AlexisMacabre Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 my husband and i separated for the 3rd time october 12 and well i was heart broken, he told me he didnt love me anymore and didnt wanna be together, i was having a hard time and he already started seeing another girl, who is married also and has 2 kids but i think her and her husband are separated also, they went to school together when they were younger and were friends, so i was upset about it of course but today i learned to let go and accept it. he told me we were never going to be together again, he couldnt do it anymore and he didnt love me in a romantic/couple way anymore so theres nothing i can do. the whole 4 years we were together were the best, i miss him everyday but i told him to be happy with this new girl and he said he appreciated it. were still going to be friends or try to be, i love him and i have to let him go and be happy even if its never gunna be with me. who is Alexis without Tom? i dont know yet but i will figure this out as i go. its going to be a tough road but i have to do it, my husband was a great guy who just lost himself and ill never forget him ever. i held his hands, gave him a hug and a last kiss on the cheek, i this new girl is good to him, idk when our divorce papers will be filed since money is tight right now but maybe by income tax time, he will be able to do it.
KathyM Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I'm so sorry. I know it's very hard to see someone you love making a life with someone else. I know it's very hard to reconcile after a separation, since one or both partners often end up making a connection with someone else while separated. My sister went through the same thing with her 2nd husband--they loved each other very much, but after a year of separation and trying to reconcile, it never quite worked out for them. He had connected with other women during their separation, and it was difficult for him to let that go completely. I wish it could have worked out for you.
carhill Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 My sympathies. At the very least, you can go out of this knowing you gave it your best shot. BTW, check down at the courthouse or on their web site to see if you qualify for reduced filing fees and help with the process. I know our jurisdiction offers aid for filing dependent on income, as well as 'self-help', the latter which we availed ourselves of; essentially, court workers who assist in making sure the filings are correct. They also referred us to no-cost mediation to prepare a settlement agreement. Ask around and see what you can find. Even with a tax refund to throw at a D, why spend more than you have to? Good luck
Author AlexisMacabre Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 thank you everyone, its tough but i love him so im letting him go. i really wish it would have been different but it is what it is. he doesnt wanna reconcile but i always will want to which sucks but whatever. ill get through this.
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