What does she think about me?

[tomhung]

So i met this girl 2 weeks ago at a party, and right off the bat we spent an entire weekend together. We did everything from hanging out, talking, making out, fooling around, the lot. I left sunday night cos i had an early start the next day.

 

The next 2 days were strange for me, i had difficulty adjusting to not being with her - it felt like we had a real attachment, not just a sexual one. It was painful not being with her

 

I then stayed the wednesday round her house that week, and again the friday night but didnt stay cos she had an early start saturday. Again the 2 days apart were freaking me out, but i handled it a little better.

 

This is is the twist: Something has changed slightly since then. She's still into me, because she texts me a fair bit, but this week we've only hung out once when she came to visit me in my building for a bit (we go to college together). We talked a LOT last week when we were hanging out, and she says shes been in some crap relationships in the past and fancies herself as a commitophobe. But she says she really does like me. She seems really busy, as she has all these commitments and exams and work to do, but part of me can't help but feel she's being a it distant. She texts me sometimes about meeting up, but it often seems to be when it's convenient to her, like when she's coming to or from college.

 

I guess i can't just expect her to drop everything in her life for this guy she just met; but it seems like i'm always the one who asks if i can come round and see her, and she often says she can't.

 

It feels like theres something good here, and we've both never spent that amount of time with someone we just met like that. I need to talk to her about this, but i'd love to know from you guys how i should handle this/what she thinks about our situation.

 

Thanks!

 

Tom

[Leegh]

I would wait a week or two to contact her again and let her wonder if you're still interested. If she contacts you, try not to reply immediately. Maybe she needs to notice that you haven't contacted her; then she may reflect on the good times you and she had. Absence can make the heart grow fonder.

[tomhung]

I would wait a week or two to contact her again and let her wonder if you're still interested.

 

I've though about this, but i wonder if its playing the game too much. Something good is happening here, and i just don't want to let it fade away like some girls ive seen before.

 

I hope she's not playing the same game. It sucks!

[mammamia1]

If she contacts you, try not to reply immediately.

I agree with this part.

I think the situation isn't bad at all. Don't freak out. Take it easy. If you pursue her too much too fast, her interest will fade too. Keep cool. Calm calm calm.

[toastboy]

Take a deep breath, calm down and stop acting so desperate! She probably wouldn't have spent so much time with you if she wasn't interested but acting desperate and needy will very quickly ruin your chances.