k100danny Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Ive been split up from my ex aroun 3 and a half months now. i found it hard to move on and even though i went on a few dates with a girl i thought was a nice person i didnt feel i was ready to date someone. Now i do and ive met someone who seems very nice and im looking forward to it. I dont really go on dates as such and all my other relationships have kind of happened through being friends or working together. Im a bit nervous about it and i just wondered what peoples thoughts are on first dates? where is best for a first date? I know a lot of people who say you shouldnt reveal too much on a first date and scare people away but then ive also heard the best way is just to be totally honest about what you want and are looking for right from the first date?
blueskyday Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Congrats! I recently started dating again. Go into it with the idea of having fun. Don't start out with a fancy dinner and movie...zzzzz...and you will be on the spot, conversationally speaking, especially if it is a nice restaurant and you don't feel comfortable. Go to a fair, festival, or major outdoor shopping area with a lake, fountain, something of interest. Go to one spot and have a quick drink. Walk around. Walk to the next place for a fun, casual dinner...like a nice french bistro. (Scope this stuff out ahead of time.).... Then catch a movie if there is a theater there, and time permits. Walk around. Grab an ice-cream. Think: Fun, positive. Don't worry about subjects that should be off-topic. Simply be honest without going into detail. Say something positive at the end of your answer, and move on. Focus on sharing who you are, what you think, what's in your heart, what you hope for, what moves you.... Above all, compliment her. Ask her questions about her life, her desires, her hopes....It's a two way street. Smile and joke. Don't take yourself too seriously, and she won't feel like she has to take herself too seriously.
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