is the honemoon stage over for him? what comes next?

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I am a little confused about this, hopefully somebody can give me an insight...been dating a guy for about 6 weeks...I think we both found ourselves in love with each other like already after a few dates...we both said we were in love, and it was amazing...a few dates after we had sex..it was all feeling amazing, we were seeing each other every single day, and he was always the one texting me and wanting to see me....now, a few weeks later, things went down a bit...I am just wondering what is it exactly that is happening...he is still texting me, but less....he still wants to see me, but not everyday...now it has become more my initiative to ask him whether he wants to see me, and I text him more during the day....a few days ago i told him, that i like giving him my attention, but i like receiving it as well, and it pisses me off when I am the only one asking to see him and texting him......he told me he was really sorry and he didnt want to piss me off...the next few days he is texting me first and everything is going fine again....but still its not the same excitement and butterflies (from his side)...what is it with him? he tells me that he is in love with me, I can totally feel that he is in love when im next to him....he kisses my hand, he hugs me all the time, we are playing those childish fighting games and all that....when I am next to him its all amazing and I can totally feel that he loves me....the problem is when we dont see each other......he doesnt text me that much and he doesnt have the initiative to see me...even though, if i ask to see him, he is always there for me....so is his love slowly fading away? or is he just more used to me now, and what should I do? really feel like he is the one for me, I have never fallen in love so fast and so deeply for a guy, and for the first time in my life I really do not want to lose him..please anybody, i need an advice! thank you!

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maybe somebody has already been throgh this? i just care too much about this guy..

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How old are you.

 

How long did you know each other before you started dating?

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im 19 and hes 20....oh it went really fast for both of us....we met and then after like 4 dates we said to each other we were totally in love..so we've known each other for about 2 months and thats about the time we are dating..

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You aren't going to like the answer.

 

This is infatuation. Flares up fast; dwindles away quickly.

 

It has no substance.

 

Now that you've found each other, consummated your attraction, it's time to figure the boundaries in the relationship, how much individuality vs how much togetherness, how much sharing vs how much privacy. How to adjust all the other parts of your lives (friends, school, career, family, church, hobbies) so that this new element (your relationship) doesn't drive out all the other elements you value.

 

He's pulling away, making these adjustments. You aren't going to be the center of his life, and you can't make him the center of yours. You may be feeling, "This love changes everything." But it doesn't.

 

If you aren't careful you are going to be clingy and needy in your quest to regain the exhilaration. And if you get needy and clingy, you will drive him away.

 

He's likely stepping back because he feels his life is out of balance, you, you, you all the time. Not many 20 year old males want their entire lives to revolve around their girlfriend (altho there are some, but there's an unpleasant name for them). But lots of 19 year old girls want their entire world to revolve around some boy.

 

Not saying that you won't spend the rest of your life together, but whether you do or don't, you still have to work on other aspects of your life and development.

[dasein]

After the "honeymoon" phase comes the plain old "moon" phase where you are constantly seeing each others' bare asses while using the bathroom at the same time.