little_black_dress Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Hello everybody! So! There is this guy at my university, 1 year older. We used to have a project at the same professor (not in the same team). We were speaking sometimes, briefly though, because i was very busy. During our talks it seemed we had a nice chemistry (had mutual interests and also he was teasing me). Apart from that, we have not been in frequent contact, although we have sent 4-5 mails from time to time for university matters, nameday wishes etc. These days i had my birthday, so he sent me a "happy birthday" and a "stay in touch" (He was saying "stay in touch" a lot in our messages. I never took it as an invitation though and I believed it was out of politeness. So i wasn;t really using the "invitation"). I thanked him, and then i told him that i hope that we will be in more frequent contact (well, i always liked him, but i was taken. i broke up some months ago, so...). Then he sent back and asked me if i need any help with the university and "see you soon". I replied that i miss some notes from a course and if he has them he would be my savior. He wrote me that he has them and he gave me his number to arrange a meeting. And my questions are: - "Keep in touch": does it have a meaning when you don't really have a lot of "touch" with someone because you hardly know them? Can it mean "I want to get to know you"? or is just a formality? I don't think it is a blowoff because he kept saying it, even when he was initiating contact. - "See you soon": Shows a desire to see someone, or is just a nice "bye"? - Do you think he fancies me or he is just being friendly with willing to help me and giving his number? Thanks for reading :-) I appreciate any opinion!
Neuroticfish Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Why on earth haven't you asked him these questions? Trying to deconstruct his meaning on an internet forum is an exercise in frustration. If you're interested, ask him out. It really is that easy.
Author little_black_dress Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 i will call him for SURE in the weekend, but i wanted an opinion on this stuff! i dont feel comfortable to ask, it is not like we are dating already, wouldn't it seem like a cop doing investigation? :-) or a little bit uncool, like : -keep in touch! see you soon! - umm, what do you mean? can i message you whenever i want? or are you saying it out of politeness? do you really want to see me soon? how soon is that? or are you polite again? - ...
Author little_black_dress Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 Because women hyperanalyse and college students are high-school students still in experience. OP, guys are thick. Literally ... we can't read a woman's mind. Many guys would like for women to be more direct with them, to verbalise stuff. So try doing that. hahaha, yeah we hyperanalyse indeed! but i try so hard not to keep my hopes high :-p also i am more of a "show it with no words" person. Verbalising stuff so early to somebedy i have met in a total of 1 and half an hour in my life is a bit tricky for me! I would definetely call and propose a coffe with the excuse of the homework though. And so I will. But would you offer to help someone that you barely know and you are not attracted to?
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