adorablebabiii Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 SO ive known this girl for 8 years.. Off and on.. This was our 3rd time trying the relationship. We were so in love (i thought) Well.. I told a lie which i confessed later on that i lied to her, and she instantly broke up with me. She still continues to keep in contact with me and will say she loves me from time to time. SO i asked her tonigh if we would get over this, and she said yes, however she cant tell me that we would get back together. She has lost trust for me.. Ive begged and pleaded and asked her to let me make it up to her, but she says thats not what she wants. My question is.. once trust is lost.. is there a way i can gain trust back and hopefully get her back? Or is this a lost cause...? Please give advise... Im hurting so bad right now.
norajane Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 My question is.. once trust is lost.. is there a way i can gain trust back and hopefully get her back? You have to show her that you are trustworthy by being trustworthy - your words and your actions have to match. And you have to do this consistently over time before she will feel comfortable trusting you again. It's impossible to know how long that would take. Whether she will want to start dating again at that time? Probably. She's already tried 3 times. She might give it another try. Why did you choose to lie and mess up this 3rd try? You had to have understood that lying would screw things up between you, but you did it anyway. So why did you do it? Did you want to mess things up? Are you afraid of things actually working out between you? Intimacy issues? Commitment issues? Insecurities? If so, tell her about it. That kind of sincere honesty will be a lot more meaningful to her and to your relationship than apologies and begging.
Author adorablebabiii Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 NO, It was something that got out of hand... i should have told her. I should have told her earlier on.. But i was scared that we wouldnt be together.. just as we are not now. It was a mistake.. it was stupid. and now im paying for it.
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