coping with the fact that we were once really good friends and seem to be enemies now and that he has moved on to someone else.*But that's ok. After thinking of that eulogy, it sort of kind of gave me some peace in my head with everything and makes me ready to move on with my life and let it go (including not cyber stalking him).* I've invested in a ton of self help books over the past year and try to go back to them as often as I can and I also have been keeping a blog about my feelings and plan to read it at the end of the year to notice some of my patterns, behaviors and things I want to improve. One thing that helps me keep positive when I feel down are thinking of all the things I do have and am thankful for (things we often take for granted) instead of the things I don't.* This isn't gonna be easy as the failing of a relationship is kind of like a death. There will be bad and good days, but the eulogy gave me a sense of peace that I was looking for instead of holding on to all the hurt and anger. You reach a point where you realize you just have to move on. I hope this helps anyone.
ChelseaLS Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 So on my way to work this morning, I started to think about writing a eulogy for our dead relationship and it actually felt good. Instead of reminiscing on the downfalls of our relationship, i focused on all of the good that we did have and the things I learned from it. It felt good to say I'm gonna miss our relationship for x, y, z but understand that I also have to let it go as it is no longer. I'm not really angry at him, although I'm still coping with the fact that we were once really good friends and seem to be enemies now and that he has moved on to someone else.*But that's ok. After thinking of that eulogy, it sort of kind of gave me some peace in my head with everything and makes me ready to move on with my life and let it go (including not cyber stalking him).* I've invested in a ton of self help books over the past year and try to go back to them as often as I can and I also have been keeping a blog about my feelings and plan to read it at the end of the year to notice some of my patterns, behaviors and things I want to improve. One thing that helps me keep positive when I feel down are thinking of all the things I do have and am thankful for (things we often take for granted) instead of the things I don't.* This isn't gonna be easy as the failing of a relationship is kind of like a death. There will be bad and good days, but the eulogy gave me a sense of peace that I was looking for instead of holding on to all the hurt and anger. You reach a point where you realize you just have to move on. I hope this helps anyone. I love it. I am happy it helped you find some peace. I believe I will have to give this a try... perhaps tonight after work. I know I have to move on and I think I have been doing a good job, but this should give me a extra boost. Thank you.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 I love it. I am happy it helped you find some peace. I believe I will have to give this a try... perhaps tonight after work. I know I have to move on and I think I have been doing a good job, but this should give me a extra boost. Thank you. Glad I could help you Chelsea!! Instead of looking at all the bad that happened towards the end of our relationship, I just focused on the fun and memories, how much that meant to be and how it's over now and time to let it go. It actually feels good!!
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