bamaguy20 Posted May 24, 2004 Posted May 24, 2004 Whenever i think of her with another guy..a certain guy in particular i know who cant wait to get his hands on her when they are back at school next year and i am not....(i transfered to another school to be closer to friends from home and get out of a bad sitution.)....what can i do to quit feeling this way??? Its not so much the "pain" of breaking up..just the idea of her having sex, etc...with another guy..or like i said this complete low life i know she spends almost all her time with at school.....this guy is bad news and one day shell figure that out, but for the time being it is killing me to think about...we were together for almost 2 years...been apart for a little over three months...pains gotten better, just this last little bit of her is still with me......i get the worst knot in my stomach when i think of her being with someone else....what can i do....its awful...
rd1978 Posted May 25, 2004 Posted May 25, 2004 yeah i saw you posted to mine,, dude you just gotta hang with your buddies keep yourself busy,, its a ****ty feeling to think about her doin ****,, ok but here's the deal go have your fun,, i know its not easy but it will help,, just dont give anyone the wrong idea,, your not ready for a relationship,,i know my ex is going to eventually get a reality check,, or maybe she will end up witht his dude for a while?i dunno but i do know it was my first serious relationship and i need to see what else is out there ,, you learn something diff from everyone you hang with,, your in school ,, most girls are out to have there fun ,, experiment and **** you dont want to be with this girl again untill she has that **** out of her system otherwise your waiting on a time bomb
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 25, 2004 Author Posted May 25, 2004 yeah thats a good point...it could be best that she gets this out of her system now if we are to have a future later on in life.....weve always said wed be together int he end more than likly...however our most recent fight which was the past 3 months coming to a head was huge.....idunno what the deal is now...and i know shes going to run to this guy now that i am completly out of her life...for the time being at least...shes a very weak minded person, and relied on my HEAVILY..and will do the same with this dude...who is bad news...real bad news.....like i said in another post....out of jail on 150K bond for drug trafficking.....not petty ****......but supposedly "hes cleaning up his act''...i dont buy it..shes gonna land real hard...and i know shed be better with me and its completly her loss in this situation..but it still hurts so bad to think of this douche bag getting with her.....does anyone know how long it typically takes to get over someone you were with for almost two yeras...i know there are no set guidelines...just prior experiences i guess is all you can base it on..and i have none as this was my first serious girlfriend.
rd1978 Posted May 25, 2004 Posted May 25, 2004 yeah it does sound like me ,, my girl was a weak person to kinda had the upper hand ,, thats why she is acting going crazy to get away from me,, listen sometimes girl's have some dumb attraction to the bad guy,, not that they want a future,, listen you cant think future anything {ok i should listen to my advice},,, if your stuck in the future your not going to do anything aboutt he present whatever happens happens,, your in school man have your fun,,,nothing serious,, when you do talk to her DO NOT let her know anything is bother you and dont talk about any relationship stuff unless you feel the need to,, just bull**** with her and do your own thing in the mantime,,, TIME HEALS EVERYTHING...preoccupy the mind,, and you know what so what if she was with this dude or someon else,, if she comes back to you in the long run,, thats what matters physcial means nothing compared to emotional..... i know its easier said than done im missing mine to ,,GO HAVE YOUR FUN and another thing you might not be in love it might be more of the missing person,, and her hanging with someone else,, just be glad you dont have to deal with my crap where we go out to the same places and i gotta run into her holding hands with this 6ft tall lanky skinny asswipe with white plastic sneakers haha ,, if he's got anything to the about it the last laugh will be on him
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 25, 2004 Author Posted May 25, 2004 your so right...both our girls are weak minded as ****..and with two complete douche bags...we are better than that..if its meant to be it will be..if not..we are better off that way...you are a big help thanks man..
tom_gbr Posted May 25, 2004 Posted May 25, 2004 i was the same for a while...feeling sick at the thought of my ex girlfriend having sex with another guy....but i though to myself that why torture myself thinking about it?...its not like i can stop it happening and its not like im going to be there watching it so why fantasise about it happening?....because thats what you are doing at the end of the day.
Author bamaguy20 Posted May 25, 2004 Author Posted May 25, 2004 i know..its just so hard not to think about it.....im just so depressed at how this wohle situation with us went...we went from best friends, both in love....to barely talking..to now.....havent spoken in 2 weeks and our last time we spoke was a big arguemtn where we both said **** you....it sucks it has to be like this...i think back on all the good times, and how good things were, and just get sad thinking about them and how ignorant and blind she is being to the real situation at hand, and how in the end she is going to **** herself over by acting this way...
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