Feelsgoodman Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 So, over the years, I've discovered much to my chagrin, and finally conceded that the 1) vast majority of people cannot date someone they have no physical attraction to and 2) what most people find physically attractive is pretty narrow. If it has taken you years to realize something that's common sense to most people, it will likely take the rest of your life to understand why women won't give a straightforward answer to your two questions...
Fondue Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 I'd be the first to admit that I'm shallow. I've known some great, GREAT women. The personality, the humor, the nerdy types, I've known them all. I've even met women with all those attributes! But unfortunately, if there is no physical attraction, I simply can't get involved. It's a flaw of mine and I admit it. I honestly don't give a crap what anyone thinks of it, either. Each and every one of us has preferences, regardless of what they are. There are limits to whom we will date or be sexually active with. You may be the most pure person in the world, but you will still have a standard of some kind. There is nothing wrong with it.
iris219 Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 Average looking people are genuinely attracted to other average looking people. Unattractive people are genuinely attracted to other unattractive people. There have been studies done to confirm this. If you feel like no woman is attracted to you, I can almost guarantee you are trying to date women who are too attractive. Or, women DO find you attractive, but don’t like your personality. I disagree that what people find attractive is narrow. I think it’s actually very broad. My friends often think the guys I find attractive look homeless and I often think the men they find attractive are gross. Attraction is a funny, complicated thing. It’s not about who’s objectively the hottest. If you are confident, intelligent, interesting, witty, have good social skills, and have a warm, caring personality (this is different from desperate pushover personality), you will attract women. You might even attract women much more attractive than yourself if you have these qualities.
Author jobaba Posted November 26, 2011 Author Posted November 26, 2011 (edited) If it has taken you years to realize something that's common sense to most people, it will likely take the rest of your life to understand why women won't give a straightforward answer to your two questions... Average looking people are genuinely attracted to other average looking people. Unattractive people are genuinely attracted to other unattractive people. There have been studies done to confirm this. If you feel like no woman is attracted to you, I can almost guarantee you are trying to date women who are too attractive. Or, women DO find you attractive, but don’t like your personality. I disagree that what people find attractive is narrow. I think it’s actually very broad. My friends often think the guys I find attractive look homeless and I often think the men they find attractive are gross. Attraction is a funny, complicated thing. It’s not about who’s objectively the hottest. If you are confident, intelligent, interesting, witty, have good social skills, and have a warm, caring personality (this is different from desperate pushover personality), you will attract women. You might even attract women much more attractive than yourself if you have these qualities. New revelations on all this stuff... Edited November 26, 2011 by jobaba
Wolf18 Posted November 26, 2011 Posted November 26, 2011 (edited) QUOTE=iris219;3746500]Average looking people are genuinely attracted to other average looking people. Unattractive people are genuinely attracted to other unattractive people. There have been studies done to confirm this. If you feel like no woman is attracted to you, I can almost guarantee you are trying to date women who are too attractive. Or, women DO find you attractive, but don’t like your personality. I disagree that what people find attractive is narrow. I think it’s actually very broad. My friends often think the guys I find attractive look homeless and I often think the men they find attractive are gross. Attraction is a funny, complicated thing. It’s not about who’s objectively the hottest. If you are confident, intelligent, interesting, witty, have good social skills, and have a warm, caring personality (this is different from desperate pushover personality), you will attract women. You might even attract women much more attractive than yourself if you have these qualities. You must live in the same neighborhood as these people : http://playtoheal.files.wordpress.com/2011/05/mrrog.jpg Can't believe people are still giving this stupid "be confident and smart" advice when so many confident and smart guys are sexually invisible to women and so many awkward, dumb, and shy guys who happen to be very good looking get panties thrown at them. maybe it's karma? [/Quote] Women will look for any excuse, even if it's a supernatural explanation, instead of just coming right out and admitting that it's about looks. I don't know why this is like pulling teeth? I wouldn't even be on this forum if it wasn't for women always lying about why they make their romantic choices. The real culprit was getting manual labor jobs after high school that leave me too tired to get really good work outs every day, so I lost weight and my chest/shoulders got narrower as well as my six pack is now ..a 4 pack? The fact that this makes such a big difference in whether women like you or not makes it really difficult for me not to despise them. Edited November 26, 2011 by Wolf18
Necromancer Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 You must live in the same neighborhood as these people : http://playtoheal.files.wordpress.com/2011/05/mrrog.jpg Can't believe people are still giving this stupid "be confident and smart" advice when so many confident and smart guys are sexually invisible to women and so many awkward, dumb, and shy guys who happen to be very good looking get panties thrown at them. Women will look for any excuse, even if it's a supernatural explanation, instead of just coming right out and admitting that it's about looks. I don't know why this is like pulling teeth? I wouldn't even be on this forum if it wasn't for women always lying about why they make their romantic choices. The real culprit was getting manual labor jobs after high school that leave me too tired to get really good work outs every day, so I lost weight and my chest/shoulders got narrower as well as my six pack is now ..a 4 pack? The fact that this makes such a big difference in whether women like you or not makes it really difficult for me not to despise them. I am a living proof that what your saying it true!,beeing confident will help you much......BUT you will get rejected alot,while you aint 8-10 i am like 6.5/7 or at least i think so,i have never had a girlfriend and im 17 I have been rejeted from my female friend,she told me that i was funny and all that ****,we went partying together few weeks in a row but see chouldn´t give me more because of my looks that was her answer. she´s like 8.5 so.... And i have seen shy guys with no personalities get alot more girls that i have just because of their looks,Girls are shallow. And trust me i am CONFIDENT.
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