DownNotOut Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Hey everyone - my ex and I have had a horrible breakup, but through everything I still care about her deep down. I've been no contact with her for the past month and have accepted that we will probably never be together again. She's coming this weekend to pick her things up and I was thinking about leaving her a mix cd in her things - we both loved music... It's basically music that we both would love and connect with - mainly breakup songs, what could have been etc. and express a lot of what I'm feeling right now as a result of the breakup... Or should I just keep it for myself and go along the same lines of writing her a letter and then burn it/destroy it?
Rorschach64 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Do you feel that doing this would bring you any sense of closure to all this? Would you be okay with no response at all from this action?
Author DownNotOut Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 Do you feel that doing this would bring you any sense of closure to all this? Would you be okay with no response at all from this action? I think it would bring me some sort of closure and yea I'm ok if I don't get a response. I guess it would be sort of a mea culpa for the way we both treated each other during the breakup - I know she would be touched by it, even though we've both moved on.
Berlington Bob Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 I know how you are thinking... I remember when I broke up with my 1st love about 10 years ago and texting her the lyrics to Every Rose has its Thorn... lol... Then I remember for the next 10 years thinking how dumb that was to do and feeling embarased that I did that... Now the other day after my most recent breakup I found myself feeling the urge to somehow get her to listen to the song I was listening to... something from Taking Back Sunday I think...but I didnt cause I remembered how stupid I felt after I did... For some reason when we are going through this we feel that it would let her know how you feel somehow... But it will just come off as creepy and you will be like me for the next 10 years saying to yourself "why the ef did i think that was a good idea". Not that it took up a huge amount of my time thinking about it but I still remember feeling dumb.
Rorschach64 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Well I understand where you are coming from Bob but I know I sent my ex-f a letter saying don't hate you blah blah and good luck in life, no begging just saying good bye in a lot of weird funny words. I didn't regret it then because I just had the urge to do it nor do I regret it now. I think it is okay to do it if you are fully able to accept the outcome of sending things.
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