Tani89 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 (edited) I APOLOGIZE FOR THE LENGTH & WRONG GRAMMAR. BUT PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT AND HELP ME. IT MEANS A LOT TO ME. THANK YOU. we've been dating for 4years.it was me who first proposed him.that time he said he likes me. Coz i was so loving nd caring.But he always wanted to marry someone beautiful & i'm not the type of girl he wanted to get married.i'm not the type of girl he can call his dream-girl.but eventually he fell in love.after 1year of sufferings i got him.he confessed his love.and our happy days begin.next 1 year we lived a really happy life.but after that things start to change.he became so conservative nd he didn't like me to go out.not even with my family.but he used to go out with his friends,spend nights partying and enjoying.nd he also start to fight with me almost every day.what he used to do is make me cry then switch off his phone.but the next morning he behaved like nothing happened.and he visit my home to make things right.this things happened almost a year.next thing he did was to complain me that by choosing me he made a huge compromise.he start to go out with other girls even spend night with them and he said they did nothing just watched tv.i trusted him so blindly.but i was to hurt from inside.he started to break my self confidence by saying i'm ugly and other things.so i made a fake facebook account and start to chat with some other guy.but after 1month of chatting i stopped talking with this other guy coz i felt guilty inside.we only chat about random things.nothing intimate.but last month my boyfriend fight with me and said he want to break up with me.i was so hurt.i lost myself.he did'nt call me for 3days.so my friends told to keep myself busy and talk with someone else.so i start to talk with dat internet guy.i told him about my relationship with my boyfriend.i 1ly talked with him for 3days.after that i stopped using that number and things between me and my boyfriend got better again.but this month he find out that i've been using another number and talking with this other guy.he couldn't believe.at first i lied to him.but then he called that guy and find out the truth.he said he never thought i could do something like that.i tried to make him realize that nothing had happened between me and that other guy.we only talked through phone.i hide this from him because i dont wanna loose him.i was so sorry.he got so angry he beat me so hard broke my specs.still i cried and tried to make him understand.but i failed.i lost all his trust.and he said he wanna quit.i cant live without him.what i do to gain his trust back again?its been 4days now.he stopped talking with me.i begged for our relation but he just refused to hear anything from me.was my fault to huge that he broke up with me? thanx for reading.this is my first post to any site.please help me out. Edited November 19, 2011 by Tani89
daphne Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I don't know if this is a real post, but if it is, you don't need to regain his trust back. You need to leave him. It sounds like he's cheating on you, and at the very least (which is worse,) he is trying to cage you up and damaging your self esteem so you'll put up with any abuse he throws your way. If you stay, you will always be insecure and never feel worthy. That's how he likes it. If you leave, you have a better chance of actually caring about yourself.
Author Tani89 Posted November 20, 2011 Author Posted November 20, 2011 This is a real post...and i knw its easy to say leave him but not possible for me.i tried a lot.i think i'm dying.i can't eat,can't sleep or do anything.i wish he 1ly realize how much i love him.i can't live without him.thnx for ur concern anyway
oaks Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I APOLOGIZE FOR THE LENGTH & WRONG GRAMMAR. BUT PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT AND HELP ME. IT MEANS A LOT TO ME. THANK YOU. Splitting the wall-of-text into paragraphs would make it much easier to read! Anyway, the person you've been dating for 4 years beat you, so you should leave him. It's really that simple. You might consider contacting the police, too.
KathyM Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 You need to respect yourself and expect more from a man. You deserve someone who will treat you well and be kind to you. Why waste your time on someone who is bad to you? There are plenty of men out there--why waste your time on a bad one? Let the relationship be over and find someone who would be good to you. Life is too short to waste it with a violent cheating man who has no respect for you.
Author Tani89 Posted November 20, 2011 Author Posted November 20, 2011 I'm 23...we're planning to get married next year...today he called and said he will continue our relation if i promise to do whatever he ask me to do..he said he is sorry that he beat me...he just lost all his control...he said he trusted me so blindly and that's why he couldn't blv tht i've cheated(!!!) on him..plz guys help me...i'm so confused now..its just that i can't even think my life without him...he is asking me to leave my home and marry him...but i think he is saying all this to take revenge....
KathyM Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I'm 23...we're planning to get married next year...today he called and said he will continue our relation if i promise to do whatever he ask me to do..he said he is sorry that he beat me...he just lost all his control...he said he trusted me so blindly and that's why he couldn't blv tht i've cheated(!!!) on him..plz guys help me...i'm so confused now..its just that i can't even think my life without him...he is asking me to leave my home and marry him...but i think he is saying all this to take revenge.... Don't marry the guy. He's an abusive, cheating, controlling @sswad. Don't give yourself over to a life of misery with a bad man. Any man who would beat a woman cannot be trusted to behave himself. He will tell you promises to get you back, but they won't last. He will abuse you again. He has shown his true colors. His actions show who he is, not his promises. Find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated.
daphne Posted November 22, 2011 Posted November 22, 2011 i think i'm dying.i can't eat,can't sleep or do anything.i wish he 1ly realize how much i love him.i can't live without him.thnx for ur concern anyway This is why you should leave him. In a healthy relationship, your self esteem is not so tied to someone loving you or withholding it that you want to die without it. This guy is no good. I wish you would talk to a therapist. It sounds like you have a love addiction.
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