Buttercup84 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I saw this on another forum and though this was brilliant If you get fired from work you don’t just show up every now and then to do some filing.If you get evicted from a property you don’t go around and clean the kitchen. When you leave high school you don’t go along to a Maths class every now and then. If someone breaks up with you, don’t hook up with that person. It is so true . It is very hard so why keep contacting/doing them when they " fired " you ? Hope this helps someone
broken-and-lost Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I like that buttercup very good way of thinking about it in a more logical sense same that most people at this stage are in the emotional but still something to think about. Hope your doing better these days haven't seen many post from you so take that as a good sign
Author Buttercup84 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 Hi hun Thanks , I have been Ok better than before that is for sure .Still a bit to go though . How are you doing ? xxx
broken-and-lost Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Hey glad to hear your doing better, and still working through things all takes time an effort i'm in similar boat have my up's and down but better then i was say 6 months ago, got the dreaded ex birthday coming up next week so that's been on my mind, do i don't i.
Author Buttercup84 Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 Glad to hear you're doing better too . I wouldn't contact your ex , you have come so far . My ex has his in April and I know holidays etc are hard , we can't contact them , someone else might be sharing that special day . X
broken-and-lost Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 It's good to you in a more positive light can tell your moving forward by the comment about someone else sharing that day. I know i shouldn't and been told not too by friends and people on here. I probably wont it's just she sent me one on my birthday in may but we still had minimum contact back then but your right hun.
MoonlightSonata Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I wish it would work that way, but I cant just forget about the person whom I shared so many memories with.
Rorschach64 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Good analogy Buttercup and for you Moonlight, you will eventually let the person go in time but make sure it is on your own accord/time don't listen to people telling you to just get over it. It takes a lot of time, self reflecting, and understanding of the situation for someone to let go, I know it did for me.
Rose_Petal Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Good analogy Buttercup and for you Moonlight, you will eventually let the person go in time but make sure it is on your own accord/time don't listen to people telling you to just get over it. It takes a lot of time, self reflecting, and understanding of the situation for someone to let go, I know it did for me. Someone who understands Finaly! I'm so tiered of people telling me to "just get over it and live your life" yeah it's easy to say...I'm doing fine with the living with my life part since i've taken up new hobbies, doing things my ex didn't allow me too do because it was "stupid" or he'd get jelous, but the "get over it" part is much harder. Now the challenge is even bigger because he has a new gf and is showing her off at every place we used to go together...so humiliating
Rorschach64 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I think it is more of a possession/pride that is hurting rose. Trust me you are better off, you won't see that now obviously, because if someone LOVED you they would most certainly not disallow you to do things that you liked because of jealousy or thinking it is stupid.
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