SteveC80 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/6914982/ns/today-books/t/wives-reveal-their-secret-sex-lives/#.Tsm5e7Iira4
the wizard Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/6914982/ns/today-books/t/wives-reveal-their-secret-sex-lives/#.Tsm5e7Iira4 A mildly demoralizing read for men. That's a big 65%..read makes it seem as if women are programmed to stray.
Lonely Ronin Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 As a man I find this sad, but it's something I learned several years ago. The study that I read said that in "general" men cheat for physical reason, and women cheat for emotional reasons. in other words, if a guy cheats, its because his wife isn't as desirable as she once was. If a women cheats, its because her husband doesn't make her feel as special as he once did.
Woggle Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 And people wonder where my trust issues come from.
loversquarrel Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 That's why I won't ever re-marry. I have been reduced to keeping all women at arms length. It doesn't matter how good they are, how beautiful, good girl, promiscuous girl, just doesn't matter. I will never look for another life partner, just a bunch of "mean times" to fill the void. I don't hate or dislike women, I just don't have faith in relationships. I would rather just have a fwb. I feel bad about that because the girl i'm with now wants to marry me and have a life together. I love her, and she is a very attractive, good girl with good values. Quite a catch. I just find myself hitting the proverbial wall whenever it comes to commitment. I'm not even interested in other women, I just can't find it in me to go any further. The really sad thing is, I know in my heart if I hadn't been married before I would have without a doubt proposed to her by now. For those women out there who complain they can't find a good guy, take note....I was a good guy until one of you crushed me.
Woggle Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I am married but I am somewhat the same way. I would love nothing more than to fully just let go and trust a woman but I read stuff like this and I cringe at the thought of ending up like these men.
joystickd Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 (edited) Well that was an interesting article. It just confirmed what I knew all along. I see no women have really gave their input and say all men are cheaters. That's why I just have sex with women and don't do relationship. You invest all that time into someone that's out doing someone else. It shows that love is a suckers game for men. Edited November 21, 2011 by joystickd
OnyxSnowfall Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Heh, that's one of the most retarded online articles that I've had the displeasure to read. And anyone that actually believes it rather deserves to marinate in its' retardation.
OnyxSnowfall Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Well that was an interesting article. It just confirmed what I knew all along. I see no women have really gave their input and say all men are cheaters. That's why I just have sex with women and don't do relationship. You invest all that time into someone that's out doing someone else. It shows that love is a suckers game for men. LOL.... It's not a gender thing anyway.
joystickd Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 LOL.... It's not a gender thing anyway. Lol my comment on this thread wouldnt matter since I am considered scum by some men on here because I have at one time had sex with married women. I have stopped and am committed to only doing single women and women with boyfriends.
the wizard Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Lol my comment on this thread wouldnt matter since I am considered scum by some men on here because I have at one time had sex with married women. I have stopped and am committed to only doing single women and women with boyfriends. Lmao. One day someone or something is going to **** you up. Women with boyfriends bro? All the beautiful singke women out there and you want to stick your dick in another man's woman, that's a damn shame.
joystickd Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Lmao. One day someone or something is going to **** you up. Women with boyfriends bro? All the beautiful singke women out there and you want to stick your dick in another man's woman, that's a damn shame. i mentioned single woman but if a woman with a boyfriend offers I'm not turning it down
dasein Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I'm an average guy, and have had literally dozens of married women make overtures over the years. No idea what it is like for tall, handsome, rich guys.
Pierre Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 You may have a Ferrari at home, but if you have driven that car a million times and you are a bit bored. Then you see a brand new FIAT, ABARTH 500 and you fall in love with the new car. Sometimes NEW is more exciting than OLD. Even when OLD is better than the NEW.
KathyM Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 It's too bad some people don't value what they have enough, and are willing to risk it for some cheap thrill. It's too bad that they don't spend those efforts trying to improve their relationship with their SO, and will instead invest their energy in trying to impress somebody else, instead of trying to impress their SO. I think the reason why wives are so at risk for an affair is that women, in general, are so gullible when it comes to smooth-talking men who show them attention and tell them what they want to hear. Men who are boosting the women's self esteem can seem pretty tempting when the woman is coming home to a husband or SO that ignores them, takes them for granted, or treats them badly. Same reason why a lot of husbands cheat as well. If people would just give their SO the attention, validation and ego strokes that they need, we'd have a lot less cheating from both men and women.
Nexus One Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 If that percentage is true, i.e. 65%, then that's worrying. Some of those reasons given for cheating seem really pathetic. - "A guy helped me pick up some cans", yeah...so what? - "He said my flowers smelled nice", yeah...so what? - "You start smelling cologne from outside your marriage", yeah...so what? - "A colleague said: Wow, good idea. I never even thought of that.", yeah...so what? - Angie wants her husband to turn off the TV and listen to her. - Meg loves to dance. It makes her feel young and special. She begs her husband to take her dancing, but he never does. - Lila has a husband who thinks he can control her. Not true. - Nancy’s husband thinks she doesn’t like sex. Also not true. - Susie is the butt of her husband’s nasty remarks. In public. Every time they go out. They're just looking for justifications to cheat, but none of those things justify cheating. When someone cheats, then that implies they think the relationship and their partner aren't important enough to control themselves. Why? Because they risked both the relationship and their partner. And for what? Just sex. Think about how that devalues a relationship and a significant other.
Author SteveC80 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 I'm an average guy, and have had literally dozens of married women make overtures over the years. No idea what it is like for tall, handsome, rich guys. Well i can tell you having two of the three [not rich] when i was younger id say i had see with close to 75 married women and had hundreds approach me.. It made me so paranoid and not trust women,i beleive 90% of women if given the right opportunity and fed the right lines by a handsome smooth guy would cheat.. Women are very much child like in that they constantly have to be entertained and they search for that spark /honeymoon part of the relationship constantly like a drug.. They dont seem to get life gets mundane and reptitive for everyone once in awhile and it doesnt mena you have to go find a spark but banging another dude..
Feelsgoodman Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 So, 65% of married women cheat? Can't say I'm surprised. I'm willing to bet the only reason the other 35% don't cheat is because they are too unattractive and no one wants them. And women wonder why men don't want to get married these days.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Women are very much child like in that they constantly have to entertained and they search for that spark /honeymoon part of the relationship constantly like a drug.. They dont seem to get life gets mundane and reptitive for everyone once in awhile and it doesnt mena you have to go find a spark but banging another dude.. That's the reason why traditional societies impose such severe punishments for adultery. Women are emotional creatures and the only thing that can stop them from doing what feels good is the strongest emotion of them all - FEAR.
Wolf18 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 What makes me angry isn't that 65% of women cheat. What pisses me off is that they cheat, then blame the men. It must've been their husbands' "attitude" that made them cheat with the ripped 6'7 26 year old.
Author SteveC80 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 That's the reason why traditional societies impose such severe punishments for adultery. Women are emotional creatures and the only thing that can stop them from doing what feels good is the strongest emotion of them all - FEAR. I dont agree with fear, i think as Men its our job to train and mold our women and give them the guidance they need.. Not making excuses for women but they do not have as many deep life experiences and logic Men do, most women are naive and aloof to a lot of things that go on in everyday life they are very much sheltered and in a bubble.. Why do you think most women want Men to lead in a relationship? Because they dotn trust their own judgement and know the average Man has more life experience and is equipped ot handle certain situations more..
Feelsgoodman Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I dont agree with fear, i think as Men its our job to train and mold our women and give them the guidance they need.. Not making excuses for women but they do not have as many deep life experiences and logic Men do, most women are naive and aloof to a lot of things that go on in everyday life they are very much sheltered and in a bubble.. Why do you think most women want Men to lead in a relationship? Because they dotn trust their own judgement and know the average Man has more life experience and is equipped ot handle certain situations more.. What sort of guidance are you going to give them when the law basically encourages women to be unfaithful? Cheat on your hubby? No big deal...you can still strip him clean in family court! I'm not saying women should be stoned in the streets middle east style for committing adultery, but there have to be negative consequences (such as not being entitled to an equal division of family property). No fault divorce is pure nonsense.
Nexus One Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 What makes me angry isn't that 65% of women cheat. What pisses me off is that they cheat, then blame the men. Agreed, they're shifting blame for their wrongdoing to their husbands. They're not taking responsibility themselves.
loversquarrel Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 It's too bad some people don't value what they have enough, and are willing to risk it for some cheap thrill. It's too bad that they don't spend those efforts trying to improve their relationship with their SO, and will instead invest their energy in trying to impress somebody else, instead of trying to impress their SO. I think the reason why wives are so at risk for an affair is that women, in general, are so gullible when it comes to smooth-talking men who show them attention and tell them what they want to hear. Men who are boosting the women's self esteem can seem pretty tempting when the woman is coming home to a husband or SO that ignores them, takes them for granted, or treats them badly. Same reason why a lot of husbands cheat as well. If people would just give their SO the attention, validation and ego strokes that they need, we'd have a lot less cheating from both men and women. I think that just show's a severe lack of communication in the marriage. There are marriage councilor's that help with those issues, unfortunately there are a lot of people who neglect to take a look at the whole picture and fail to realize consequences.
loversquarrel Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 So, 65% of married women cheat? Can't say I'm surprised. I'm willing to bet the only reason the other 35% don't cheat is because they are too unattractive and no one wants them. And women wonder why men don't want to get married these days. I agree totally. I will never re-marry, it's a once in a lifetime proposition, if that. If a gf cheats at least one doesn't have to worry about finances/divorce costs/court proceedings...just toss her out and look forward to what's next
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