smudge21 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Ignoring CuteGuy's comments (someone's got some hatred issues he could do with dealing with) I will say that the wizard brings up some good points. There is every chance this guy used his power to get what he wanted and for that reason, my previous comments still stand - if he comes after you, make him work for it. Failing that, and he just completely ignores you, change the plan - get over him, move on and if you ever see him again, simply wait for him to come to you and then forget his name and ask if you've ever met before. Nothing like a bit of ego destroying for those that thrive on having their ego stroked by all those around them! One point against wizard though, and that's about rich famous people - yeah they definitely get the attention, but for many (especially those with fame) it becomes a nightmare trying to find someone who actually will like them for who they are, not what they have. Hence often you'll see powerful people with ordinary people. Yes I do know some that use their power and position to get what they want when it comes to relationships, but there are also many out there who desire something more meaningful and never find that because their own status prevents them ever meeting the perfect person, or even trusting those they do meet. It's like if you were to win millions on a lottery for example. No doubt from their you'd get plenty of offers from the opposite sex (and from the same sex too, depending on your interests) but would you ever truly be able to think that this person is here for nothing more than your money... With that said, although this whole situation does seem like a celeb has used his power to get lucky, there could also be a chance of something more. Only time will really tell, but mammamia I will suggest you just carry on partying and see what happens rather than focusing on it anymore.
Pierre Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 He came inside me. After that, he asked "are you on birth control" Me "No" Him "Damn" Me "But I'll take the morning after pill. You know I love my career and baby is the last thing I want now" A woman that is highly educated allows a stranger to deposit semen inside of her with no protection. Please tell me where you were educated so I can tell everyone i know not to go there for an eduction.:laugh:
CarrieT Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 ONE POINT I FORGOT TO MENTION (I'm sorry for the graphic content): We had sex without protection. I know I don't have any disease, he knows he doesn't. He came inside me. After that, he asked "are you on birth control" Me "No" Him "Damn" Me "But I'll take the morning after pill. You know I love my career and baby is the last thing I want now" I don't know if this is part of why he's brushing me off now. But we talked for hours before having sex, it's enough for anyone to realize that I'm well educated, love my career... and not likely that kind of gold digger, baby popper type. Sorry, Luv - you have completely contradicted yourself here. Did he show you test results to prove he doesn't have a disease? Because that is the ONLY way you know he is disease free... You got played, Sistah, big time. I doubt you will hear from him again; he got what he wanted by you putting out on the first date. He sounds like a player and I'm sorry you put yourself in this situation.
smudge21 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 ONE POINT I FORGOT TO MENTION (I'm sorry for the graphic content): We had sex without protection. I know I don't have any disease, he knows he doesn't. He came inside me. After that, he asked "are you on birth control" Me "No" Him "Damn" Me "But I'll take the morning after pill. You know I love my career and baby is the last thing I want now" I don't know if this is part of why he's brushing me off now. But we talked for hours before having sex, it's enough for anyone to realize that I'm well educated, love my career... and not likely that kind of gold digger, baby popper type. That could quite easily be why he's avoiding you then... Seriously love, next time get him to put a coat on. Nevermind unwanted kids, they're cute and serve a purpose but unwanted STD's... that's another story and you're way to young to be facing anything like that.
Author mammamia1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 I'm very sorry for the graphic content of the post above. Yes I went to top schools, but I was stupid and trusting and it has nothing to do with my professional education. He's very well educated and appeared to be honest and all too. But I definitely don't want baby or gold or anything, I would give up anything for my career. I like something in his personality, but of course it's hard to argue with people. I guess I'll take it easy like smudge21 said. You're the kindest here! Thanks everyone for your advice!
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 A woman that is highly educated allows a stranger to deposit semen inside of her with no protection. Please tell me where you were educated so I can tell everyone i know not to go there for an eduction.:laugh: This is one of those times when Pierre and I are in total agreement. Condoms, girl, condoms!
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Oaks, why don't you stick one in to your ass you bloody UK Brit with bad teeth and earl gray drinking with milk bitch! I sense much anger in you. Lighten up and maybe you'll be able to keep the same name for more than 24 hours.
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 I am legion for we are many! Possessed by demons? You could get help for that.
Author mammamia1 Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 One day I can be better than him in every way. Look will fade, and everything else I can gain by my effort. what's wrong with trying to succeed in my career so that someday I can be rich and respected more than him? The only thing I can't achieve by own effort is supermodel look, but it doesn't matter. I liked him as a person and was trusting, very stupidly. Like I said earlier, those things that he has only make me insecure. But this thread is going crazy. thanks everyone for your advice though! I got some great advice here.
Pierre Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 what's wrong with trying to succeed in my career so that someday I can be rich and respected more than him? The only thing I can't achieve by own effort is supermodel look, but it doesn't matter. I liked him as a person and was trusting, very stupidly. Like I said earlier, those things that he has only make me insecure. But this thread is going crazy. thanks everyone for your advice though! I got some great advice here. So you want to be rich and respected? You cannot be a supermodel? Can you tell me where you were educated? I respectfully have to say that you think like a junior high girl.
SilverLining Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Ok first of all...to all the guys talking about 'whore this' and 'whore that'...you are just making yourself look like stupid juveniles. If you have something to say, why don't you be a man and talk like an adult that actually has something relevant to say rather than spew hate speech? Because honestly the only one who looks bad here is you. And I'm talking to you, 'cute guy' whoever you are. Cute guy nothing, to be so insecure as to troll around and make fun of people in your spare time, you must be a real dog. Second of all, mammamia1, I have to say that I respect you taking the criticism so gracefully. With that being said, I'm sorry but I need to offer you a bit more. Let me begin by saying that you seem to be a genuinely good person. I'm sure you are not a 'gold digger' in the sense of the word. You may even be well educated. But honey, you are not SMART. I'm going to tell you this like I would tell a sister or a friend - have some self respect and dignity. If you feel less confident, fake it. It was NOT smart to get so caught up in this guy being handsome and famous. So what? I bet no one will know who he is next year anyway. It was NOT smart to go on a single date with this guy and then term it in any way a relationship. It was a date. No matter who you are inside, facts are facts - you went on ONE DATE with a guy who you believed was too good for you, you slept with him WITHOUT PROTECTION, then when he ignored you, you started harassing him about going out again. If this guy was EVER interested in you in the first place, your lack of confidence and your willingness to give it all up for nothing, then not getting the hint that he wasn't interested enough probably made him lose all respect for you. And he has ZERO respect for you, trust me on that. I don't even think too badly of the guy here - sure he took advantage, but you acted like a foolish idiot. But here's the good news. You didn't kill a baby or kick a puppy. You did something stupid, like so many of us do. I'm sure many of us can look back on a time when we acted like pathetic losers, chasing after someone. I'm sure many of us can look back on a time when we slept with someone too soon or got caught up in looks, money, whatever. And while I think what you did and how you acted WAS pathetic and stupid, I think that what makes it so is that you were so clearly starstruck and willing to put good judgment and appreciation for yourself on the backburner and for what? A guy...that's all he is. He takes a crap and cries and is made of the same basic molecules that you are made of. He's not better. He is just himself, as you are just you. There is no competition, nothing to prove, and stop being so caught up in that. Finally, unprotected sex with someone you have just met is gross. Get yourself tested because if this guy is sleeping around, as I can bet he is based on your situation (and anything else he has told you was probably a line) you might have something. So yes, take the morning after pill, get thee to a doctor for STD testing, and then promise yourself to never disrespect yourself in that way again. Then do something fun, go out with your friends, and chalk it up to a learning experience that you can laugh about later. Good luck!
Art_Critic Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 He, however, may think that I'm a slut. I don't think that he thinks you are a slut.. I do however think he thinks you are just like every other girl he dates and goes out with.. He most likely sleeps with all of those women on the first date, so you didn't separate yourself from that pack... Chances are sex is all he wanted anyhow but also the chances are if you had caught his eye for a relationship, then sex on a first date wasn't the way to go about it with him...
Feelsgoodman Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Cole's Notes summary of OP's various posts: Slept with a guy on the first date (I normally don't do this...no, really! I don't...not usually...) He is very good looking, rich and famous - but that had nothing to do with why slept with him...nothing at all!! I swear!!! We just had an "amazing connection". He told me that he is not like those other "crazy" people in the entertainment industry. Of course, I believed him. Why wouldn't I? After all, people rarely lie about themselves. On a side note, I am a highly educated, very intelligent woman...I went to the top schools. Anyway, I let him f*ck me without a condom because he said that he had no diseases. Again, I had no reason to doubt him...as everyone knows, people never lie about such things. Besides, I've known him for an entire two hours by that point. And by the way, did I mention that I'm very intelligent and educated? He is now completely blowing me off...in a very obvious way...and is refusing to meet me despite my numerous requests. So do you guys think I should continue "dating" him? And before I forget, I should mention that I am very well educated...
Art_Critic Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 she thinks like a typical gold diggin whore spread em to get em boy.. that's an out of line post Plasma... Sex on a first date doesn't equate to a woman being a whore/slut.. What is a guy who has sex on a first date to you ?
Citizen Erased Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 boy.. that's an out of line post Plasma... Sex on a first date doesn't equate to a woman being a whore/slut.. What is a guy who has sex on a first date to you ? Come on Art, you know that guys are allowed to **** anything they want while the females have to stay meek and mild and barefoot in the kitchen. Anything different and the girls are sluts! Looking at a man? Slut! Shaking hands with a man? Gold digging whore!
Feelsgoodman Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Come on Art, you know that guys are allowed to **** anything they want while the females have to stay meek and mild and barefoot in the kitchen. Anything different and the girls are sluts! Looking at a man? Slut! Shaking hands with a man? Gold digging whore! You do make a good point...had the OP stayed in the kitchen, she would not have found herself in this predicament!
Citizen Erased Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 You do make a good point...had the OP stayed in the kitchen, she would not have found herself in this predicament! Exactly.
Nexus One Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Dating a super hot and famous guy - should I continue? Yes by all means continue, the only thing that seems to be making you doubt is your own insecurity. However, keep in mind that for beautiful and famous people the same rules should apply as for "ordinary" lovers, if you know what I mean.
Feelsgoodman Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Yes by all means continue, the only thing that seems to be making you doubt is your own insecurity. However, keep in mind that for beautiful and famous people the same rules should apply as for "ordinary" lovers, if you know what I mean. This is great advice, except for one minor problem...it's kind of hard to continue "dating" someone who has effectively told you to go f*ck yourself...twice. Then again, it helps to read the post you are replying to...
oaks Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 This is great advice, except for one minor problem...it's kind of hard to continue "dating" someone who has effectively told you to go f*ck yourself...twice. Then again, it helps to read the post you are replying to... Absolutely. She isn't dating him. She had a ONS with him in which he somehow persuaded her that he could go bareback.
Wolf18 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 You do need to believe in yourself more - if you don't, no one else will. Plus, despite how you look or act, people can pick up on someone's insecurities - some can prey on this, whereas others feel pity. Either way, it's never a good thing. So get some confidence and self esteem... As for this perfect guy... well I think you're falling for the bodywork rather than what's under the hood. The exterior and the presence can be hard to ignore and people can so easily get swept up when someone is in power, whether that be famous, rich, popular... it doesn't matter. The whole persona and the fact they have other people kissing their a**, and then they show you interest - well, you're only human so no one will blame you for feeling so attached to this guy. The facts however are fairly obvious from his actions after the event. Therefore now you have to take charge of this situation and take back some of that power you've given him. Carry on living your life and doing whatever it was that you did before he came along, then if he should text, ignore it. At least for a day, maybe three. You're busy and didn't have time to respond, or whatever. No matter how popular or famous he is, that will bruise his ego and make him realise that maybe he should've been a bit nicer to you. From there, he'll either make contact again, or he won't and that will be it. But at least you'll know and you can leave with your pride and head held high. Afterall, you need to take the positive out of this: Basically, despite what you tell us about yourself, you got the attention of an amazing guy (your words, not mine). Surely that stands for something? Surely that tells you the honest truth about the line that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? Take the positive from all this rather than the negative, go live your life (still only in your twenties) and see what happens with this guy. No matter how amazing he is, I guarantee there are better out there... That stupid texting thing doesn't work with men. We just don't care. The guy the OP is after , every woman is after, if the OP (who admits she is not all that amazing looking) wants to play text games with him he's just going to laugh it off and text one of his 50 other booty calls. Sorry OP, everything worked out perfectly...for him. If sex is such a big deal and bonds you to someone so easily, maybe you shouldn't give it up on the first date just because someone looks like, or IS a movie star. But I realize saying that to a girl is like talking to a wall.
Nexus One Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 This is great advice, except for one minor problem...it's kind of hard to continue "dating" someone who has effectively told you to go f*ck yourself...twice. Then again, it helps to read the post you are replying to... Can you show the specific quotes where he has said that?
Feelsgoodman Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Can you show the specific quotes where he has said that? How about this: For a few days, there was no text or chat message from him. I was waiting, thinking about him every moment. Finally I texted him and asked him out again. After few hours, he texted back "Er very busy this week, but maybe... We'll see" Or this: Update: now he says he's totally busy this weekend. "maybe next time hun". I saw him on chat but he didn't start conversation with me.
FitChick Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 He probably thought you were just another groupie and I'm sure he's slept with plenty. If you had a really good conversation, you should have flirted and then not allowed him to do more than a quick kiss, saying, "I really enjoyed our date. I had no idea you were so intelligent and interesting. We should do this again sometime!" At the very least, you'd have gotten a second date. Forget about him and learn this lesson -- never have sex on the first date, with anyone!
Nexus One Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 How about this: No rain check, no specifics on why he's busy. Granted, he's being ambiguous there at the very least.
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