MrSimple Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Is it advisable to go into NC after first contact? I recently met up with her during the weekend event. We chatted, her eyes glowed at the sight of me(I dunno what it means) and she seems pretty eager to see me the next day, which was a Sun. She came to find me, we walked ard the exhibition hall(I gave her my ticket, which was a form of a wrist tag, and the last I saw of it was that it was securely stuck on her arm by 2 hair-bands) She left after that, saying she will come back after she found her friends. But she didn't. I got a bit dejected, as I bought her a cartoon cushion to thank her for coming down. Didn't get the chance to say a proper goodbye too. I wonder, is it advisable to disappear completely again after sending her an opening msg to contact me anytime? It has been 3 days and I've yet to hear anything from her. I dunno if she's waiting for me to contact her, so will you guys advise me to contact her in any way? It's the 6th week of her rebound, so something may or may not happen. My fingers are kinda crossed, but I'm not expecting anything. Best to expect nothing lest nothing really happens, then I won't be so badly affected compared to expecting a huge load of things to take place. Please advise me, thank you!
smokey bear Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Dont expect anything until the rebound ends, its all she'll be thinking of xx
Author MrSimple Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 So you will recommand NC? =x
M2155 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I don't think the advise is any different than it was a day or two ago when you asked about this. You are driven by your feelings right now. Like someone said on your last post, you are not HER priority right now and need to be careful not to push her away by getting to excited and trying to read too much into things. Just accept things as they are. If she is opening up to you a little bit, then just be there a little bit. Stop trying to DO anything. She is dealing with her feelings right now, you need to let her do that.Continuing to contact her saying "hey I'm here for you," (because you really don't have anything to say) isn't going to suddenly make her more attracted to you any faster.
geegirl Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Her attention is with another man. Whether it is a rebound or not, her emotions are with someone else. You are projecting your feelings onto her, believing she is feeling what you are feeling. Until she breaks up with him, you need to move on with your life. It maybe a rebound but who knows where it will go. Stop banking on it ending and waiting around hoping for someone to choose you. Stay NC. Little texts reminding her of your existence won't make her leave what she has now. As M2155 stated.
Rorschach64 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 My opinion of sending texts to remind someone you still even exist let alone trying reinstill emotions should be totally unnecessary if this person even cares and/or loves you. Smile and drive on.
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