Sugarkane Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 My closest friend from school has a toxic marriage. I understand that once you get married things change. But you still need friends don't you ? Who do you turn to when things go wrong? When you want a break? But why dump the WHOLE friendship group for? Everyone made an effort with her, but eventually gave up. This is because she put zero effort in. I mean whats the point in having a wedding day/hens night if you've got no one to invite? No one liked her husband he was cold and controlling. EVERYTHING had to be his way. We tried, but we all got tired of being ignored.
wilsonx Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) I'll teach you a little secret to life, there's nothing you can do or say to her about this. She's not going to listen. You have learned, now she needs to learn. One of my good friends quit hanging out with me because of my ex. He told me one day, "I dont like her" and he was absolutely right with his judge in character over her. But you know what, he valued my friendship enough to know I was in love with her and no matter what he told me, you can not disrespect the person you are friends with significant other. They will not listen. One of my good friends is in a situation just like I was and like you described. He hangs out with her all the time, she picked him up in a bar. He doesnt want to hang out anymore and if he does she does things to prevent us from hanging out. I think she fears me and sees that I see right through her. She tried picking me up at a bar a few weeks before she latched on to him and I wasn't interested. So she went after my friend (ugh) and hes lost himself in it. Hes a great guy and theres nothing I can do You need to learn this and understand this and when that relationship fails, you can still be their friend and be there for them like my friend was after the fact. Just accept it, people need to learn the hard way. You learned the hard way and so did I Edited November 18, 2011 by wilsonx
Author Sugarkane Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 Thanks Wilson. I knew never to say anything coz I knew that it would've just made her distance herself even more.
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