girl seems like she is on a high horse and is trying to act like someone else

[rd1978]

i had posted before but maybe i explain it differently,, ive been witht his girl for about 5 years,, me:25 her:24 we have been thru alot we love each other very much the realationship wasnt a superclose one,,,she is insecure about herself and i didnt always show her the love that she might have needed,,, Basically there was a lack of communication,,,, and showing affection wasnt completly at the level it should have been,, anyway to kinda sum it up , but leave details out she started acting weird to me and was saying im really confused i drive to work and on my way to work i think alot,,, and im just confused , it seemed like she was putting up a wall against me to protect her feelings she has done this to me before,, so i did the same thing instead of talk to her about it,,,, so 1 night she went out with her friends and she told me to call her and maybe we would met up but anyway she never awnsered and i found out the next day that she met up with some guy friends,,and i was pissed that she didnt awnser the phone ,, so she called the next mornign and was on like a power trip and was like i think we need a break or something im confused and its not fair to you,, so i told her ok BUT dont call me at all because im not going to be ther for you while you hanging out with this other guy,,, she was friends witht his kid they rarely hung out but they talk on the phone and computer, and she told me he wanted to be more than friends,,, blah blah,,,so she called me all week and i didnt awnser so i did end up talking and she just wanted to be single she said but then wanted to like go away for a weekend and see what happens ,, but we didnt because i found out she hung out witht his kid a couple of times,, But i told her dont call me and she is stillc alling me up to 4 days ago but tommorrow is the begining of a new week so we will see,,,,,,,,, so for the advice,,

 

i told her how i wanted it to be i told her how much i love her,, i told her no more jeliously games,, i told her im going ot be alot more affectionate and spend much more quality time with her ,, the thing is i kinda had the upperhand during the relationship,, and i think because she knew she could have this other kid there if she dint have me it gave her the powere to walk away,,, but yet it seems she wants her cake and eat it to because she is still calling,,,, and has been seen holding hands with this other kid

 

ALL her friends are trashy,, she is a very good girl her friends are out partying all week and weekend and are a horrible influence on her,, it seem my ex girl has flipped her lid and gone off the deep end she is going out untill all hour's of the night drinking and then getting up at 6 to drive an hour to a NEW job and then doing it the next day,, this all seems to happen when i refuse to awnser her calls,,,and she goes all the places i would go with this kidits only been 3 weeks,,she acts like she is on a power trip because she has this kid,, who i honeslty dont think is good looking but whatever, it seems her friends pump her ego up and this kid is doing the same she rarely ever went out now she is out allllll the time,, i need to bring this girl back down to earth or should i just keep ignoring her phone calls and see if she realizes it wasnt all worth it,, or should i try and talk some sense into her which i think i can do ,, i just feel that not awnsering her phone calls drives her to be more crazy instead of missing me but in time she might miss me, my other concern is this kid is filling all the gaps that we had as far as showing affection towards each other ,, i do want to work things out but i dont know what the best way is to do it, i am moving on but i just need to know if she calls should i awnser and talk to her or just dont awnser at all ,, It seems the more i ignore heer calls the more she hang s out with him but when we are talking she didnt hang out with him,,i would actually like to try and hang out with her to bring the feelings back and try to drop this wall , i think she is using this kid to push her self away from me but i need to show her i can change and how much i care,, telling her isnt going to do it,BUT I DONT NOT WANT TO BE A SECURITY FOR HER ,, i dont believe in having your cake and eating it to!

it almsot seems that being honest with her pumped her up, i feel that is i played the game and told her i was hangign out with someon else things would have been diff,, But i was honest and told her i dont want to play games

[RackEmUp]

What is your question?

[rd1978]

she has been calling me every morning and every night for the past week then stopped 4 days ago,, i told her a week and a half ago to do whatever she could to stop from calling me if she couldnt put the effore in and make it work,, so my question is when she calls again {hopefully she does}{1} should i try and reason with her and go on an overvue of the relationship and try and make compromises to make it work ,,

{2} or should i just let it be ,, and not awnser and hope she misses me ,,, {3}or should i awnser her call and act like i dont care but be her friend and hope she gets comfortable again,, i just feel the more and more i ignore her the more she is goign to hang out w/ this kid when her asks her because if im not there then why not,, but i dont want her to think im waiting around if i talk to her,, i feel she is so proud of herself for walking away to hang out with her sloppy friends more often that she knows even if she wants to she cant come right back,, this did happen 1 time before and she ended up realizing after a 2 months thta she messed up and then she feel real hard and would do anything she could to have me back,, and i did take her back not right away though,,,,,i just get the feeling that its something to to her and it keeps her mind off me and it def will if i dont have any contact with her,,,,she knows i want to work things out so she might be using that against ,, she has been tanning shopping alot and she knows that i want her so i think its going to ehr head,, the only thign im doing is not awnsering her calls, whether she thinks im stubborn or i just dont want to talk to her i dont know,, i would really like to sit down and talk to her over a drink or to to relax use ,, any info would be helpful