Blinked Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Hi all, so thankful I found this site... Really need to vent and hopefully get some insight into my situation. After reading some threads here I know I'm not alone in my drama. Ok, so I didn't really know where to post this because it could easily fit into a couple of different areas. Figured this would be best. I have gone through a fairly devastating break up from my ex bf of a year whom I was very, very much in love with. He cheated on me and left me for this other chick. I have only just in the past month begun to really get over it. Mostly because I started seeing this new guy, we'll call him Curt. Curt and I have been seeing eachother for only 3 weeks, roughly. He's a real sweetheart and I do like him a lot, he's incredibly intense however and sometimes scares me. I don't get a violent vibe at all, but whenever our dates end he makes me feel guilty for having to go home. Or if I can't go out when he would like me too he will guilt trip me. He keeps telling me I'm "The One" and this, though very sweet, scares me... Is it wrong of me to feel that way? I mean after dating me for only two weeks how can he say that with such conviction? He gets angry/upset easily and tells me he thinks he's screwed up. I don't know why he does this. I never (in my opinion) give him a reason to think I don't like him, or that he's done anything wrong. He's asked me to never break up with him. I can't promise somebody that. I mean, wth? As far as I'm concerned we're still in the "getting to know you" phase... I'm kind of concerned. Part 2 - My ex (We'll call him Gus) has somewhat come back into the picture. I was talking to him and he tells me he doesn't think things are going to work out with this other girl. I was pretty much over him. Now feelings are flushing back and I'm super confused. He wanted to come over and I almost agreed but backed out. I don't want to hurt Curt... Though I feel as though no matter what I do I will hurt him because he seems to always assume I'm unhappy with him. Gus... Ugh, pretty much destroyed me. I don't think in a million years I could ever trust him after what he did. How he did it was even worst. The thought of having him back in my life is both wonderful and nauseating to think about. Had he come back months ago I would have not thought twice about having him back, but now where I've had time to clear my head... I just don't know. I don't think i want to go down that road again. This is all over the place and I'm sorry but right now my head is such a mess and I feel physically ill. I just don't know what to do or think. I'm scared of Curt, or maybe for him... He's so attached already, and I do really like him, at the beginnings of dates... He's so funny and charming. He makes me laugh like no one else and he's so sweet he'd give you a toothache. Come the end though... He gets depressed and despondent. He makes me feel really bad about having to continue with my life. I'm so lost.
FitChick Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Tell Curt you can't offer him what he is looking for in a relationship and you aren't good enough for him, he could do better so he should find someone more intense. He sounds like a future stalker. Tell him you are going back to your boyfriend. He will be hurt regardless but the longer you wait the worse it will get. Do it sooner rather than later. But don't go back to the boyfriend, start dating other guys. You don't need either of them.
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