jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 (edited) It sounds odd to wish my ex would be meaner to me but the fact he is nice to me/about me just seems to make things worse. Anyone else feel this way? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t306797/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t297067/ Those are my past posts just to give some back story. He also wished me happy birthday (albeit on a forum) Edited November 21, 2011 by jenjen83
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 It sounds odd to wish my ex would be meaner to me but the fact he is nice to me/about me just seems to make things worse. Anyone else feel this way? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t306797/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t297067/ Those are my past posts just to give some back story. He also wished me happy birthday (albeit on a forum) well kinda feel this way and it makes me get my hopes up since she's been contacting me twice and when i called her she sounded happy to speak with me, and we are going out for a coffee later on. guess you just have to respect his wishes and hopefully he will get back, i really believe that he still loves you. maybe you could help me out with my post? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t307482/
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 well kinda feel this way and it makes me get my hopes up since she's been contacting me twice and when i called her she sounded happy to speak with me, and we are going out for a coffee later on. guess you just have to respect his wishes and hopefully he will get back, i really believe that he still loves you. maybe you could help me out with my post? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t307482/ I wish he did love me but I don't think he does. Your story does sound positive though...good luck.
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I wish he did love me but I don't think he does. Your story does sound positive though...good luck. thanks for your reply, well thing is, you only think about the negative stuff right now. its normal, as you can see on my post. i still have my doubts. if someone else would write my story i would say she wants you back. you are looking for answers just like me. you have to realize that sometimes when youre thinking about the worst something good might happen. i've seen worse relationships that got solved. my friends girl cheated on him three times and they're back together. i wouldn't do like my friend and take a girl back after she crushed me three times. but were all different and you just never know. i really wish you the best
smudge21 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 My ex and I tried the whole friends route but I couldn't handle it - not what I wanted. So it was me who effectively dumped her I guess, but for the right reasons. We parted as friends and over the course of the last year, she has made the odd effort to get that friendship back and shown that she still does care a lot. Sadly, I still can't do it... and don't think I ever will be able to. The memories of what once was, will always be with me. Like you, she's always been nice to me. I recall when I first said goodbye she replied what if I hated her, would we still be friends then (yeah, I know, that makes no sense does it). I know even now I could quite easily send a text or call her and we'd chat like old friends. Knowing that she's there doesn't help. It's like there's still that connection and it's impossible to break. I know from past where relationships have ended badly, it's been hard but easier to heal. This one seems to just keep going and going and going... Guess I just need to keep fighting, but it's good to know I'm not alone.
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 I know from past where relationships have ended badly, it's been hard but easier to heal. This one seems to just keep going and going and going... That sums it up perfectly for me. When we broke up I told him I was sad that I'd never see him again (it was a LDR) and he said I didn't not have to see him, that it was up to me and that he still liked me which just made me hopeful. He said he didn't fancy me but still called me sexy and attractive which just confused me.Actually that last bit isn't true, he has never really come out and said a lot, more that I suggest/ask things and he agrees. Then a month ago he sees a mutual friend and tells them I'm a nice person, good company etc and according to this friend seemed nostalgic which again confused me. I'd never want him to hate me/slag me off but it would be easier if he did.
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 That sums it up perfectly for me. When we broke up I told him I was sad that I'd never see him again (it was a LDR) and he said I didn't not have to see him, that it was up to me and that he still liked me which just made me hopeful. He said he didn't fancy me but still called me sexy and attractive which just confused me.Actually that last bit isn't true, he has never really come out and said a lot, more that I suggest/ask things and he agrees. Then a month ago he sees a mutual friend and tells them I'm a nice person, good company etc and according to this friend seemed nostalgic which again confused me. I'd never want him to hate me/slag me off but it would be easier if he did. i cant tell if your'e going back together, but there must be a connection from what i've read. you cant see it because your blind. 90% of all people going through this are blind. they cant see it because they are afraid to be wrong. i wont try to change your mind, since you know him and i don't, but this is just what i believe after reading
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 i cant tell if your'e going back together, but there must be a connection from what i've read. you cant see it because your blind. 90% of all people going through this are blind. they cant see it because they are afraid to be wrong. i wont try to change your mind, since you know him and i don't, but this is just what i believe after reading If he wanted me he'd tell me...I don't think he'd not tell me if he did.
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 If he wanted me he'd tell me...I don't think he'd not tell me if he did. im not saying that, im saying that there must be something there, of course i dont know this. but that is what i think. are you sure about that? there's not always that easy to tell someone who you've been broken up with that you want that person back
smudge21 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 It's starting to sound like we've been through the exact same situation. I too hear stuff from others that always makes me think that old "any minute now, she's coming back.." rubbish. It's like in-direct hope; she's not telling me to hang on, but her actions are saying just that. She knows and cares enough to stay away, but also occasionally I get to hear about things she's said or done. So annoying!
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 It's starting to sound like we've been through the exact same situation. I too hear stuff from others that always makes me think that old "any minute now, she's coming back.." rubbish. It's like in-direct hope; she's not telling me to hang on, but her actions are saying just that. She knows and cares enough to stay away, but also occasionally I get to hear about things she's said or done. So annoying! I feel for you! it sucks! My ex is the same...he was very open in responding to me at first, would always answer his phone to me, respond to my messages, now he doesn't but I know it's not cos he doesn't like me but because he realised that being so friendly wasn't good for me. I guess some people would say that if he doesn't answer it shows he doesn't care but the fact he doesn't cos he knows its not good for me makes me know he does care...argh!
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 im not saying that, im saying that there must be something there, of course i dont know this. but that is what i think. are you sure about that? there's not always that easy to tell someone who you've been broken up with that you want that person back Well he told a friend that he might end up regretting finishing with me but it didn't sound like he'd ever want to try again even if he did regret it. It sounded more like he'd regret it but just put it down to a mistake and move on.
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 Well he told a friend that he might end up regretting finishing with me but it didn't sound like he'd ever want to try again even if he did regret it. It sounded more like he'd regret it but just put it down to a mistake and move on. he got feelings but it doesn't feel right i guess
Author jenjen83 Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 he got feelings but it doesn't feel right i guess Spot on...''no spark'' he said.
ChelseaLS Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 he got feelings but it doesn't feel right i guess My ex told me he knows he will regret this "break"... whatever the **** that means. Damn these ex's of ours.
chados Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 My ex told me he knows he will regret this "break"... whatever the **** that means. Damn these ex's of ours. same here. hopefully they mean it
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