nat_nat Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Hi All! I get the bus to and from work every day, with the journey lasting an hour. There is a guy who gets on a couple of stops after me (also every day), and we always smile at each other and 'give each other the eye'. We also make sure we are sat in the seat opposite so that we're as near as possible! It's clear we're into each other, but how could we ever get to speaking to each other?! This has been going on now for about 7 months, but daren't approach him. Any tips or advice?
mickey90 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 o wow.. 7 months and no comuntication? maybe you could start with something easy.. like talking about the weather, or any small talk.. also maybe you could drop a pencil or something as he is getting on so he can pick it up for you, say thank you and see where it goes from there. he is obviously interested so you don't need to worry about getting shot down. seems like you both are shy.. but I bet he would love to talk to you also.. good luck, i hope this helps
Dust Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Well if he's like me an the guys I know you wouldn't be here asking this question if he liked you back and was single. He'd have already made a move. Other wise he isn't single or has some other reason he doesn't want to talk. If he's like many of the guys with problems who come to LS then he is wondering if you are just being friendly. He's waiting for you to ask him out on a date if you really like him. He will probably then expect you to make all the first moves to prove to him that you really like him such as holding his hand and going in for the first kiss.
Nexus One Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Hi All! I get the bus to and from work every day, with the journey lasting an hour. There is a guy who gets on a couple of stops after me (also every day), and we always smile at each other and 'give each other the eye'. We also make sure we are sat in the seat opposite so that we're as near as possible! It's clear we're into each other, but how could we ever get to speaking to each other?! This has been going on now for about 7 months, but daren't approach him. Any tips or advice? - Just before you get off the bus you could slip him a note that says: "I like you, with your number and e-mail address" - You could start a conversation saying: "So what's what's your name?" or "So are you single?" or "So when are we going out together?"
smudge21 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 You need to break the ice with something funny... After 7 months I'd simply go in with "so, come here often?" Laughter is a great way to kick start any conversation with anybody. Failing that, just sit next to him one time and simply introduce yourself, maybe even using the fact you've been noticing each other for so long and it's about time you should speak.
Nexus One Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 After 7 months I'd simply go in with "so you come here often?" That's a good one.
oaks Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Hi All! I get the bus to and from work every day, with the journey lasting an hour. There is a guy who gets on a couple of stops after me (also every day), and we always smile at each other and 'give each other the eye'. We also make sure we are sat in the seat opposite so that we're as near as possible! It's clear we're into each other, but how could we ever get to speaking to each other?! This has been going on now for about 7 months, but daren't approach him. Any tips or advice? 7 months and you've never even said "Good morning" to each other? That's... sad. But it's not too late.
Author nat_nat Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 Thanks for the input so far, that was all actually really helpful! I think nearer around Christmas time is a good excuse to get speaking as well, he'll be in the festive cheer! (And at least if I get turned down I'll have the christmas break to hopefully get over the embarrassment!) Giving him a note seems the easiest way to do it, although I don't know if that would seem like quite an immature approach. It was the same old thing this morning (like every day). I really can't stand this anymore, I will try and convince myself to do something soon.
oaks Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 It was the same old thing this morning (like every day). I really can't stand this anymore, I will try and convince myself to do something soon. Just say "Good morning" and smile.
smudge21 Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Making a plan... that sounds risky. You could build it up in your head and then the day you make your move, is the same day he's just met someone else. Plus, the trouble with plans is you over think things and end up more worried than you were before. I'm not too keen on the note thing - seems a bit childish and stalker like. I mean, it's sweet in a "Hollywood movie" type of way, but this is the real world. I say just speak to him. Do it now before it's too late...
Author nat_nat Posted November 22, 2011 Author Posted November 22, 2011 i say don't do it, you dumb bitch. It's like dating a co-worker or some in your class. If things don't work out...will be very awkward drive for an hour for both. 7 months? he has been single for 7 months at least?.....what a loser, who's cock is not getting wet...some failure in life and undesirable to other women. You sound immature and dumb. I hope no one rises to your comments, it is you that's immature trying to get a reaction from people. Your username says it all really, it's not exactly the height of sophistication... pathetic
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Okaaaaaaaaaaaaay, Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy haven't you up'n altered your morning routine to get on the public transport AT HIS STOP. Maybe you'd do better vertically, and with fewer people around. Make the extra effort to go the couple/few blocks in the morning to join him at his stop in the morning. Then let the atmosphere there dictate whether you have more comfort in that slightly different environment.
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