forloveofgosh Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 As you may or may not have known, I'm on the road to recovery from my first love. But there are a few negative things I want to make note of: 1) My ex and I's mutual friends are avoiding me. I get a sense of it. Back when we were together, they kept complimenting me on my sense of humor, and how I was "the funniest person in the world." After the break up, I opened up to a few of them ( i know I shouldn't have), and now some of them are retreating from talking to me. They've been ignoring me or minimizing contact with me. F***! I thought they were my friends, but they actually are not. 2) After reading a few threads here on LS, I can't help but keep thinking how messed up the world is. Seriously, how can you be with someone for years and then cheat on them, and then get into a relationship after WEEKS? Something wrong with this society! 3) My ex now has stopped responding to my texts and facebook messages. I don't need her, but I still can't fill the void. I don't have a car and don't have that many friends and so I'm stuck in front of the computer most of the days. I'm dreading holiday blues as I'll be forever lonely. 4) People say "Go out and date other girls!" Seriously? I'm in pain now even after 2 months. I can't sleep properly at night. I keep walking up feeling very tired (like now) and have the urge to call/ txt/ email my ex so much! I think it's just the exhaustion taking over me, but idk how to get over it. I keep seeing the girl in my dream, and it is ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE! By the way, I still think my ex is a "10" despite my friends saying that she wasn't that pretty. Is love blind? I haven't seen anyone better than her, and don't know how to talk with another girl that easily. 5) I know the phrase "time will heal." But on here, people are still upset even after YEARS. I can't take that. My life is horrible enough. It's so unproductive, and lonely, and mundane. I can';t see the purpose of living right now and seriously think I should end my life. I tried talking to a therapist at school, but she wasn't of much help. 6) and last but not least. SERIOUSLY? How can girls forget all those memories together after the break up or even treat them as UN-IMPORTANT? I'm severely upset because of this. I haven't talked to her about those, but my female friends told me that when they break up with their exs, they don't care about those memories. HOW CAN HUMAN BE SO COLD? 7) This world is messed up, and I hate it. I hate my life, and everything in it. I don't know when the next girl's coming, but if she doesn't come soon, I don't know what I'm going to do with myself.
DownNotOut Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 forloveofgosh - take a deep breath - you are obviously angry and bitter about what happened, which is perfectly normal. You're situation is very similar to many on this board and it sucks, and it hurts, but honestly - it's better to have happened now that several years down the road or when you've made an even deeper commitment (marriage, kids, etc.)... Although you think your life sucks, I guarantee you it's better than a LOT of people in the world. If you don't believe me - spend some of your free time volunteering at soup kitchen over the holidays - it will make you feel great helping out other less fortunate than you. Breakups cause a roller coaster of emotions - it's all in how you handle it personally. Like you've probably read a hundred times over - now is the time to start re-claiming your life as a single person. You need to make yourself happy again before you'll even remotely want to start dating again or you will just end up hurting yourself again. Someone that cheats on you is NOT worth you time - so go NC and start moving on with you life. In time, things will get better - you can't control what other people do and it hurts when the people we love hurt us - but you can control your reaction to the situation which is the most important thing to do right now.
nu464 Posted November 23, 2011 Posted November 23, 2011 My bf is very possessive about me.. we are deeply in love with each other since th past 6 years an we are marrying next year. he has his reasons to believe that i cant be trusted coz i had some very dark skeletons hidden in the closet which i told him at the nascent stages of our relationship. He was complely shaken ...he wanted 2 leave me but i begged him not 2. tht was my past n it wd nevr cme back. he 2 lved me 2 much 2 live without me. we moved on but he was always scared tht i might 4get him wn we got away fm each other. i went 2 sme other place to study n 1 day i lied to him fr goin to a guy friend's bday party. we had th biggest fight of our lives tht day an since then he was so disturbed mentally tht he started taking sleeping pills. he s the nicest guy i know but now he hs developed a split personality.. he gets paranoid wen he remembers th numerous mistakes i ve committed .. i want 2 help himself n myself. an no.. plz dont tell me 2 leave him.He's my life!!
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