fificremefarben Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 It's been 4 months NC (his choice) since he left me for another woman after 4 years together. I can't get into the whole story again but if you look at my previous posts it's all there. It's been the toughest four months of my life, but I really thought I'd gotten to a point where I was ok. Then, tonight, I was at a bar in my town (i live in a small town, he lives the next town over but he plays all of his sport and stuff in my town so we have a lot of friends in common) and i was with friends, some of whom also play in the rugby team he plays for in my town. Anyway, they told me that he's moved out of his family home and to Glasgow (our nearest city), sharing an apartment with a friend from work. I know it's not like he's shacked up with the girl he left me for, but it just hit me that he's really leaving behind everything and moving on. I know I should be too, but I'm just finding it so tough. He has literally turned his back on me (he stopped talking to me after sending me a text message a month after he broke up with me, admitting that he'd actually broken up with me for the new girl...again, its all in the previous posts). Before we broke up he'd been going through a tough time and didn't feel like himself at that moment. It just seems like he's running away from everything to do with our old life. Sorry, I know I'm ranting, but it's 2 in the morning and, where I thought I was doing fine, I suddenly find myself in floods of tears all over again. I still can't believe all of this happened. It just seems so unfair that I'm having such a hard time moving on when he seems so happy (new girlfriend, new apartment etc.). I know I need to move on but when I relapse like this it just makes me wonder how I'm ever going to move past this. Sorry for ranting again, and I'm grateful to anyone who took the time to read this.
Author fificremefarben Posted November 20, 2011 Author Posted November 20, 2011 just a note as well, I started talking to a guy tonight at the bar as well and he tried to make a move on me. I just couldn't do it. It still feels wrong. It just seems so unfair again that, after 4 years, he was able to move on and leave me for another girl and I still can't bear the thought of being with anyone else.
ChelseaLS Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 Fificremefarben, 4 months in all honesty is not that long. The emotional roller coaster is not over yet unfortunately. Many people on her have been nearly a year out and get these set backs. I totally understand what you mean about going out and someone making a move on you, and you just can't be bothered and are almost disgusted by it... I get that way. Don't doubt yourself from this set back, you are doing great.
mike588 Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 It's been 4 months NC (his choice) since he left me for another woman after 4 years together. I can't get into the whole story again but if you look at my previous posts it's all there. It's been the toughest four months of my life, but I really thought I'd gotten to a point where I was ok. Then, tonight, I was at a bar in my town (i live in a small town, he lives the next town over but he plays all of his sport and stuff in my town so we have a lot of friends in common) and i was with friends, some of whom also play in the rugby team he plays for in my town. Anyway, they told me that he's moved out of his family home and to Glasgow (our nearest city), sharing an apartment with a friend from work. I know it's not like he's shacked up with the girl he left me for, but it just hit me that he's really leaving behind everything and moving on. I know I should be too, but I'm just finding it so tough. He has literally turned his back on me (he stopped talking to me after sending me a text message a month after he broke up with me, admitting that he'd actually broken up with me for the new girl...again, its all in the previous posts). Before we broke up he'd been going through a tough time and didn't feel like himself at that moment. It just seems like he's running away from everything to do with our old life. Sorry, I know I'm ranting, but it's 2 in the morning and, where I thought I was doing fine, I suddenly find myself in floods of tears all over again. I still can't believe all of this happened. It just seems so unfair that I'm having such a hard time moving on when he seems so happy (new girlfriend, new apartment etc.). I know I need to move on but when I relapse like this it just makes me wonder how I'm ever going to move past this. Sorry for ranting again, and I'm grateful to anyone who took the time to read this. We all have those awful relapses. I'm only 3 months into being dumped, my ex g/f went back to her ex. so I know/feel your pain. A few times I felt like I was over the worst then out of the blue it hits you again,, back to the tears,sadness,depression. Just work thru it, cry all you need,get it out and let it go. In time you and myself will get thru this horrible time. Hang in there,it really does get better. Remember, your not alone!!!
lolita jade Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I wonder why one day we are positive and feel like life is great and new doors are opening for us etc etc. Then another day or hour, We feel like out lives are over and we are alone and everything is sh*t? Its like a bad case of Mood Swinging
Alabama277 Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 We might as well have the same story. Relationship for 4 years, dumped for another girl. My ex just got his first house this month and seems to be having the time of his life with his new girlfriend. Each time I think I have been doing well or have been moving on, it usually comes right back and I'm stuck inside crying. Don't feel alone in this situation. Time eventually does heal all, and although we still have these setbacks I see them as progress. If you ever need to talk feel free to message me.
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