irc333 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 There's this one woman I know, she's actually kind of recently married, for about a year. She's always deliberately wearing cleavage revealing outfits and tightly fitting dresses, she's kinda got a "goth" look about her. I kinda feel sorry for the married sap because he's decided to marry a woman who comes off as being single in this manner. And of course, on FB, she has loaded up her pages with somewhat explicit photos. I met her husband, a rather reserved gentleman, rather average looking surprisingly, I couldn't even see the two of them together either. Does this mean she is disrespecting her marriage?
anne1707 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 A few things come to mind If she has always worn clothes like this then it would seem likely that her husband finds her attractive dressed like this plus why should she change her clothes because she is married - especially if her husband likes them. A low cut top does not automatically mean she is after other men. If she has not always worn these clothes then how does her husband feel about them. That is what matters. Maybe he has encouraged her to dress like this. Or yes, it could mean she is out to catch the attention of other men. All in all, you really cannot tell what is going on based on what you have posted.
oaks Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Does this mean she is disrespecting her marriage? No. Would you want your wife to wear a burka?
dasein Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Never assume the parameters of people' relationships today. Just an example, I know a couple who both get off on her having sex with relative strangers. Not my thing, but takes all types.
Author irc333 Posted November 19, 2011 Author Posted November 19, 2011 No. Would you want your wife to wear a burka? No, but I would not want her to wear a corsette either. (which is what she wears a lot) Seems here wardrobe consists of corsettes, puch up bras, push together bras, etc. I guess she fools guys into thinking she's single, and thus gets hit on a lot. The only think I can think of that justifies this kind of attire, is that could be possibly swingers. I just honestly find it sexually frustrating that I cannot lust after another man's wife.
oaks Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Fair enough that it's not what you would want your wife to wear, but I can't help but think that this thread has fallen out of a timewarp from the 1920s or something.
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 There's this one woman I know, she's actually kind of recently married, for about a year. She's always deliberately wearing cleavage revealing outfits and tightly fitting dresses, she's kinda got a "goth" look about her. I kinda feel sorry for the married sap because he's decided to marry a woman who comes off as being single in this manner. And of course, on FB, she has loaded up her pages with somewhat explicit photos. I met her husband, a rather reserved gentleman, rather average looking surprisingly, I couldn't even see the two of them together either. Does this mean she is disrespecting her marriage? She's not disrespecting her marriage unless her husband doesn't like her behavior and she still does what she does. Also, opposites attract. While she is wild and likes to wear revealing clothes, her man is more conservative. Maybe it works for them.
Author irc333 Posted November 19, 2011 Author Posted November 19, 2011 Apparently, there's dating advice given about "Dressing single" since there's no advice on dressing married. But it ties into those who are unattached, that don't dress like they're single, usually wear baggy clothes and aren't really noticed much. Like typically, a woman who wants to reveal her singlehood would show cleavage or some kind of longer v-neck, or a bit more "form fitting" clothes than a married person would. The advice given is contrary to what I'm seeing here. lol
ShannonMI Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Apparently, there's dating advice given about "Dressing single" since there's no advice on dressing married. But it ties into those who are unattached, that don't dress like they're single, usually wear baggy clothes and aren't really noticed much. Like typically, a woman who wants to reveal her singlehood would show cleavage or some kind of longer v-neck, or a bit more "form fitting" clothes than a married person would. The advice given is contrary to what I'm seeing here. lol There is nothing wrong with being married or attached and showing some cleavage. Maybe her husband likes it. You have no idea. And what man wants his wife or girlfriend to dress like a frump? Not many, I can tell you that. 1
xxoo Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Apparently, there's dating advice given about "Dressing single" since there's no advice on dressing married. But it ties into those who are unattached, that don't dress like they're single, usually wear baggy clothes and aren't really noticed much. Like typically, a woman who wants to reveal her singlehood would show cleavage or some kind of longer v-neck, or a bit more "form fitting" clothes than a married person would. The advice given is contrary to what I'm seeing here. lol This assumes that the only reason to dress sexy is to attract a new man. Should my H to stop wearing his fitted Ts that show off his physique?
SoleMate Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Maybe every woman should just go straight from wedding dress to burlap bag....barefoot....dirt rubbed in the snarled hair.....etc.
anne1707 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Maybe every woman should just go straight from wedding dress to burlap bag....barefoot....dirt rubbed in the snarled hair.....etc. Barefoot? No. That's too much flesh on show.
FitChick Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 The husband probably wants other men to envy him with his sexy wife, especially if he seems like the type who would never get that type of woman. I agree that most men, except the very insecure, don't want frumpy wives, so I find it sad that so many women let themselves go after marriage.
grkBoy Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 There's this one woman I know, she's actually kind of recently married, for about a year. She's always deliberately wearing cleavage revealing outfits and tightly fitting dresses, she's kinda got a "goth" look about her. I kinda feel sorry for the married sap because he's decided to marry a woman who comes off as being single in this manner. And of course, on FB, she has loaded up her pages with somewhat explicit photos. I met her husband, a rather reserved gentleman, rather average looking surprisingly, I couldn't even see the two of them together either. Does this mean she is disrespecting her marriage? Um...no. You're just living in the past. You've made topics like this before. You just have a very hard line between what you perceive as "right" or "wrong" in these matters, and it's shown your mentality is very "old school" where married women or women in relationships don't mingle with other men or dress provocatively unless it's in the bedroom with her man. Nothing wrong with your mentality, but I will say it's a bit outdated and thus you should accept that many do not or will not think as you do.
kvinna Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 Don't a lot of men complain about women letting themselves go and not looking hot anymore after marriage? So what's the problem with a woman who still looks great after tying the knot?
xxoo Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 Yep, the rules for attracting a man and keeping a man are basically the same. Men marry women hoping that they won't change.
carhill Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 OP, how does she behave, especially around other men who react to her 'dressing' style? Behavior is the key to attention whoring and emotional vampirism. The costume is largely irrelevant.
monkey00 Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I know a married woman that does this, she dresses up and goes to weekly social events with her lady friends and meets other men there. Now her husband is a body builder and english...why would she want to cheat on that? She goes to these events to pull in clients because she sells insurance, simple enough. She just uses the AW thing to her advantage.
the wizard Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 I guess the OP's issue is that women who are not single are actively seeking the attention of other men ie. by showing off physique, skin. Depends. Maybe she just likes looking and feeling sexy. When I wear my fitted T's and V-Necks to work, its not to be looked at but rather cause I like how it looks on me. But if shes wearing it to garner attention from other men then yeah she's a slut.
chphan Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 What is AW? I was about to ask the same thing. I have no idea what AW is so have no idea what this topics means in that regards.
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