Karie5744 Posted May 24, 2004 Posted May 24, 2004 Hi, I would like to know what to do about this man divorced age 63,(I'm 48) I've been dating for 5 years. Tells all we are lovers, tells me he loves me, and then pushes me aside last week, to house an old school female friend. And tells me when she leaves , he'll come see me. (?) She decides to stay 2 weeks instead of 1, and he calls me to tell me all the fun they are having and getting together with others he graduated with. Then he tells me how she told him he should marry me.. Am I being unreasonable for wanting to dump this man? for not being in his life while the female friend is around him? for having him act as if I'm too young for his "old" friends and wants me to wait till they are gone? Am I the fool here?
bluechocolate Posted May 24, 2004 Posted May 24, 2004 I'm not exactly sure why you want to dump him? Because he had his female friend come to stay? Do you think they're sleeping together? Or is it that you think he's ashamed to have you around? I honestly don't see at your ages that many people would consider the age difference. It shouldn't be an issue. Perhaps he just felt that you wouldn't like to be around with them as they hash over old times & you wouldn't be able to contribute? If my partner was going to get together with a bunch of old school mates I would probably beg to be excluded! Is there more you aren't saying? Because quite honestly I don't see why you should feel a fool or why you should dump him. There doesn't seem to be anything so drastic here that couldn't be talked over.
karie5744 Posted May 24, 2004 Posted May 24, 2004 Ok,, I see your point.. thank you.. I guess I'm being unreasonable ..I just feel he is hiding her from me..or hiding me from them.. like it embarrasses him now around them.... I just wanted to feel more in his life and feel like I'm the outcast for being so much younger... I think if he and I share our beds, and our families.. that he should include me in on this too.. He mentioned to me before she came "if she wants to sleep with me I'll let her" then he said "nah, I'm just kidding"..."guess that just got me boiled up...
bluechocolate Posted May 24, 2004 Posted May 24, 2004 I think if he and I share our beds, and our families.. that he should include me in on this too.. Well there's no good reason why he shouldn't. Have you talked about this with him? Does he know how you feel about it? If not, tell him. And tell him you would like to meet his friends. Clearly he's talking about you to them so why not meet them?
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