Kyle787 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Hey guys, I guess this is a follow up to one of my previous threads. I just wanted to thank everyone for helping me come up with some cleaver lines to throw in when asking a woman out. I ended up asking my friend out today over the phone. I "invited" her out and she straight up said yes. I then asked what she was doing this weekend and she said she had a volunteer thing this Friday night (truth) and work until 8:00 pm Saturday. I thought for a second and said we could go after work, but she said "I don't know, I'll have to let you know my friend *** wanted me hang after work Saturday." So I said, "okay I'll keep in touch" and she replied "sounds good!" Now honestly I have no idea what to do without blowing the tentative date. I'm not a real pro and I've only asked out a few girls in person before to someone I could see everyday.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 @Kyle I'm sad to say it but what that woman did is the most galling version of saying "no". Thats right, there is a good chance, that her saying yes, then having excuses about picking a date are equivalent to a no. Call her back tomorrow or the day after and ask her out for next weekend. Choose a date nite (that you know she does not work on), and a date time. If the woman really likes you giving her a weeks notice she should be able to reserve the time for you, no excuses. If she gives you more excuses or double talk then just forget about her as a potential mate. I mean honestly. Saying yes then not agreeing to any solid time to meet. From here it feels like a head game.
oaks Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 So I said, "okay I'll keep in touch" and she replied "sounds good!" Now honestly I have no idea what to do without blowing the tentative date. I'm not a real pro and I've only asked out a few girls in person before to someone I could see everyday. What you could've done then was say "so when are you free for dinner?" What you can do now is call her and suggest another date, and if she's busy you can ask her to suggest a day. If she's mysteriously busy then tell her to let you know when she's free (but don't hold your breath in case she never calls back).
Author Kyle787 Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 @Kyle I'm sad to say it but what that woman did is the most galling version of saying "no". Thats right, there is a good chance, that her saying yes, then having excuses about picking a date are equivalent to a no. Call her back tomorrow or the day after and ask her out for next weekend. Choose a date nite (that you know she does not work on), and a date time. If the woman really likes you giving her a weeks notice she should be able to reserve the time for you, no excuses. If she gives you more excuses or double talk then just forget about her as a potential mate. I mean honestly. Saying yes then not agreeing to any solid time to meet. From here it feels like a head game. I understand what you are saying but I've known her long enough to read the tone she replied and to take it as is. The volunteer project.. (our whole college class is required to do that tomorrow if they didn't do it last friday) and I know she works, especially now that field hockey season is over. Plus a date from 9pm on isn't even what I was hoping for since I like to take the girl for a walk after too. I was thinking maybe call her tomorrow then say saturday isn't the best for me either and suggest sunday or next week when we have off for Thanksgiving.
jobaba Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Hey guys, I guess this is a follow up to one of my previous threads. I just wanted to thank everyone for helping me come up with some cleaver lines to throw in when asking a woman out. I ended up asking my friend out today over the phone. I "invited" her out and she straight up said yes. I then asked what she was doing this weekend and she said she had a volunteer thing this Friday night (truth) and work until 8:00 pm Saturday. I thought for a second and said we could go after work, but she said "I don't know, I'll have to let you know my friend *** wanted me hang after work Saturday." So I said, "okay I'll keep in touch" and she replied "sounds good!" Now honestly I have no idea what to do without blowing the tentative date. I'm not a real pro and I've only asked out a few girls in person before to someone I could see everyday. Oooh... You shouldn't have let it end like that IMHO. You should have nailed down a date so she wouldn't have days and days to think about it. Of course ... if she REALLY liked you, she'd have cancelled plans with her friend. But that doesn't mean you're out of the game. Honestly, at this point it's all on her. She holds the power. Just call her back, find out a night when she's free, and you are, and ask again. Quite honestly, when I've asked women out and they give a tentative yes without nailing down a date, they usually come out. So, I'd say the chances of you getting to see her mono e mono are pretty good.
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