tomm Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 man i tell you it's been 6 months since i was dumpped and it still really hurts me .doesn't matter i go out meet new people etc. i find myself constantly going back in my mind to what we had , what was said ,then to knowing i was flat out lied to and cheatted on .i feel like some loser .THOUGH i know i did nothing wrong ,even the ex said it's her and not me as have friends i just struggle daily accepting that.really if i did nothing wrong for the 4 yrs we were together exclusivly then why am i without her . i keep telling myself it took two people to start the relationship so something i did or said had to happen for her to litteraly walk out on me and now wants not a damn thing to do with me [ even though in her mind we're friends , and she honestly feels she's done nothing wrong ]she is delusional -and i can really say i can't stand her and wish her nothing hope she struggles with everything and looses whatever she's worked for AND now with these holidays approaching these feelings are stronger i'm actually avoiding stores where their already playing x mas music and you see the happy couples out shopping just brings back memories of us this time of year really into it ,now i know why they say depression is more around the holidays, cause i'm going through it honestly hope NO ONE says merry x mas or happy new years to me
mike588 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 man i tell you it's been 6 months since i was dumpped and it still really hurts me .doesn't matter i go out meet new people etc. i find myself constantly going back in my mind to what we had , what was said ,then to knowing i was flat out lied to and cheatted on .i feel like some loser .THOUGH i know i did nothing wrong ,even the ex said it's her and not me as have friends i just struggle daily accepting that.really if i did nothing wrong for the 4 yrs we were together exclusivly then why am i without her . i keep telling myself it took two people to start the relationship so something i did or said had to happen for her to litteraly walk out on me and now wants not a damn thing to do with me [ even though in her mind we're friends , and she honestly feels she's done nothing wrong ]she is delusional -and i can really say i can't stand her and wish her nothing hope she struggles with everything and looses whatever she's worked for AND now with these holidays approaching these feelings are stronger i'm actually avoiding stores where their already playing x mas music and you see the happy couples out shopping just brings back memories of us this time of year really into it ,now i know why they say depression is more around the holidays, cause i'm going through it honestly hope NO ONE says merry x mas or happy new years to me Wow 6 months and you still feel that way,,, Did you do No Contact and how long has it been since you last talked? I was lied to and screwed over also and know how you feel. I'm just alittle over 3 months being dumped and about the same time of N.C. and I'm so glad I don't feel the way you feel,, I did for awhile but it just doesn't bother me that much anymore. Hey, I'm NOT trying to "rub it in" or anything,, we all heal in different ways/times and sorry to hear you still feel that way,,, I still get alittle pissed at times but they are few and far between. Let it out man,, rant here all you want to or need to.
Author tomm Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 yea it's been 6 months since i got dumpped , we had low contact after that [basically making plans to return things ] then we went no contact then some contact [she wanted to insure me i did nothing wrong OH and said she considerd me a friend which i squashed real quick ] then back to no contact last heard from her about 2/3 weeks ago [her dad died i dropped off a card when i knew she wouldn't be home] she called to thank me for the card THEN attempted to talk about ''us'' and started lieing to me again and i cut her short soo we haven't spoke in about 2/3 weeks . funny how they can lie to you when you know for a fact that they know you know the truth AND knowing she's now with a specific person [which she totally flat out denies] and one night your at a stop light and her and him are in his car right next to you , AND you know they both see you [ i waved as they were looking at me ] guess my own eyes were lieing to me lol
shayla Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Everybody has their own pace. It's been one year and 14 days since I got dumped, and I am finally feeling like myself again. There is just something about being lied to for a long time that makes a person insane, I know it did me. It was like the last 4 years have just been an entire waste of my time, my life, and cannot figure out for the life of me why someone would do this, it's stupid, but it's life.
mike588 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 yea it's been 6 months since i got dumpped , we had low contact after that [basically making plans to return things ] then we went no contact then some contact [she wanted to insure me i did nothing wrong OH and said she considerd me a friend which i squashed real quick ] then back to no contact last heard from her about 2/3 weeks ago [her dad died i dropped off a card when i knew she wouldn't be home] she called to thank me for the card THEN attempted to talk about ''us'' and started lieing to me again and i cut her short soo we haven't spoke in about 2/3 weeks . funny how they can lie to you when you know for a fact that they know you know the truth AND knowing she's now with a specific person [which she totally flat out denies] and one night your at a stop light and her and him are in his car right next to you , AND you know they both see you [ i waved as they were looking at me ] guess my own eyes were lieing to me lol No wonder you feel the way you do,, you spoke to her 2/3 weeks ago that's not helping you get over her or moving on. Stop all contact,, ALL CONTACT!! I so believe in N.C. to help you get over an ex. and move on. I mentioned I've been in strict N.C. for 3 months now and I'd hate to know where I'd be emotionally if I haven't. Your angry and pissed,, it's ok,, I know the feeling!! Let it out,, it helps!! Keep posting, were here for you!
Author tomm Posted November 18, 2011 Author Posted November 18, 2011 i guess everyone does have their own pace ALSO i think everyone who's been in a long term relationship and was suddenly dumpped wants an answer to why but rarely get one . yea i'm angry , i'm pissed,hurt,confused i know it's the norm anothr thing is where we live isn't a big city it's small towns and eventually you run into everyone just soo looking forward to the day we run into each other [ we have once while shopping ] it wasn't fun BUT hey this next time maybe i'll run into her and her new guy [ we know each other b.t.w. ] what a party that will be woo hoo
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