FaithInTheDark Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I am 22 and live in a rutal area.going to school rite now. I have alot of friends but still feel really lonely. I have never really had a long term relationship. the longest ive been with a guy was like 3 months... i have really gotten burned by guys. im suprised i still have hope. ive been waking up in the morning feeling so depressed. I think i need a vacation but dont have the money to do so. I like to party to feel better.and release. usually to the point where i get pretty out of it. and wonder if maybe thats the reason why im single?and the hangovers are probably contributing to my depession. maybe guys get turned off from that? i dont know.i am a good person thou and honest. i do have self confindence. but i find the fact im still single..it makes me wonder ..if theres something wrong with me. I am not ugly. i am bigger than most girls..but tall as well. I know u dont need anyone but yourself in life but its hard doing everything alone. I have resorted to online dating..met a few guys and they want to hang out but am not really attracted to them..its not that im snobby ..but its either there or not. I keep my standards. and i try to avoid guys that just want to get laid. is there any tips for a single young girl to meet guys in a small area?
Shaun-Dro Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I am 22 and live in a rutal area.going to school rite now. I have alot of friends but still feel really lonely. I have never really had a long term relationship. the longest ive been with a guy was like 3 months... i have really gotten burned by guys. im suprised i still have hope. ive been waking up in the morning feeling so depressed. I think i need a vacation but dont have the money to do so. I like to party to feel better.and release. usually to the point where i get pretty out of it. and wonder if maybe thats the reason why im single?and the hangovers are probably contributing to my depession. maybe guys get turned off from that? i dont know.i am a good person thou and honest. i do have self confindence. but i find the fact im still single..it makes me wonder ..if theres something wrong with me. I am not ugly. i am bigger than most girls..but tall as well. I know u dont need anyone but yourself in life but its hard doing everything alone. I have resorted to online dating..met a few guys and they want to hang out but am not really attracted to them..its not that im snobby ..but its either there or not. I keep my standards. and i try to avoid guys that just want to get laid. is there any tips for a single young girl to meet guys in a small area? All men want to get laid so you can't avoid that fact. What you should do is get yourself out there and get a man so you can stop the whining.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted November 20, 2011 Author Posted November 20, 2011 im not trying to whine. I simply felt in need to vent my issues. since i dont have anyone else to talk to about them.
El Brujo Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 Also being in a rural area, your chances are sabotaged.
grkBoy Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I am 22 and live in a rutal area.going to school rite now. I have alot of friends but still feel really lonely. I have never really had a long term relationship. the longest ive been with a guy was like 3 months... i have really gotten burned by guys. im suprised i still have hope. ive been waking up in the morning feeling so depressed. I think i need a vacation but dont have the money to do so. I like to party to feel better.and release. usually to the point where i get pretty out of it. and wonder if maybe thats the reason why im single?and the hangovers are probably contributing to my depession. maybe guys get turned off from that? i dont know.i am a good person thou and honest. i do have self confindence. but i find the fact im still single..it makes me wonder ..if theres something wrong with me. I am not ugly. i am bigger than most girls..but tall as well. I know u dont need anyone but yourself in life but its hard doing everything alone. I have resorted to online dating..met a few guys and they want to hang out but am not really attracted to them..its not that im snobby ..but its either there or not. I keep my standards. and i try to avoid guys that just want to get laid. is there any tips for a single young girl to meet guys in a small area? I think right now you're 22. You have time in your life if marriage/kids are in your goals. I will say rural is harder because of the lower population, thus lower pool of singles. IRC333 speaks of his rural/small town area and how many single women seemingly stay single and hold out for a man who will never come. Others simply go long distance and eventually move. I'd tell you first you should decide if your rural area is where you want to spend your life. If not, then don't worry so much about dating and eventually move to a more populated area with a wider selection of single men. If you want to stay, then I'm afraid you're stuck with what's available to you. If you go out and party and get drunk for fun, then you might want to think about "other things". Those environments are like clubs here in the big city. Men there are looking to get laid over anything. If you're trying to find a relationship guy then you might want to look elsewhere. Social organizations, church, cafes (if you have them), etc. Someplace where you're not just meeting sloppy drunk guys while you're trashed.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted November 21, 2011 Author Posted November 21, 2011 yah you guys are totaly right . alot of this situation is based on my small area. thanks for taking the time for repond to my post. im working on it.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 I'm sure you can't help but to feel PRESSURED, just by the fact that you "only go around once in life". Economic times are bad, and OPTIONS are fewer as the result. Don't underestimate the importance of merely STAYING in the so-called batter's box, and continuing to remain totally "eligible" and having a CHANCE at a relationship which really could inspire you through ANYthing you might need to endure in the future. To suddenly alter your standards significantly in the present, just to seemingly 'solve' the near-term loneliness, MIGHT render you trapped in a terrible situation and ineligible to seize the moment when a social opportunity arises soon. I know it feels like your turning "25" will be FOREVER and a day from now, but it really is OK to be single and comfortable in your early 20's. Consider the many other people your age who have already known abusive relationships, multiple children, and all sorts of other limitations on what they MIGHT be able to live and enjoy in the future. The great guys don't go searching for suitable partners within the relationships of other people - they don't have to!! So as long as you're still there, at the plate, with the social bat on your shoulders, and with "possibilities" still due to arrive at any moment, you're not in such a bad spot. Eventually the answer will be to cause yourself to MEET MORE PEOPLE, for any of various planned and accidental reasons. When a chance to do so presents itself, it would be great if you had some personal interests in the way of classes you might take, or clubs you might join. Make sure that your interests are sincere, and let meeting people as a direct result of those interests be secondary. Good luck.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted November 24, 2011 Author Posted November 24, 2011 maybe its the harder you look, it just does'nt happen. love arrives when u least expect it. I am starting to realize i am young and do have my whole life ahead of me. I have been recently observing my friends all tangled up in this draining relationships...constantly clashing with disagreements.. It feels nice to be free in that sense. my last relationship i put totally faith into the man. I thought this was finally my chance to find someone...turns out he was a total POS and really effected my life after the break up...I was going to go with him... in a diffrent area. had quit my job and bought a non refundable bus ticket. he disapeared without a word...and left me high and dry. I think i have gotten over it. but maybe its best to save urself the dissapointment of setting expectations with someone. I have learned alot about people since then. I have always expected the same of what i would do for people. its rarely the case. anyways. i am feeling more grounded about myself.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I am 22 and live in a rutal area.going to school rite now. I have alot of friends but still feel really lonely. I have never really had a long term relationship. the longest ive been with a guy was like 3 months... i have really gotten burned by guys. im suprised i still have hope. ive been waking up in the morning feeling so depressed. I think i need a vacation but dont have the money to do so. I like to party to feel better.and release. usually to the point where i get pretty out of it. and wonder if maybe thats the reason why im single?and the hangovers are probably contributing to my depession. maybe guys get turned off from that? i dont know.i am a good person thou and honest. i do have self confindence. but i find the fact im still single..it makes me wonder ..if theres something wrong with me. I am not ugly. i am bigger than most girls..but tall as well. I know u dont need anyone but yourself in life but its hard doing everything alone. I have resorted to online dating..met a few guys and they want to hang out but am not really attracted to them..its not that im snobby ..but its either there or not. I keep my standards. and i try to avoid guys that just want to get laid. is there any tips for a single young girl to meet guys in a small area? I have to ask...how realistic are your standards?
eleanorhurting Posted November 24, 2011 Posted November 24, 2011 I feel the same. i went through a really bad breakup about a year ago and started "dating" for the first time. EVER. I had never dated. The people i was in relationships with somehow just ended up being my boyfriend. They got to know me, they liked me, we were friends, we got together. I am so frustrated. I dated someone over the summer who completely used me for sex and I was so dumb as to see it. It totally crushed me after I realized how he hurt me and how he used me and worse yet how I let him. I seem to attract men because I am pretty, i am smart, i am educated, but somehow I do something that drives them away and I cant put my finger on it. I try to keep my chin up and tell myself that I need this alone time anyway but honestly meeting so many people that somehow act interested and then go away is really taking a toll on my self esteem. Will I have to settle for someone I dont like??? I dont mind being alone for a long time as long as I know that I will find someone eventually. But I'm starting to think its never going to happen! I mean seriously what am I doing wrong???
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