ThisDJ Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 So my ex girlfriend and I were dating for about 5 months we had a few arguments but for the most part things were good then it seemed like we constantly fought about the stupidest things, finally one night I had enough I quick decision without really thinking about it and told her i was done. The next day I appologized and said that I really didnt mean it, and that it was just in the heat of the argument. She on the other hand didnt want to us to be "together" stating that she didn't know what she wanted, but we still seen each other on a regular basis, and did everything a couple would do, we just didnt have the title cause she needed time. So this went on for about 4 months we had some issues some were my fault others were hers, the past couple of months we started hanging out less she seemed more distant and when I asked what was goin on she just gave me the answer of I dont know, which was pretty much her answer for anything regarding us. Finally about a month ago she just text me said she was over it and that was the last i heard from her, I of course tried to get an explanation, but of course no response. So i took that as we were done I still care about her alot and I know she still has feelings for me but I think the petty fights and me just wanting to know what we were pushed her away. Anyways I havent contacted her for the past 5 weeks and then last weekend I seen her at the bar. I pretendedI didnt see her at first but eventually we came face to face and she gave me a hug and wanted to talk, so at first it was just the small talk and then I asked if she had been seeing anyone she said she was but, then she started telling me how he was a friend of all of her friends and that they went out a few times and then one night apparently they had a talk that she doesnt remember she says, about them being together. So apparently the guy put on facebook that they were in a relationship, and all of her friends liked it and commented on it, she says that she didnt really want that but felt kind of obligated. So she tells me she cant see hereself being with this guy, her brother doesnt really like him and her best friend doesnt either, and that she plans on ending with this guy soon. On top of that I asked her jokingly who she thought her best friend liked more and she said me. Her body language during this conversation seemed like she felt bad, and it seemed like she missed me. But before we could really talk more my friends came up kinda interupted and then she said she had to go back with her friends. I said goodbye that it was good to see her and that I hope everything works out between them. Im just not sure how to read the fact that she told me she wasnt really happy and that she was gonna break up with the guy soon, and that me and her best friend were the only ones that she told. Yes I still care about her and if it came down to it I would probably get back together with her, but I'm definitely not stressing about whether we are gonna get back or anything like that. Right now I think I'm just gonna wait some more and if she calls me go from there, or would it be ok to give it another week or so and then give her a call?
nu464 Posted November 21, 2011 Posted November 21, 2011 My bestfriend...help?? Is she just using him? ok my bestfriend whos a girl shes 18 broke up with her bf of almost 2 yrs in the beggining of nov around there because she didnt feel it with him anymore and just wanted to be friends with him and was only with him for her fake id. she had a thing with this guy for about 2 months (he hurt her so thats over) and the whole time she was single up until last friday she kept saying how she doesnt wanna relationship for a long time and just wants to be single. then she started dating her ex again grr, after she said how she never wants to get back together with him and that they're just friends, shes not in love with him anymore by the way and just loves him kinda. i asked her why shes dating him and she said she doesnt even know, i told her shes just lonely and depressed. i was talking to my best guy friend and he told her how she just doesnt wanna be alone and depressed but anyways, she agreed when i said shes just lonely and depressed & i told her to not use a guy (she says shes not) cuz shes feeling lonely and depressed and she said "i know but honesty guys are just gonna end up hurting me so if im dating i wont get myself into that u know" then i told her that thats life ur gonna get hurt sometimes but u cant always have her ex (now ur bf) to run to so no guy will hurt her & i said shes not even in love with him or anything anymore and she said " yea i know i do love him kinda but i know i can feel more with (the guy she had a thing with) because when she had sex with him she felt something she hasnt felt since but it seems like all guys i truley end up falling for will just hurt me" me and my best guy friend think shes just using him but doesnt realize it like that yet and he said shes just using him as a crutch, they'll never be like how they used to be. Just last wednesday he told me how shes sick of not being able to do what she wants anymore again (hes very controlling and possesive) and is prob gonna break up with him soon. i really hope she does because its stupid that shes with him what do u guys think of this??? then i brought up to her last thrusday how shes sick of not being able to do what she wants anymore? and shes like "yesss! fml" I told her how nothings gonna change and she was like "i know f u c k haha" then i told her that she shouldnt have gotten herself into and then tells me "i dont care i can end it anytime its not like him stuck with him" i think shes just using him to cope with her depression and doesnt wanna be alone....because thats what it really seems like, even my other bff thinks that and hes very smart, he has lots of experience. before they started dating again, she told me how she didnt wanna relationship for a really long time and doesnt want to get attached to anyone and how she doesnt want to date at all and just needs to get used to being alone. thats why its stupid that shes with him thoughts would be appreciated
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