perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 So yesterday, my mom said she ran into my ex at the store and they ended up talking. She asked him how life has been and congradulated him on earning second place at the marching band championships. He said he has been alright and thanks, but that it wasn't as great as the last time around. She asked him why and if it was because they didn't win the championship like last time, and he said no, but that he felt like something was missing. Winning state two years ago was a moment we shared together. It was one of the few times I had seen him tear up and was probably one of the most happy and unforgetable moments of our relationship. He said something was missing this year, but it wasn't the fact that they didn't win...Why would he tell my mother this? I mean he has that other girl hes supposedly with, but idk...my mom thinks that he meant it wasn't the same because I wasn't there with him, so yea. I am trying not to read a lot into it, but I can't help but wonder haha
lymtal1 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 pf459, i see your words about not trying to read alot into it but that is exactly what you are doing. so here's the deal. lets say that his intent was to drop that to your mom knowing that she would tell you. he knows that it would get you thinking and then what? you would come running back to him? if he really felt that YOU were missing, why would he not say he missed having you with him. why play the word games and through your mom? of course anything is possible but my suggestion is to let it roll, if he really feels like this, you not reaching out will not stop him from getting in touch with you. keep doing what you are doing and let this go. it will play itself out. and if this was not his message to your mom, then won't you feel awful if you react, get your hopes up, and it meant nothing? do you want him back knowing he is with someone else as you say?
chados Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 let me tell you this. if he meant the "you" were missing, i can tell you from a guy perspective that talking to a relative about your ex girlfriend means he likes you. guys do this often, try to open up with someone close to you. this is more certain if you dumped him and if it was only a few weeks ago. and if he have tried to win you back before
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 pf459, i see your words about not trying to read alot into it but that is exactly what you are doing. so here's the deal. lets say that his intent was to drop that to your mom knowing that she would tell you. he knows that it would get you thinking and then what? you would come running back to him? if he really felt that YOU were missing, why would he not say he missed having you with him. why play the word games and through your mom? of course anything is possible but my suggestion is to let it roll, if he really feels like this, you not reaching out will not stop him from getting in touch with you. keep doing what you are doing and let this go. it will play itself out. and if this was not his message to your mom, then won't you feel awful if you react, get your hopes up, and it meant nothing? do you want him back knowing he is with someone else as you say? I knew someone would tell me I am reading too much it into Don't worry, I am not losing sleep over it or constantly thinking about it. I have been really busy with my school work lately and seeing my friends, so don't worry, I am living my life I just couldn't help but wonder ya know? Like this and him ditching his supposed gf just to try and approach me is kind of weird since I didn't think he wanted anything to do with me for awhile. Things are quite complicated between us, but I know him and I both care deeply about each other. I mean he cried when I told him I wanted him out of my life for christ sake! I thought since I told him that, that he wouldn't care and just move on to that other girl, so it just surprises me that he has tried to contact me and said this to my mom. I guess letting go and living your life really does work I mean not only is he trying to reach out to me, but I mean I feel a thousand times better about myself and my life than I did weeks ago.
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted November 17, 2011 Author Posted November 17, 2011 let me tell you this. if he meant the "you" were missing, i can tell you from a guy perspective that talking to a relative about your ex girlfriend means he likes you. guys do this often, try to open up with someone close to you. this is more certain if you dumped him and if it was only a few weeks ago. and if he have tried to win you back before Nah I mean he dumped me, but I have lived my life for almost two months now and am in the process of letting go. But I mean this isnt the first weird thing to happen, last week he tried reaching out to me and ditched that girl just to come and talk to me. I acted really busy but he still kept lingering around me and trying to talk to me. Then he tells my mom this stuff yesterday. I just can't help but wonder haha. It is just really weird, I was not expecting my silence to make him react this way since I thought he was going to move on to that other girl. I am going to continue doing what I am doing though, because I know I am not ready to have him back in my life. He is going to have to wait till I am ready to speak to him again, plus maybe this silence will make him realize he let go of something good. I mean, it seems like it is having that effect at least
chados Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 Nah I mean he dumped me, but I have lived my life for almost two months now and am in the process of letting go. But I mean this isnt the first weird thing to happen, last week he tried reaching out to me and ditched that girl just to come and talk to me. I acted really busy but he still kept lingering around me and trying to talk to me. Then he tells my mom this stuff yesterday. I just can't help but wonder haha. It is just really weird, I was not expecting my silence to make him react this way since I thought he was going to move on to that other girl. I am going to continue doing what I am doing though, because I know I am not ready to have him back in my life. He is going to have to wait till I am ready to speak to him again, plus maybe this silence will make him realize he let go of something good. I mean, it seems like it is having that effect at least al right, well that makes it kinda clear don't you think?, sometimes people don't realize what they had before its gone. "Don't leave something good to see if you can find better, because once you realise you had the best, the best found better
beachwrangler Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 I could've started the same thread just she talked to my mother lol. She sent my mom a message this past saturday saying sorry for everything and that she was thankful for everything my family had done for her. Asked to keep in touch and that she loved her and my family very much. On top of that she started sending friend requests to all my family members that have a facebook after she had taken all of them off after the BU. Kinda ironic that it comes right after I told her it was best that we didn't talk anymore. To me she is getting desperate and finding anyway to keep tabs on me so seems she is trying to use my family as a gateway to me. I feel your ex is doing the same thing. Bc let's be real our ex's know our family is going to tell us about their contact with one another. I feel like my ex, he is trying to get a reaction out of you. Seems to be the void of not having you is starting to get to him. But it's best we both don't read to much into it. We'll just keep doing what were doing and live our lives to the fullest and give our ex's exactly what they want by disappearing out of theirs.
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