jobaba Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I met up with one of my female friends recently and we hung out one on one for a while. I believe her to be quite attractive. She's got a pretty face. She's a slightly larger woman, but is not obese by any stretch. She reminds me of Sara Rue, a little bit, the larger version (she's not white though). http://www.google.com/imgres?q=sara+rue&um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&sa=N&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1600&bih=781&tbm=isch&tbnid=uRJ0ALVISF8xBM:&imgrefurl=http://www.sara-rue.com/%3Fp%3D384&docid=juezBtFAVra7FM&imgurl=http://www.sara-rue.com/images/sr/jc.jpg&w=300&h=424&ei=UJbGTonUOeXk0QGc-5UX&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=291&vpy=370&dur=3377&hovh=267&hovw=189&tx=127&ty=182&sig=106747106848394077863&page=4&tbnh=130&tbnw=100&start=149&ndsp=48&ved=1t:429,r:25,s:149 She's been having trouble finding men to date her recently, and this kind of surprised me. Apparently, men at bars don't hit on her, internet dating yields only older guys, men she meets through friends aren't immediately interested, and she doesn't get hit on in public. I've just been so into the mindset that any vaguely attractive woman gets so much male attention that she can afford to pick and choose from a variety of desirable men, which makes it harder for me. Maybe it's time to rethink that and go talk to that halfway decent girl at the supermarket or bar. Maybe she doesn't get hit on all the time or at all. Food for thought.
norajane Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I've just been so into the mindset that any vaguely attractive woman gets so much male attention that she can afford to pick and choose from a variety of desirable men, which makes it harder for me. That is self-defeating. If you don't try, you can't win. And it's not true. It's a bell curve. There is a small subset of women who have lots of guys hitting on them all the time, everywhere. There is a small subset of women who are never hit on at all anywhere at any time. The majority fall into the vast middle, where it is hit or miss most of the time. You can do certain things to increase your odds - dressing well, make-up and hair, being flirtatious with everyone, working out so that you are fit, going out frequently so that you meet more people, putting yourself in environments where you are more likely to meet people who are more likely to be interested in you (sharing similar interests). But there are no guarantees.
somedude81 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 So she's not white, and "slightly larger." I can already sense some trouble right there. How old is she? As for your food for thought, healthy weight white girls and certain other races do get hit on all the time. I really don't want to make this about race, though I'd say that race only matters when a person is trying to date out of it. Meaning, if she's a bigger non-white girl trying to date white guys, that might be her problem.
Author jobaba Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 And it's not true. It's a bell curve. There is a small subset of women who have lots of guys hitting on them all the time, everywhere. There is a small subset of women who are never hit on at all anywhere at any time. The majority fall into the vast middle, where it is hit or miss most of the time. So she's not white, and "slightly larger." I can already sense some trouble right there. How old is she? She's Asian. And not old. And Asian women from what I've seen have little trouble pulling guys of other races. But that's not the point. The point is the bottom of the bell curve is apparently larger than I thought. And as far as white guys not liking women of other races, man do I ever wish that was true for all white guys. Would have made my life a lot easier.
insertnamehere Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 In fairness, watching this current generation out on the dance floors, I'm about 70% certain this is the one that ends the human race. These 20 year olds are like pandas. They refuse to **** to save their species.
Disillusioned Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 In fairness, watching this current generation out on the dance floors, I'm about 70% certain this is the one that ends the human race. These 20 year olds are like pandas. They refuse to **** to save their species. And is that bad? There are already enough people in the world without us making more babies.
verhrzn Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 If that's your friend in the link, she is VERY pretty. Several of my male friends would faint right at her feet. Anyway, it could just be that there is a tiny subset of women women like me and your friend who never get hit on, and are thus freaks, but I actually think it's far more common than a lot of guys assume. I've had guys on this board call me a liar and a fraud when I say I'm female, and yet never get hit on/have trouble dating. So, your musings that you should try hitting on girls without worrying they'll reject you because they get it "all the time" is not actually off, BUT at the same time, it IS kind of insulting to think "Oh she's ugly, I'll have a way easier time convincing her to have sex with me!" Most of my boyfriends have dated me because they were desperate like that, and it really rips apart the girl's self esteem. Now, if you're a heartless a**hole, then I guess that doesn't matter.... But if you fashion yourself as a "nice guy," just stick with hitting on the women you find attractive, and leave the "ugly easy" girls alone.
Imajerk17 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 If that's your friend in the link, she is VERY pretty. Several of my male friends would faint right at her feet. Anyway, it could just be that there is a tiny subset of women women like me and your friend who never get hit on, and are thus freaks, but I actually think it's far more common than a lot of guys assume. I've had guys on this board call me a liar and a fraud when I say I'm female, and yet never get hit on/have trouble dating. So, your musings that you should try hitting on girls without worrying they'll reject you because they get it "all the time" is not actually off, BUT at the same time, it IS kind of insulting to think "Oh she's ugly, I'll have a way easier time convincing her to have sex with me!" Most of my boyfriends have dated me because they were desperate like that, and it really rips apart the girl's self esteem. Now, if you're a heartless a**hole, then I guess that doesn't matter.... But if you fashion yourself as a "nice guy," just stick with hitting on the women you find attractive, and leave the "ugly easy" girls alone. If your avatar is a picture of you, then you're actually quite cute. If I see a girl I'm attracted to and she doesn't have a ring or a guy there who looks like her boyfriend, I'm talking to her.
Ross MwcFan Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 She's got nice juggs and a nice face. I guess her weight put's most guys off, which personally I don't have a problem with as I like full women.
Author jobaba Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 She's got nice juggs and a nice face. I guess her weight put's most guys off, which personally I don't have a problem with as I like full women. Haha. That's not her. That's the actress Sara Rue. My friend just reminds me of Sara Rue. Cute face and larger bodied.
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