justconfused25 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 In LDR, you often can be there for your SO as much as you'd like. They might sometimes do things with their opposite gender friends while your gone such as just shopping. My question is at what point would you feel uncomfortable with your SO shopping with their opposite gender friend 1 on 1? For me I don't know if it's jealousy but whenever my SO shops with her guy friend for makeup, jewelry, groceries i get a bit uncomfortable because it feels like something i should be doing with her instead. Is it just me and what are your boundaries?
lordWilhelm Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 I don't know that I have a good answer to this. I have very strict boundaries for myself, and I feel a bit uncomfortable when my GF does something that falls outside of my own boundaries. For example, I would not go with a woman to a movie, but she has -- that feels a bit like a date to me, doesn't it? What I found helped was to talk about how we both felt about it. I think that helps to maybe align the expectations of boundaries closer to each other's and understand where we're coming from. But I don't see a clear-cut solution... Does anyone else have any insight on this?
wildgeese Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 (edited) I'm not an overly jealous individual, nor is my boyfriend, but we have natural preferences for opposite sex friends. I don't care if he hangs out with female friends that he's had for years - I know that they are platonic and I'm not even remotely worried about them grabbing a drink together or something. The same goes for me and my guy friends (plus I happen to live with two guys). I would, however, feel a bit uncomfortable if they were new female friends and they were hanging out one on one. I guess I just wouldn't see the point? But I think that every situation is unique. Edited November 17, 2011 by wildgeese
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