Sugarkane Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I find it really fake. People never post about their breakups or bust ups with people. Only positive things. People Also ate in competition with how many "friends" they have. But realistically how many of these so called "friends" could they call if they were in trouble? Or depressed? I doubt it would be alot.
counterman Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 No, not at all. I agree with the things you say, for most people their Facebook friends would not be real friends. Mostly, it's just for attention and a popularity contest. It's really fake -- where some people's friendships are only existence on each others' walls but they rarely, if at all, interact in real life. Plus, I'm sick of seeing people's day-to-day uninteresting lives played out on news feed. It's so easy for people to waste hours upon hours on it too, but I won't be sucked into all of that. As for dating, I don't care whether the girl I date uses Facebook a lot or not, but if she sees it as a real desperate need in the her life, I don't think we'll be compatible. It does have is advantages but it's no substitute to real life physical interactions.
EasyHeart Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I think a lot depends on how old you are. For the "kids" (eg, teens and twenties) it seems to be a requirement and a significant number of people have posted here saying that they would be highly suspicious about a person who didn't have (or wouldn't share) their Facebook page. Being in my 40s, I don't "get" Facebook and have no idea why it is popular. I limit my FB to family and close friends and never share it with women I'm dating. The only use I see for FB is to easily distribute baby pictures and to announce new jobs. I explained all this to my girlfriend when we started dating and she had no problem with it. But you might run into people who think you are trying to hide something (eg, that you're married or dating someone else) if you don't want to "friend" them.
wezol Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Being in my 40s, I don't "get" Facebook and have no idea why it is popular. I limit my FB to family and close friends and never share it with women I'm dating. The only use I see for FB is to easily distribute baby pictures and to announce new jobs. I'm in my mid 20's and this is what I use it for, so not everyone in their 20's on facebook sees it as a competition. Many of my friends are family, or guys I was deployed with. I like it as a way to stay in touch with them all and look at pictures of what's going on in the world with everyone. My rule of thumb for my friends list, is if I have no use for your phone number, or vice versa, then we aren't friends.
BeyondtheClouds Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I have an FB account and I friend those whom I know and who ask me. I have noticed how FB flirting can be an indicator of offline activity. For that reason I would suggest to others to have an account. Also, I have found it to be easy to contact a group people to get together. My motto in real life is don't make it hard for others to reach me. I like it when others do the same.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I don't have Facebook, is that a dealbreaker? Yes, so don't get it.
Ginger Beer Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 It's pretty sad that the vast majority of people have a Facebook account now. I don't want to date someone who has one, which pretty much rules out the entire female population in my age group.
dizy Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 hey!!hahah maybe we should be friends!! in real life obviously! I dont have facebook either =) and for the same reason. Facebook is just fake...everyone is so different on facebook and I dont like random people seeing comments that I say to my friends so i figure that I might as well just call or text them directly. but yeah lots of people find me weird because i dont have facebook. oh well, if the person is superficial enough to not date you because you dont have a facebook account then you should run away as fast and as far as you can =)
NYC-BigKat Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 hey!!hahah maybe we should be friends!! in real life obviously! I dont have facebook either =) and for the same reason. Facebook is just fake...everyone is so different on facebook and I dont like random people seeing comments that I say to my friends so i figure that I might as well just call or text them directly. but yeah lots of people find me weird because i dont have facebook. oh well, if the person is superficial enough to not date you because you dont have a facebook account then you should run away as fast and as far as you can =) Alot of people on facebook act like the whole world evolves around them. I started up a pretty big friends list but I only did it to see if I could meet some single girls & I did but none were open to responding to any of my messages its like they just accepted my request & walked away.
I have no name Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I couldn't care less about facebook. With that said, I have a few friends who deleted it because they were scared they would get caught cheating on their girlfriends. So if you are in your 20's and don't have it, many people would think that you are hiding something. I know that's not always the case, but in my experience that seems to be fairly common.
Citizen Erased Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I can't see how it would be a deal breaker, it is only a website after all. However, it is a very popular one and it increases your chances of your social life being better, especially if you're in your 20's. Judge others if you must, of being fake just because they choose to make use of something you clearly have your knickers in a knot about, but don't be surprised if people leave you out of things.
oaks Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I can't see how it would be a deal breaker, it is only a website after all. Agreed. I think that caring too much about Facebook (including people who are over-passionate about never ever ever having a Facebook page as well as those who would absolutely die without it) is a red flag, but having or not having a Facebook page isn't a big deal (for me).
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