EyeJustDontKnow Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I know Facebook is not the problem. But I am constantly amazed at how it brings out the worst in already insecure people. The latest self created drama that has been flung my way is because not long ago when FB added the option to approve tags before posting to your wall seemed like a good idea to me. Why not? Well apparently "the only reason someone has to approve tags is because they are hiding something or doing something they should not be" How do I keep getting myself in these situations? It's one thing if I have done something wrong and I need to own up to it. But good lord man, I have done nothing here and am being accused of everything from hiding discriminating pictures of me to the Kennedy assassination. Maybe there should be a self confidence test required before creating an account?
mammamia1 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Haha there're a lot of stories about FB and insecurity. So much drama! I have a friend who 'normally' has 1500 friends. Some days he get on there and see only 1498 left. And he would curse all over on his status "Why would people delete me!?!? Why would someone hate me that much???? Stupid close-minded people who have no friend @#$$#" Turns out it's some FB bug. The next day he has 1501 friends. It's gone up and down but no one removed him. Well I'm one of those 1500 or whatever who got cursed at for no reason... I guess I'm gonna delete him now
grkBoy Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I know Facebook is not the problem. But I am constantly amazed at how it brings out the worst in already insecure people. The latest self created drama that has been flung my way is because not long ago when FB added the option to approve tags before posting to your wall seemed like a good idea to me. Why not? Well apparently "the only reason someone has to approve tags is because they are hiding something or doing something they should not be" How do I keep getting myself in these situations? It's one thing if I have done something wrong and I need to own up to it. But good lord man, I have done nothing here and am being accused of everything from hiding discriminating pictures of me to the Kennedy assassination. Maybe there should be a self confidence test required before creating an account? My reply to that bold statement is "HELL YEAH!" Employers and others who matter are looking at these profiles. Even if you keep yourself very private, some HR folk will send their "pretty employee" to friend you and see what's on your profile, thus using it to decide if you're worth hiring or not. I get cliquey on social media, and I keep my life very private. I don't use Facebook to log in to any other sites as an OpenID, and I don't use any of those "apps" on Facebook. Do I have something to hide? Yes...my entire life is my own private life and I will share what I want to share. Plus I don't like posing for "silly photos" and having friends post them...and I don't like those image collages where my name is tagged on it. Even event promoters lately are tagging people on images of their flyers just to spam people. Anyone who thinks everything should be open and public on social media are the ones living in a fantasy world. Imagine the day your place of employment has a round of layoffs and you're on the list...only to find out part of the selection process was when they picked anyone who posts statuses that are very "liberal" or something...because the boss is a hardcore Conservative. Don't let the drama queens push you. Keep your life private and let others fail when their embarrassing moments are showcased.
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Well apparently "the only reason someone has to approve tags is because they are hiding something or doing something they should not be" Yeah, I want to hide all the terrible photos that people seem to manage to take of me!
FinOuch Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Haha there're a lot of stories about FB and insecurity. So much drama! I have a friend who 'normally' has 1500 friends. Some days he get on there and see only 1498 left. And he would curse all over on his status "Why would people delete me!?!? Why would someone hate me that much???? Stupid close-minded people who have no friend @#$$#" Turns out it's some FB bug. The next day he has 1501 friends. It's gone up and down but no one removed him. Well I'm one of those 1500 or whatever who got cursed at for no reason... I guess I'm gonna delete him now Lmfao. Ummm...people also deactivate and later reactivate their accounts. I had a "friend" who does this constantly. He'll pop in for a couple months, get bored, and deactivate again. OP - wow, that is nuts that you actually got flak for that! There are SOOO many photos I do NOT want on my profile! I don't need the world seeing photos of me slamming shots at a friends birthday party. Nor do I want every derp-faced picture ever taken of me to pop up for all to see. *rolls eyes*
mtber75 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Its funny! I see people complaining that FB is so shallow and perpetuates narcissism. But when you listen to these same people, they say stuff like I don't post stupid, silly comments and pictures...Like their own lives are so much more important and better than all these shallow FBer that its not worth their time...WHAT?
loversquarrel Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 I think people post way too much about themselves, what they are up to, where they are, relationships, photos, etc., etc., I used to have it, after about a month I got rid of it. I'm just too paranoid, plus its not the friends I worry about but rather the friends of the friends.....It's a small world. When conducting background investigations on prospective employees the first things I check are FB, Myspace, and Twitter. You would be amazed at how stupid people are about what they post, and yes I have screened out a high number of good candidates because of it.
denise_xo Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 :laugh: yes, definitely waaay too much drama. I'm not really into FB but have an account to keep in touch with certain people. I've chosen not to have a wall and it's a great solution. I highly recommend it.
loversquarrel Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 face book is still the most secured site because everything gadget is in-place ..all left for you to make use of them either to your own security or otherwise I wish that were the case....It's not as secure as you think it is, be careful. If somebody wants to find something out about you, it will happen.
Jono85 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 (edited) I wish that were the case....It's not as secure as you think it is, be careful. If somebody wants to find something out about you, it will happen. can you elaborate on that please? i have fairly tight security on my facebook. how can someone find out about me if they aren't a facebook friend, and cannot see how my facebook friends are? i'm curious. i mean obv i know that SOMEONE can find out all about me (eg. some higher up authority i imagine can breach facebooks privacy rights if it's very serious) but how can the average joe, or even a company find out about me? Edited December 3, 2011 by Jono85
runner Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 amazes me how some people take fb so seriously. i mean really, makes me want to say, "you do realise that facebook is a data farm, yes ?" ... "welcome to the cattle roundup" that reason alone is why i don't take it so seriously. and even go so far as to post misinformation.
quickspeed155 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 My reply to that bold statement is "HELL YEAH!" Employers and others who matter are looking at these profiles. Even if you keep yourself very private, some HR folk will send their "pretty employee" to friend you and see what's on your profile, thus using it to decide if you're worth hiring or not. I get cliquey on social media, and I keep my life very private. I don't use Facebook to log in to any other sites as an OpenID, and I don't use any of those "apps" on Facebook. Do I have something to hide? Yes...my entire life is my own private life and I will share what I want to share. Plus I don't like posing for "silly photos" and having friends post them...and I don't like those image collages where my name is tagged on it. Even event promoters lately are tagging people on images of their flyers just to spam people. Anyone who thinks everything should be open and public on social media are the ones living in a fantasy world. Imagine the day your place of employment has a round of layoffs and you're on the list...only to find out part of the selection process was when they picked anyone who posts statuses that are very "liberal" or something...because the boss is a hardcore Conservative. Don't let the drama queens push you. Keep your life private and let others fail when their embarrassing moments are showcased. I think as far as the job process, correct me if I'm wrong, it's best not to even have a Facebook account and delete it before they do your background check. I'm sure after 2 weeks, which Facebook gives us to sign on again before they get rid of your account permanently, you won't run into that problem. Again, I never tried it before and my account was never checked, just hope it works that way for me though so I would still get that perfect job that comes my way. Let me know how that works out.
grkBoy Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I think as far as the job process, correct me if I'm wrong, it's best not to even have a Facebook account and delete it before they do your background check. I'm sure after 2 weeks, which Facebook gives us to sign on again before they get rid of your account permanently, you won't run into that problem. Again, I never tried it before and my account was never checked, just hope it works that way for me though so I would still get that perfect job that comes my way. Let me know how that works out. It depends on the job. If you're in marketing, advertising, web design, regular design, etc...then they won't take you seriously if you aren't on social media. I'm even seeing this branch off into other jobs where it's unrelated. They'll see that the candidate not having a FB account is some kind of "red flag". Best scenario is to honestly not post anything you don't want the full public knowing about, and to reject friends tagging you in embarrassing photos.
quickspeed155 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 It depends on the job. If you're in marketing, advertising, web design, regular design, etc...then they won't take you seriously if you aren't on social media. I'm even seeing this branch off into other jobs where it's unrelated. They'll see that the candidate not having a FB account is some kind of "red flag". Best scenario is to honestly not post anything you don't want the full public knowing about, and to reject friends tagging you in embarrassing photos. That works too. There are some people that even though they sometimes share some experiences with people that they know, they need to recognize the damage of what they say. I agree, especially in some of my past issues, privacy and confidentiality is something that needs to be practiced and maintained.
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