MrSimple Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 5 days after First Contact, and went into NC since. Have yet to hear from her. Appears something is up, from her FB wall. She went silent suddenly(not her style, I know) Super tempted to call or msg her to ask what's up, but I know better. Feelings are getting toned down now, feeling more in control of myself. Well, I got this far. What is waiting another week or two? Sorry for this, just wanted to get it off my chest. >.<
geegirl Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Simple, are you even reading the advice that posters are giving you?
Author MrSimple Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 I have read everything that you guys have advised me on. It has been of wonderful help and support to me. Don't worry, I know what i am doing. I chose to believe~
geegirl Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) She's with another man. Her emotions are with another man. Don't misconstrue her kindness and politeness to you, or her contact as a sign of wanting to rekindle. If she wants to rekindle, she would be banging on your door or at the very least giving you a sign, and a positive one. You are in such denial. We can tell you a million times to stay NC and you will come back with the same questions because you're so disillusioned by your emotions and you just want to react. Stop trying to resurrect what's dead. If it wants to come alive, it will and not by your doing but by hers. How can the advice be of help to you when your posts are still of the same tone? It's done nothing for you because at the end of the day, you choose to believe and you know what you are doing. If you know what you are doing, why ask the questions? Good luck to you. I hope things work out. Edited November 18, 2011 by geegirl
Author MrSimple Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Gee: What I meant was, if I didn't found out about this forum, I wouldn't have known all this. Trust me, i would have gone down the path of no return for "us". Words can't describe how grateful I am for all the help I've received. I apologise if I used the forum in the wrong way. plasma: well, maybe it means you can spot the warning signs of a person who is deluded like me? And try to steer them out of the wrong path before they go down too deep.
geegirl Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Gee: What I meant was, if I didn't found out about this forum, I wouldn't have known all this. Trust me, i would have gone down the path of no return for "us". Words can't describe how grateful I am for all the help I've received. I apologise if I used the forum in the wrong way. plasma: well, maybe it means you can spot the warning signs of a person who is deluded like me? And try to steer them out of the wrong path before they go down too deep. You can use this forum any way you want to Simple. What we're all trying to do is steer you from doing what is detrimental to you. Stop reacting on emotions but logic, at least try. It's not just Plasma noting your destructive behavior. You are receiving advice because we all see; we have all been there before. Sometimes you need to hit rock bottom to get reality knocked into you. And that is probably when you will decide it's enough and it's time to start on another path. It's just not your time yet. I'm sorry I am harsh. I don't mean to hurt you when you're already struggling with this. I hope you find the answers you need and that what you truly believe in comes true.
jsd43953 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 5 days after First Contact, and went into NC since. Have yet to hear from her. Appears something is up, from her FB wall. She went silent suddenly(not her style, I know) Super tempted to call or msg her to ask what's up, but I know better. Feelings are getting toned down now, feeling more in control of myself. Well, I got this far. What is waiting another week or two? Sorry for this, just wanted to get it off my chest. >.< Mr Simple, I just read a bit of the history of what is going on. Sounds like GIGS in my opinion and I too think I am also in the same boat. What I am finding is that this is not about you it is about the other person and what at the moment feels to be right. During these times we have to step back and let them go. Sure everybody says move one etc, but let me ask you this: Have you ever stepped back to think that maybe this case of GIGS is a blessing in disguise. You are probaly asking what I mean and I am going to tell you? Maybe this is a time of preperation for you both. Meaning higher powers are seperating you because you nor her are truly ready for what is in store. Thus you will go through the pain of heartbreak to grow your patience, love and faith. While she will go through the GIGS the ups and the downs to realize that in the end GIGS is about empty actions rather than true love. That moment of clarity will happen for her if you have faith. Faith is differnt from hope is empty and faith is filled with the promises of what truly lies within your heart. And because you went through the heartbreak and grew your love for her, your patience and you had faith. You will be able to love her past her faults, have the patience not to just jump back in but stand firm that taking it slow is for the best, and the faith to know taht she came back because you had the faith in the first place. Now if she doesnt comeback fine then she was there to still help you grow. And from this you will be better suited for the next one. But before you cast her off, or decide to contact of not contact. Find a quite place somewhere and sit there for a minute. Calm your brain of any thoughts so that you can clearly hear your hear and your gut instinct instructing you on what you should do. More often then not you will find that whatever decesion you make works out for the best. Remember that no amount of logic can suffice when it comes to matters of the heart. Hope this gives you a little uplifting as well as a different perspective to think about before you just pull the trigger on any action.
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