katie1986 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Basically, I've known this guy who is a friend of a friend for the past couple years and have always had a huge crush on him. When we met though, he had just begun dating someone and it lasted up until a few months ago. I never acted flirtatious around him or anything, but apparently someone had told him a long time ago I had feelings for him. Anyways, his girlfriend breaks up with him, they get back together for a week or so, and they both realize the relationship is dead at that point. About a month we are both out with a few of our mutual friends, he gets very flirtatious, and he ends up spending the night at my place and us making out. Knowing he had just gotten out of a relationship, I thought in the morning he'd say he made a mistake and all would be forgotten. Instead the next day he asks me out to dinner, and that week seems to want to spend a lot of time with me and texts me constantly. After 2-3 weeks, I realize while he is still texting me everyday, but he has stopped seeing me in person. I bring this up and he tells me, "yeah, I'm really sorry... I wanted to see where this would go, but I'm just not ready for a relationship. I just want to be single and worry about myself for now. Of course I still want to be friends though." I was upset, but kind of expected this all along. He threw something in there too about if in a few months he wants me back but I'm seeing someone else, he'll have to understand. Problem is I'm still crazy about him. This past month I started working out with him and his friend about 4x/week, so when you throw in parties as well I've been seeing a lot of him. He still texts me here and there too, but it's always about the gym, lifting, nutrition, etc. I know that's one of the things he really liked about me... that we were both into those things, but I feel like he's my trainer... not my friend. At parties I clam up around him and can't think of anything to say even though we have a lot in common. I just want to be able to be myself around him, but I get so shy. I wish I could just treat him like one of my normal guy friends, but I can't because I like him so much, and it makes my personality seem boring. How do I start being myself around him again? I'm usually joking around, teasing, and being loud around my friends, but I can't get myself to act like this around him. I get so shy and nervous, particularly in party situations. I get scared to be near him and talk to him at parties, because I'm afraid he'll think I'm coming onto him or something. Do I need to get over the hope that once he's a bit more out of this relationship, he'll want to try things with us again? When he told me he wanted to end things, he basically went on about how we have so much in common, etc. I said that when he is over his past relationship if he wants to give us a shot again to let me know. And he said he absolutely would. I know I shouldn't wait around for him, but I can't get him off my mind.
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