netchannels Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 So there is this girl, she got out of her serious relationship about 9 months ago. But she was still sleeping with him till about 4 months ago. We have been flirting with each other for the past 7 months and act like a couple. When she was still sleeping with her ex we had a convo about us. She said since we work together we should not do anything. After she broke up with her ex completely we have gotten closer. Everyone things we are going out because we act like that. She always tells me she thinks I'm hot. And about 3 weeks ago she told me if we both are single at 40 lets have kids together. She went on for an hour about how we should raise them. She also did that 2 weeks ago, and this time she went it a jewlery store and she was suggesting wedding rings. Later I generally asked her, what her parents felt about inter-race marriages, in general (we both are of different races). She goes into a very serious tone and say's "for example, if we were to marry they would not have an issue because, you are successful, accomplished goodlooking and etc." So last week I told her I liked her and she did not believe and thought I was joking (I'm quite sarcastic in her defense). I told her that I did and to further my point I kissed her on the check. She starts blushing and say's " You know I'm shy right". So 2 days later I said that again and she said, I don't know if your joking, so lets drink and talk about this. So we both got drunk and she asked me if I liked her, and I said "I don't know". I asked her if she liked me and she said "I like you as a friend, and never thought of you more since we defined our boundaries". Than she say's "we also have to work together". I was like "that fine, I'm no saying I like you. I am saying I don't know". She say's saying I have not thought of that, quite yet. Few months ago she told me "a guy and a girl can't be friends, they are past lovers or future lovers" and that's the only thing I can connect it to.I immediately say " I usually know what yet means". But after we talked about it, we had our faces in each other and we were rubbing our noses with each other and holding hands. It was like we were together. Toward the end of the night, I went to her place and dropped her off, and ask I kissed her on the check the Conner of our lips graze and she say's " That's was almost a kiss" The next day I called to see how she was feeling, and brought up about a serious health issue she mentioned to me about the night before, and told her "I lost sleep over it". She respond's by saying that's cute, but please don't bring it up again, I was drunk and over exaggerated. So I am lost. She told me she did not think of me that way yet. I find that hard to believe. Was that her way of saying let's be friends or her way of saying I need to think about this. Because I felt like she put emphasis on the yet. please help.
phineas Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 dude! Classic attention whore and or severe mental retardation talking like that to a guy she has no interest in dating. She's grooming you to be her lap dog. Trust me on this, I've been there before and heard almost the exact same crap from a chick at work. Let's be honest here, If she really thought you were that great a catch she'd be snagging you up & let working together be damned. what's really going to happen is before you know it, she'll have a new BF & you'll be forgotten or even worse she'll call you up to complain about him. Women that want to date a guy usually jump at the chance when they offer. I'd personally tell her you thought about it & agree co-workers shouldn't date then distance yourself from her. Get "busy" or ask someone else out. But be prepared, once she thinks you won't chase her anymore she may circle around & work full time to get her toy back.
Soxfaninfl Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 She doesn't like you this way, but she is suggesting wedding rings and how you both would raise your children together if you married??? This woman is crazy. She is messy with your mind. Move on! Don't waist anymore time with this woman.
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