Help!!!!

[Babyribs]

how can someone love you but not want to be with you? my ex and i broke up almost 2 month ago, we have been talking for about a week and all i keep hearing is "i love you with all of my heart but i made this decesion with my mind not my heart" i dont get this at all. can someone please tell me what i can do to get my relationship back, can someone please help me understand why if i am being loved so much, why can we just be together.

 

any input would be helpful

thank you all

[sid3]

I think what you should do is nothing, except put her needs before yours. Neediness and desperation aren't attractive qualities. I pushed when my x left me, life may be different had I not reacted with my emmotions. I was told to give her time and space. I couldn't let go. In retrospect, it was good advice and some of the regrets I have wouldn't exsist had I taken the advice. I hope things work out for you. It is alot easier to push someone away than it is to pull them back(impossible).

[Babyribs]

so what you are saying is give her space and leave her alone and maybe just maybe she will come back.

 

how much space are we talking about? how long? and why?

[pupit]

Your ex loves you, but what am thinking is that, your ex is scared to get a broken heaart, either your ex don't know how to go about it or is tring. So just give him some time.

 

hope this help

[LostWithoutYou]

yes...if she wants her space and her time, give it to her, for how long? only she knows that...Don't call her let her call you and don't pressure her because the more you pressure her the more you going to drive her away from you. good luck

[sid3]

There are alot of good posts here that may help you. Several that talk about the time and space idea. Also look at lostnchicago's no contact post, it makes alot of sense. Hard as it is, listen to advice that tells you not to push, it is the worst thing you can do!