Woggle Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 "In talking to these women, I learned that every woman thinks about leaving her husband. Or cheating on him. At least once. A woman who says she’s never thought about these things is either not married or in denial. Or she’s too afraid to admit it." She talked to a dozen cheating wives and concluded that ALL married women think about cheating or leaving....or else are in denial. Sheesh. Books like this make me feel better about my life I want what I have. I am so thankful for my husband, and the life we share. According to her you secretly agree with her but are too afraid to admit it. I hope this is not how most married women feel. If so then men should just be players and screw as many women as possible. If this is how your wife is going to treat you why bother. Also I love how she makes these women out to be empowered feminists. I read the reviews for this book on Amazon and you would think these women were the second coming of Susan B Anthony.
xxoo Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 According to her you secretly agree with her but are too afraid to admit it. Do I sound afraid? I am not afraid. I am deeply appreciative of what I have.
dasein Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Here's another researcher with even more startling conclusions. The site used to have forums, they weren't highly moderated, and the back and forth between cheating women and men who had been cheated on made LS look very tame in comparison. http://www.womensinfidelity.com/
ptp Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Why should I look to traditional marriage as the right answer if this is what I have to look forward to? It is no secret that women now days have way more options than ever when it comes cheating. An average looking woman in her 40s will have many more male suitors than her average looking husband. OLD probably makes it worse by allowing women an only catalog to pick.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I slept with a married woman when I was 18. It was a pure lust thing and I did feel horribly guilty afterwards, her husband started coming into my job at the time and he was a really nice guy ( I had no idea that he was her husband until later), he even brought me a turkey sandwich once when i was working a double shift on thanksgiving. I get ill just thinking about it. I would always take off 30% off his purchases when he came into my store, and he would always ask why hahaha, ease my conscience. She was like 15 years older, she should've known better. I guess it's not her fault, her husband is somehow to blame right ?? I had a number of opportunities to bang married women over the years. I was tempted a few times...but somehow could not bring myself to follow through. Call me old fashioned if you like, but I just didn't want to have that sh*t on my conscience. These situations did make me lose a lot of respect for women in general however (as well as reconsider the idea of marriage). These chicks weren't your stereotypical loose sluts. On the surface, they seemed like very normal, good mother/devoted wife types.
Woggle Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Do I sound afraid? I am not afraid. I am deeply appreciative of what I have. I think you are sincere but reading this stuff really makes it hard to trust women.
xxoo Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 I think you are sincere but reading this stuff really makes it hard to trust women. Fair enough. But reading this stuff really makes it hard to trust men: I hope this is not how most married women feel. If so then men should just be players and screw as many women as possible. . What you've said here plays right into a lot of women's fears that men would rather screw as many women as possible than be a faithful spouse. If I found out that my H had cheated on me, the last thing I'd wish is that I'd spent more time screwing other people I honestly WANT a monogamous relationship!
Woggle Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Fair enough. But reading this stuff really makes it hard to trust men: What you've said here plays right into a lot of women's fears that men would rather screw as many women as possible than be a faithful spouse. If I found out that my H had cheated on me, the last thing I'd wish is that I'd spent more time screwing other people I honestly WANT a monogamous relationship! Most men want a faithful spouse but if the choices are be a loving husband who gets cheated on left and right or be a player to be quite honest I would pick 2. If a man can't get a woman's love a least get some sex. Of course both are the ideal but how often does that happen? The article itself said that deep down most women want to cheat so what is a man to do?
Just Don't Know Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 (edited) The article itself said that deep down most women want to cheat so what is a man to do? The article presents a generalised statement, utilising a very small test group to make its point, to sell a book with a specific agenda, in order to get more sales. Could the article be Bull****? Edited November 22, 2011 by Just Don't Know
Just Don't Know Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 Maybe when it comes to actual numbers, other than that ... NO. It actually goes hand in hand with the normal experience we men have out there in the dating world and with some feminists also are starting to see. Maybe these men should look inwards and find out why they keep on getting into relationships with these types of women. Sure, everybody has the capability to cheat. But some people will handle their cheating in a more responsible manner. The women in this article are not responsible people, when it comes to their cheating.
sumdude Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 (edited) Everyone thinks about it. Anyone in a marriage or committed relationship who is desirable runs into those moments of temptation every once in while, some more often than others. The difference is in whether or not you follow through. That is a choice. I'm not sure I believe a lifetime of monogamy is reasonable to expect from anyone anymore... if ever. My longest relationship lasted 7 years before someone cheated (not me).. the olde 7 year itch. Then again at 43 a lifetime of monogamy ain't so long anymore LOL. When I see the occasional threads from married people where they hardly if ever have sex or intimacy I have to wonder why they bother staying. Edited November 22, 2011 by sumdude
Just Don't Know Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 How can you filter for something they won't even share with you, or worse ... what they don't know themselves. How many women in their early 20's know of the sexual awakening they get in their late 20's ? How many women in their early 20's have the experience of mature women and are willing to understand that 'marriage' is not the end-all in life ? You communicate with them. If they won't share with you, than they have poor communication skills. People with poor communication skills are more likely to cheat. If they don't know themselves that well, than by staying with them, you accept the risk that they could dramatically change later on in the relationship when they do know themselves better. These changes could easily end the relationship. When you date at a younger age, you accept that fact that your partner will change. Change is natural. These changes could end the relationship. When a gf/wife cheats on you, causing a breakup, there is no point in heaping blame on them (that doesn't mean that it was the husband/bf's fault. No blameshifting.). You don't learn anything by doing that. Or you could date somebody in their late 20's.
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