Brillare Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 A little over a year ago, I went on a business trip. It was nice to get to know my co-workers on a more personal level, but one stood out. We ended up having (what I thought) was a one night stand. Due to certain home issues, I ended up quitting that job a week or two later and I lost his number. I can't count the number of times I have thought about that trip and smiled. For the longest time, I kept it "my dirty little secret" and really had no expectations of ever seeing him again, although I thought about it often. About three months ago, he came into my work unexpectedly. I was thrilled when he immediately gave me a hug and got my number. Can you say butterflies? He started calling me every night just before he went to sleep and would text me throughout the day. We've hung out a few times since then, and every time we do, it is... I don't even know the words. We are each other's personal vacation from real life. It is almost as if we have known each other for years. Not to mention the pure animal magnetism . The way he looks at me sometimes.. well the butterflies never go away. Sounds like a dream, right? The catch- he is a workaholic (and a smooth talker) and I have hit rock bottom and am at a loss as to how to fix life. Due to my current life circumstances, I am not really dating material. We don't talk as often (now it is every 2-3 days), but when we do the "magic" is still there. I have tried to distance myself from him to save him from being caught up in my less-than-perfect life because I know he deserves better. But it seems as though every time I delete his number, he calls. Everything around me reminds me of him (from my fuzzy housecoat that looks so much like his to my favorite games [hours spent cuddled in his bed talking about random things]), and I simply cannot get him out of my head. Being realistic, should I cut it off and let him go on with his life (young, business minded, high self-standards, and doing damn well for himself)? I keep thinking of Disney movies, except I'm the street urchin and he's Prince Charming.
Hanther Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Take it slow (although it seems it may be too late for that) so that you have time to get your life together WHILE also progressing in a relationship with him. When I met my guy, I was still recovering from getting hit by a car. I could barely walk (in fact the night we met, I spent 3 hours practicing walking just so I wouldn't have to meet him on crutches). I was obviously not working, had dropped out of school, living with my mom. NOT a good dating prospect. When we started dating, I got the motivation I needed to get my life back together. I took out a small loan to get my own apartment, and got into a community college. Now I can walk just fine, I have a steady job, I'm transferring to a great school, we just bought a gorgeous house together, and we are engaged. You CAN work on yourself while getting to know him. Just take it slow and give yourself time to do so.
Author Brillare Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) There are certain...complexities that I neglected to mention. To avoid going on a rant, I'll give you the short version. He (lets call him Talledega) and I both have kids. His lives across the US and he is (although it may be was now because of issues with his ex) and mine stays with me. My son's father and I have been split up for a good while, but he still clings like a wet cat no matter how hard I try to push him away (clings to me, mind you, not his son. He loves his son, but I honestly think he wants me back more than his son. He refuses to take our son anywhere without me present, etc.). To the point, it is up in the air if Talledega will be moving and opening his own business over there. I was supposed to move myself (got let down there, so much for trusting family) recently, so this is a bit of an extension for us. I'm just at a loss if I should even pursue a relationship (very slowly of course) or leave it as a fling and let it die. Edited November 18, 2011 by Brillare
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