marcey855 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I met this girl online and we started talking everyday. We started talking about everything from relationships, family, school. Anyway....she lives in Greece and i live in the States. A year into talking on the phone everyday and getting to know her....she asks me to visit. SO i visit Greece we have a great time...go places, sex, get to know one another even more. I know she really like me and i like here also at this point. I get back to the states and we still continue talking everyday. We do things over the phone.............this goes on for another 7 months. Then she asks me if i see this going anywhere? I know she cares for me a lot and loves me. She asks if either of us are willing to move? I say there is no way i can move there and shes says the same about here. I get really depressed at this point. I have a history of depression to begin with. Anyway, this is where we are now. She says to perhaps be friends and talk a lot, but move on with our lives. She says it too difficult to be this apart and try to be together. In a way she is right, but a part of me is attached and i dont want to give this up. Is she right in telling me to maintain friendship since neither of us are gonna move? I am depressed at this point....i dont know what to do. I wish circumstances were different. Is she being rational and i am not? Please help.
Eliana Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Long distance relationships are always a hard choice. I think they become quite impossible if there is no hope of having a future together. In order for it to work one of you WILL HAVE TO move to the other one's country at some point in their lives. If it's not an investment neither of you is prepared to make, maybe it's not meant to be (at least for now). And it's totally understanding, I assume you're both young still, both of you will meet people that are closer to you, with whom you can build attraction for. It's just life. In my experience trying to keep a friendship with someone you have feelings with is extremely difficult, more so if you are apart because jealousy will arise, and it's difficult to get reassurance from someone that far away. Have you thought about keeping this on stand by, and maybe later in life give it another try, if both of you still want it?
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