BrkHeart Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 All feedback is about this situation would be appreciated ... I have a friend who lives about 3 hours away from me ... we get together to hiking, have a beer, stuff like that maybe once every two or three months and bs on the phone for an hour or two every two or three weeks. So last weekend we were doing hiking and she mentioned getting away for a few days this new years to someone warm and away from people. I am always down for some kind of adventure and have the financial means to do this. So does she. Anyway she recently starting see someone "exclusively". I believe they met in September and have been "exclusive" since early October. I am single, but when we started planning this a little, I just came right out with and asked her what her boyfriend has to say about this. She said he wanted to spend new years with her, but also understands she is a bit stressed about some stuff and understands if she wants to get away. I have not met him, and it is not like her and I are old friends. We have known each other for about two years. So my question is where is something like this coming from? There is a part of me that is defiantly down for going. I don't have any other plans at the moment and could use some beach time for myself, but there is another part of that just thinks this wouldn't be right, I mean if I were this other person, I wouldn't be cool with someone else doing this with my girlfriend. Comments on what people think might be going through her mind would be appreciated.
2sunny Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 my question is: do you plan to try having sex with this friend?
Author BrkHeart Posted November 19, 2011 Author Posted November 19, 2011 I would not initiate anything with her other, she can be pretty flirtatious but she is like that with a lot of people. To be honest I don't know I would react if she started something with me, sitting here right now I would say I would tell her to back off but in the moment I am not really sure if I would act that way ...
2sunny Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 then it's better not to go. it could ruin what good you two do have together. it also creates negative energy to step in on someone else's relationship - i wouldn't recommend it.
phineas Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 If i'm going to do that with a woman we'd better be having sex. Otherwise i'm sure I have better things to do for far less money.
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