Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 They tell you they'll never cheat on you without being prompted. Liars do the same thing... they tell you how honest they are without prompting.
silvermercy Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Not sure if anyone mentioned it yet, but I would also add a high number of sexual partners in the past, especially casual promiscuous encounters, like one-night stands of FWB. It's a high risk factor for me (if not for cheating, at least for commitment) hence I avoid dating people with high numbers of such encounters because you never know when they might "snap" again. (My number is really low, btw, so I'm not a hypocrite. lol).
Star Gazer Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Interesting responses. My boyfriend doesn't have ANY of the risk factors mentioned. I, on the other hand have 90% of the risk factors :/ Your boyfriend has demonstrated that he's not emotionally stable, and enjoys drama in his relationships. I think those are factors. As for you, I'm curious which factors you think you DON'T have, because in all honesty... I think you have all of them.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted November 23, 2011 Author Posted November 23, 2011 Your boyfriend has demonstrated that he's not emotionally stable, and enjoys drama in his relationships. I think those are factors. I agree with this. Also, I think lacking strong physical attraction for your partner is a factor. Most people think that in LTRs physical attraction is a given. There are so many relationships where it isn't so, at least on one side.
anne1707 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 So what do you plan to do about that? Do you think you can be proactive rather than reactive? I will ask this question again ES. If you think you have a lot of these traits, that may make you more likely to cheat. Assuming you don't want to cheat - and that you don't want your bf to either - are you actually going to take steps to minimise the chances of this? Are you going to take any action to help strengthen the relationship with your bf? Are you going to take any action to counteract your traits which have been identified here as linked with cheating? It's all well and good recognising that there may be a problem. It's dealing with it that really counts.
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 Interesting responses. My boyfriend doesn't have ANY of the risk factors mentioned. I, on the other hand have 90% of the risk factors :/ If someone thinks they have alot of risk factors for any kind of behavior that could be destructive, they can take steps to eliminate the worst ones one at a time. ... and be around people who have found other ways to cope with relationship challenges. I agree with some of the other posters that everyone, at some level, has a predisposition to 'cheat' given the ideal situation. It is how we manage those impulses that makes the difference!!
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