loveburden Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 okay so my ex and i have been talking for a while now, he has been saying that he loves me and that he misses me and that he wants to see if we can work things out when i come back to my home town. i have been living a few hours away from him but tomorrow i am moving back to my home town and he wants to meet up and try and sort things out. however i feel so guilty, i have been on dates with two other people, both of which i have kissed and one almost slept with. i have this immense guilt hanging over me. we were not together, so its not like i cheated but i am so scared of telling him because i really do want to sort things out with him. i know for a fact that he has met another girl and they have made out, i don't knoe if they are still talking. last time i was with him, i saw messages from her on his phone and he got very defensive and grabbed the phone off me and deleted them. everytime i try and ask about her, if he is talking about her , he gets very defensive and gets angry that i keep bringing her up. he has told me that he is not talking to her. i feel so guilty , like i have betrayed him by mixing myself with other men. should i tell him?
ChelseaLS Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 okay so my ex and i have been talking for a while now, he has been saying that he loves me and that he misses me and that he wants to see if we can work things out when i come back to my home town. i have been living a few hours away from him but tomorrow i am moving back to my home town and he wants to meet up and try and sort things out. however i feel so guilty, i have been on dates with two other people, both of which i have kissed and one almost slept with. i have this immense guilt hanging over me. we were not together, so its not like i cheated but i am so scared of telling him because i really do want to sort things out with him. i know for a fact that he has met another girl and they have made out, i don't knoe if they are still talking. last time i was with him, i saw messages from her on his phone and he got very defensive and grabbed the phone off me and deleted them. everytime i try and ask about her, if he is talking about her , he gets very defensive and gets angry that i keep bringing her up. he has told me that he is not talking to her. i feel so guilty , like i have betrayed him by mixing myself with other men. should i tell him? First off you guys were broken up, so don't feel guilty about the other guys. Secondly, I don't know why either of you have to disclose this information... because once again you were living your seperate lives and were not together. You don't go into a relationship telling your new partner every one and everything you have done sexually with people. I would tell him that yes you have been one dates, but I don't think you need to tell him about what happened on those dates. Thats just how i see it.
Author loveburden Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 thankyou for saying that. you're right, its none of my bussiness what he has done while we have been seperated or is it any of his. all that matters is the future and if we have one together or not. thhankyou again for your advice, its really appreciated
nu464 Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 You better stop communicating with your ex, let your self be happy without him, move on!!
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