aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 So my girlfriend invited me to Thanksgiving dinner with her family (apparently they really want to meet me). And when I say family, I don't mean just her parents and siblings, apparently it's going to be a large gathering. I don't honestly care too much where I have Thanksgiving dinner, although I do usually go to my parents house (bout 30 minutes down the road from me). The only downside in this case is that they live 3 hours away, and we'd have to leave early Thursday morning and leave Thursday evening shortly after dinner. Kinda an inconvenience, but I'll live (I hope ). So anyone else have any interesting stories about meeting a significant other's family for the first time on Thanksgiving (or some other holiday)? Any awkwardness? Fun (or funny) times?
tigressA Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I haven't met any family for the first time on a major holiday, but I have spent holidays with a SO's family and it was always a lot of fun. I wouldn't worry too much. Ideally you would be meeting them for the first time on a non-holiday, sometimes holidays are stressful and a lot of emphasis is put on them--but the increased sense of family and togetherness is nice. BF and I would've gone to see my dad, his GF and my brother on Thanksgiving but they live about 4 hours away and with our respective schedules it's not possible for both of us to go. I was thinking of going myself but this is our first holiday season together and I want us to spend it physically together, so I will be staying here with him.
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 I haven't met any family for the first time on a major holiday, but I have spent holidays with a SO's family and it was always a lot of fun. I wouldn't worry too much. Ideally you would be meeting them for the first time on a non-holiday, sometimes holidays are stressful and a lot of emphasis is put on them--but the increased sense of family and togetherness is nice. BF and I would've gone to see my dad, his GF and my brother on Thanksgiving but they live about 4 hours away and with our respective schedules it's not possible for both of us to go. I was thinking of going myself but this is our first holiday season together and I want us to spend it physically together, so I will be staying here with him. Yeah. I'm not too nervous or anything except for the fact that there's going to be a lot of people, all of them (except my gf of course) will be strangers. And this will be my first time doing this whole "first meet" thing on a major holiday.
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 So anyone else have any interesting stories about meeting a significant other's family for the first time on Thanksgiving (or some other holiday)? Any awkwardness? Fun (or funny) times? Been there, done that. So long as you can get over the feeling of being paraded for inspection you'll be fine.
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Better you then me buddy on top of being trapped with her family and entertaining all those personalities your basicly stuck since its 3 hours away ! id dodge her and find a way to weisel out !! Dude, that's such a gutless, wimpy way to go. I actually like my gf, and I'm not going to wimp out on something like this just because it might be a little inconvenient or awkward.
tigressA Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Dude, that's such a gutless, wimpy way to go. I actually like my gf, and I'm not going to wimp out on something like this just because it might be a little inconvenient or awkward. *slow clap*
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Hey, pus*sy whipped bitch of a man. You sorry ass doormat type prick. You don't listen. You will be used like an exhibit in a zoo. Major disrespect on you! And you fine with it because..snif snif "i like my girlfriend" i don't see "love" there but whatever *******. Bitches like you make me sick! Real Man don't let people use them in ANY way that would show them disrespect. Go prick and get yours you lame fuc*king victim of abortion:mad: You sound like a very pleasant person. Why don't you take some of that energy that you use to write such lovely comments on here and go volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen or something? It's a very good thing to do, and you'll feel good about yourself.
Queen Zenobia Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I met my fiance's family for the first time on Christmas about a year after we started dating. It was fine. We had a big family dinner with my parents and his parents. It sound like this will involve quite a few more people though, I'm assuming with extended family. That can make things kind of weird and awkward. But I'm sure you'll be fine.
OliveOyl Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I don't know but I'm really nervous about Thanksgiving... we are having dinner at my ex's house (still technically my house too). My BF is joining and will be meeting my mom, my daughter, and my ex (technically stbx, but divorce is final in Jan.). Will I be nervous? Hell yeah.
rightfield Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I'd get a hotel room and stay the night. You and g/f can have some fun time after the family time. Then sleep in and drive home the next morning at your leisure.
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 I'd get a hotel room and stay the night. You and g/f can have some fun time after the family time. Then sleep in and drive home the next morning at your leisure. Problem is most places are booked solid already.
eerie_reverie Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 The second time I ever met my bf's large family was on rosh hashana... And I'm not Jewish, so i had no idea what to expect. However I am like large groups of people, children, and trying new food, and they were all incredibly nice and ,so it was a blast. Afterward, his mom and I perused their family albums.
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 The second time I ever met my bf's large family was on rosh hashana... And I'm not Jewish, so i had no idea what to expect. However I am like large groups of people, children, and trying new food, and they were all incredibly nice and ,so it was a blast. Afterward, his mom and I perused their family albums. That's actually kind of funny, my gf's family wanted her to bring me to their Eid celebration last week. She talked them out of that (not that I would have minded too much) and I got invited to Thanksgiving instead.
SingleinSouth Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 You sound like a very pleasant person. Why don't you take some of that energy that you use to write such lovely comments on here and go volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen or something? It's a very good thing to do, and you'll feel good about yourself. That was such an awesome response! Your gf is a lucky girl.
Teknoe Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 So my girlfriend invited me to Thanksgiving dinner with her family (apparently they really want to meet me). And when I say family, I don't mean just her parents and siblings, apparently it's going to be a large gathering. I don't honestly care too much where I have Thanksgiving dinner, although I do usually go to my parents house (bout 30 minutes down the road from me). The only downside in this case is that they live 3 hours away, and we'd have to leave early Thursday morning and leave Thursday evening shortly after dinner. Kinda an inconvenience, but I'll live (I hope ). So anyone else have any interesting stories about meeting a significant other's family for the first time on Thanksgiving (or some other holiday)? Any awkwardness? Fun (or funny) times? How long have you and your GF been dating? How would you describe your current standing in the relationship with her (i.e. steady, a bit rocky, so-so, etc.)? My first GF was in 2004, and Thanksgiving 2004 was an interesting one. I definitely wasn't a big hit, but I don't think I bombed too bad either. But, it was pretty clear I was still a kid. (hey, I was 21 at the time). I didn't know how to carve a turkey, her dad tried to teach me, and I left early because I wanted to get home in time to snipe an eBay auction (some video games), so I was definitely not very mature at the time, lol. We broke up less than 2 weeks later, lol. But I'm sure you'll fare better than I did. Just look for places where you can help out (i.e. set the table, clean up) and you'll be fine. Just don't be that clueless kid standing around not contributing anything like I was Thanksgiving 2004, more concerned about winning some eBay video game auctions that I'd leave the party early, lol.
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 How long have you and your GF been dating? How would you describe your current standing in the relationship with her (i.e. steady, a bit rocky, so-so, etc.)? My first GF was in 2004, and Thanksgiving 2004 was an interesting one. I definitely wasn't a big hit, but I don't think I bombed too bad either. But, it was pretty clear I was still a kid. (hey, I was 21 at the time). I didn't know how to carve a turkey, her dad tried to teach me, and I left early because I wanted to get home in time to snipe an eBay auction (some video games), so I was definitely not very mature at the time, lol. We broke up less than 2 weeks later, lol. But I'm sure you'll fare better than I did. Just look for places where you can help out (i.e. set the table, clean up) and you'll be fine. Just don't be that clueless kid standing around not contributing anything like I was Thanksgiving 2004, more concerned about winning some eBay video game auctions that I'd leave the party early, lol. We've been dating a little over 3 months, things are going pretty well I'd say. I honestly have no idea how things are going to go. I don't even know what kind of food they're going to have. All I know is that there's going to be something like 25 or so people there. But no, I won't be leaving early to shop on the internet.
Teknoe Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 We've been dating a little over 3 months, things are going pretty well I'd say. I honestly have no idea how things are going to go. I don't even know what kind of food they're going to have. All I know is that there's going to be something like 25 or so people there. But no, I won't be leaving early to shop on the internet. Ha, then I think you'll be OK. Just make yourself useful.
Queen Zenobia Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 That's actually kind of funny, my gf's family wanted her to bring me to their Eid celebration last week. She talked them out of that (not that I would have minded too much) and I got invited to Thanksgiving instead. Wait, your girlfriend is Muslim? This family gathering might be slightly more awkward than you think, especially if extended family will be there. What ethnicity/nationality are they?
Author aj22one Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Wait, your girlfriend is Muslim? This family gathering might be slightly more awkward than you think, especially if extended family will be there. What ethnicity/nationality are they? Yeah they're Pakistani Muslims. I'm sure at some point it might get awkward but I'll deal with it. I'm pretty sure I'll be the only white guy there. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 Hopefully they like football and you can just watch the games and make it less awkward.
Author aj22one Posted November 25, 2011 Author Posted November 25, 2011 -little update for anyone interested- Things ended up ok. We got there a little before noon. They had some regular stuff like turkey and potatoes, but also some curry chicken and other South Asian dishes. Her parents were really nice, but I'm pretty sure her extended family hated me (me being white, etc.). One of her aunts even asked us if we were getting married . Ah, well, it was a good time and I lived through it.
tigressA Posted November 25, 2011 Posted November 25, 2011 -little update for anyone interested- Things ended up ok. We got there a little before noon. They had some regular stuff like turkey and potatoes, but also some curry chicken and other South Asian dishes. Her parents were really nice, but I'm pretty sure her extended family hated me (me being white, etc.). One of her aunts even asked us if we were getting married . Ah, well, it was a good time and I lived through it. Glad it went well.
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