joystickd Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I see threads on here and all I see is a back and forth of negative energy with some people. I even get negative energy from people on here. I say something and it goes to something relating to the fact that twice in my life I have had interactions with married women. I will say its funny, but my thing is why the negative energy on both sides. I see if a man not agreeing with a woman and he is called a mysogynist or a woman disagreeing and misandry used. Those two terms are used to liberally. Its like their attempt to discredit what the other person is saying has some validity. We are all giving advice about things based on individual experiences so they are as diverse as the people on here. Its ok to say I don't agree with this because.. and then state why but its counterproductive to just try to discredit someone. I hope I'm making sense here. I do better talking that typing out something. 1
the wizard Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Tell me about it dude...every thread on here explodes into long drawn out battles where each person is throwing out quotations and excerpts from dusty books about Feminism and PUA bull****, etc. Can't a person come here and get advice from real life people who go through ordinary real life things? People on here are on the EXTREME ends of the spectrum. 40 year old virgins, 40 year old childless widows, etc. So all their bitterness just spills out in their messages. Craziness. <_< >_> 3
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Some people on here have strong views and also act as if their view is the only correct view and that anyone who holds a contrary view is wrong and in need of correction. Nothing wrong with having a strongly held view (well, generally), but sometimes a little more tolerance and an acceptance that agreement isn't going to be reached would improve the quality of the debate. Anyway, that's my view, and if you don't agree then clearly you're wrong. 1
Els Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I guess crazy begets crazy. You see someone post something exceedingly ridiculous and extremist, you try and hold your remarks in, but you eventually feel 'this can't be right!' and jump right in, after which they drag you down to their level.
El Brujo Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I think a large part of the problem is because some of us want to act out stereotypes, and some of us are trying to push back against the changes in dating.
KR10N Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 The same reason I don't stay on these forums as often as I use to. I remember reading through a post... something about women hating me & vice versa. I didn't even bother posting but couldn't help but think it's no wonder so many people are left w/ the impression that both genders hate each other when all you have to do is read all the clichéd posts from both sexes. 1
BeyondtheClouds Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I have strongly held views but I am happy to let someone else have the last word.
danstanton Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I get the impression it's mainly bitter people who post on the forum. Bitter about past failed relationships, and thus deeming all men/women as bad since one or some men/women treated them wrongly. :laugh:
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I get the impression it's mainly bitter people who post on the forum. Bitter about past failed relationships, and thus deeming all men/women as bad since one or some men/women treated them wrongly. :laugh: Not sure about "mainly", but there's definitely a lot of that in here. Perhaps not too surprising - a dating advice forum is likely to attract people who have had problems with relationships or dating.
Author joystickd Posted November 20, 2011 Author Posted November 20, 2011 I have noticed some people talk about people being mad about someone disagreeing with them. In reality they are the ones mad because they are being disagreed with.
singlelife Posted November 20, 2011 Posted November 20, 2011 People are just unable to see the others point of view. Men and women.
Author joystickd Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 People are just unable to see the others point of view. Men and women. I guess so
Jane2011 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 This board does seem to have gone crazy of late. I've only been pretty regular here for the past three or four months. But I actually joined the site over a year ago (Jan 2011). I recall it being more normal back then. I remember even thinking that it was surprisingly civil for a message board with men and women talking about dating and relationships (I used to visit a different message board where the men and women were the way the men and women on here are now). I thought I'd found a nice, civil alternative to the hateful message board. Now this place, too, has been infected with hatefulness and trolls. (I'm surprised by all the troll action here. The other message board I used to visit had more moderators than it needed; this one has too few.) 1
FitChick Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 The other message board I used to visit had more moderators than it needed; this one has too few.) Which board is that? I prefer talking to adults and can only tolerate children for so long.
Woggle Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 People are just unable to see the others point of view. Men and women. This is it in a nutshell. Both men and women refuse to consider the fact that the other gender does not have it so easy and has their own share of legitimate issues. There is also resentment towards the fact that when somebody expresses an issue it is mocked and not taken seriously or met with disdain so people just become more entrenched and hardened in their positions.
Jane2011 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Which board is that? I prefer talking to adults and can only tolerate children for so long. Askmen.com It was a long time ago that I used to visit, though. (There was a long period of time when I didn't visit any message boards at all.) Askmen could be different now. I stay away, though.
FitChick Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 People are just unable to see the others point of view. Men and women. That is probably the crux of their problems with the opposite sex.
phineas Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Which board is that? I prefer talking to adults and can only tolerate children for so long. Because this comment is so grown up and mature? LOL!
Taramere Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I will say its funny, but my thing is why the negative energy on both sides. I see if a man not agreeing with a woman and he is called a mysogynist or a woman disagreeing and misandry used. Most of the long running squabbles come from two people who are equally unable to let things go. I think most of us get into that occasionally. When you do get into it, not having the last word is probably the best possible outcome. If it's a case of somebody spewing out abuse or ranting at you, they've already lost and there's no need to respond to them at all. I've got to admit, though, now and again I'll respond just to keep their anger alive. It's like that inexplicable urge to tap mischievously on a car window when you see a dog inside going mental with rage at every passer-by. I've never worked out quite what that urge is. Not that I give in to it in the case of dogs in cars, of course. It's not their fault they're stuck in a car. People going mental on the internet are, however, a different matter as they have the ability to leave the discussion whenever they want.
hotloader Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I say something and it goes to something relating to the fact that twice in my life I have had interactions with married women. So you knowingly f'd two married women? Why the hell are you even posting anything on here dude? You're absolute scum. What advice could you possibly give anyone who's looking for answers about matters of the heart? I've got some advice for you however. Find the highest bridge you possibly can, and take a header off it. Jackass. I know it takes "two to tango" and all that $hit, but I have absolutely zero empathy for guys like you when jealous, angry, betrayed husbands blow your heads off. I actually think it's kinda funny.
Author joystickd Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 So you knowingly f'd two married women? Why the hell are you even posting anything on here dude? You're absolute scum. What advice could you possibly give anyone who's looking for answers about matters of the heart? I've got some advice for you however. Find the highest bridge you possibly can, and take a header off it. Jackass. I know it takes "two to tango" and all that $hit, but I have absolutely zero empathy for guys like you when jealous, angry, betrayed husbands blow your heads off. I actually think it's kinda funny. Notice that I said HAD meaning I'm not doing that now. The cheap insults are not needed. I'm actually focused on single women now. So if all you have is insult stay the hell off this thread.
EmpoweredWoman Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Most of the long running squabbles come from two people who are equally unable to let things go. I think most of us get into that occasionally. When you do get into it, not having the last word is probably the best possible outcome. If it's a case of somebody spewing out abuse or ranting at you, they've already lost and there's no need to respond to them at all. I've got to admit, though, now and again I'll respond just to keep their anger alive. It's like that inexplicable urge to tap mischievously on a car window when you see a dog inside going mental with rage at every passer-by. I've never worked out quite what that urge is. I can explain it to you, it's called being a Jewish genetic sociopath. Having the urge to torture and bully animals is a symptom of a person with some sort of mental disorder. I just call it being a Kazarian, TaraHebe.
Author joystickd Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 **** you *******. If I ever crossed your path I'd slam you to the ****ing ground. They have meds for those delusion. All you do is hide. That's a b***h move. You couldn't even slam a wet paper bag in the ground. So save the threats for your imaginary friends.
Badsingularity Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 You're absolute scum. What advice could you possibly give anyone who's looking for answers about matters of the heart? I don't blame you for thinking what he did is scummy, but it does prove that he probably knows a thing or two about women, and guys who have no understanding of how women work or how to attract them could possilbly use some of his advice.
Author joystickd Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 I don't blame you for thinking what he did is scummy, but it does prove that he probably knows a thing or two about women, and guys who have no understanding of how women work or how to attract them could possilbly use some of his advice. They are not ready for my advice.
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