New that I needed to walk away...

[ladyjane83]

So I think some people on here are familiar with my story. If not you can read it in my previous thread. Long story short, I found out my bf of 1.5 years had had a gf for 2.5 years, he chose her, she took him back. We then stayed in touch and the contact got more and more (2 hour phone convos) and a meet upfor a drink wherehe told me she still had feelings for me etc. She found out we were still in touch (he promised her he wouldtalk to me anymore) and she took him back again, he then cut contact with me for the last 3 week apart from a couple of texts and a phone call.

 

I went out on Sat night and bumped into one of his best friends. He is really the one I wanted to see since all this happened as he has met me and the other girl lots of times and been nice to both of us... I caught his eye and he came over and straight away started ranting. Not at me but about his friend, my ex: "what was I meant to do?!?! He would bring you to things and then he would bring her to things, he is my friend, was I meant to tell either of you he has another girlfriend? I was in such a difficult position and he is a **** for putting me in that position! Have you any idea how much trouble he has caused me with my own girlfriend...she hates me for covering up for him all the time etc etc. What you both need to know is that he isnt a one woman man, he sleeps around all the time. He does it here and he has been doing it since me moved away to uni (last september). He sleeps with loads of people, thats just the way he is." I stopped him there and was like woah woah woah slow down, are you telling me that he has slept with other people at uni that arent me and the other girl? He just said yes. I then said you do know I have to text the other girl and tell her this?? (she is still with him despite everything) and he said yes, tell her, you both deserve to know because if it was my gf I would want to know. Then it like clicked to him what he had done/said and he was like s**t please dont tell ****** that you heard it from me...tell him you spoke to one of his mates, please dont use my name" I then walked away.

 

So I told her. she asked everything he said and I told her. She facebooked the friend to ask if it was true. and she called the guy, he hung up on her (classic panic!) and she called him back and he denied it all, said its a load of rubbish. He then called the friend and me and her both got identical fb messages from the friend the next day saying 'sorry I was drunk and dont remember what I said'. T be honest, if thats the only excuse, that he doesnt remember, then that doesnt matter, because I remember. If he had said oh I just made it up to get rid of you and make you leave him alone then I might beleive that, but if the only excuse is that he was drunk then that means I beleive it.

 

The guy called both of us and denied it all. im not really sure why he called me, as he still said in the call that we cant be in touch anymore etc, so why does he care what I beleive?! The other girl believe him though and is staying with him...AGAIN!! its s funny feeling because the last few times she has stayed with him I have said, well I dont blame her because stupid as it is, I would have too. But this is the first time I sort of feel, I dont know, sorry for her I think? maybe lost a bit of respect for her? When I talked to him to be honest, he worked his magic with me a bit too and made me sort of believe its not true. But I think its because I want to believe that...because if its true then I really do need to walk away because I COULD NOT be with him. It would be the final straw. But common sense tells me its true.....why on earth would his friend say that if it isnt true. Theres no reason for it. Im trying to cling on to my common sense with both hands. I told him that I believe his friend and that Im walking away from him and couldnt be with him even if he wanted me too. He went really quiet. it was the hardest thing to say...but I think its true.

Edited November 16, 2011 by ladyjane83