Raging over ex gf. She contacted my sister 3 weeks after break up

[diskostu]

i was together with this girl for ca. 6 months. it was a bumpy relationship. we ended things and got back together at least 3 times. the biggest reason, according to her, was that i was moving to a different country.

 

we actually broke up 3 weeks before i left, but ended up seeing each other last week before i left. not sure how smart that was. anyways, we ended things again when i finally left. we both agreed that long distance relationships don't work.

 

anyways. a few weeks after i moved i wrote her an email. said i wanted to reduced contact as it would make it easier to move on for the both of us. she never replied. i have no idea how she reacted to it.

 

this was three weeks ago. today my sister told me that my ex had contacted her and confided in her. they do not know each other. they have met once or twice and are friends on facebook. my ex never mentioned my name explicitly, but said she was sad because of some guy. she continued to say that he was the first guy in years she really liked and wasn't afraid to get close to. but the guy wasn't interested in her.

 

she met this guy two weeks before i left. apparently they met twice and kissed a bit while out drinking. now don't get me wrong, i hooked up with two girls during these breaks. so i am not (that) angry about it.

 

however, i am ****ing raging she contacted my sister and told her all of this. either she actually meant what she said and never did love me. if so, i feel ****ing used and manipulated. if she was just trying to hurt me, she is a ****ing *******. anyways, i deleted her off facebook, deleted her phone number and won't speak to her again. even when i get back home in 4 months.

 

overreaction from my side? why did she confide in my sister? knowing that me and her are very close and share everything.

Edited November 16, 2011 by diskostu

[wilsonx]

why did she confide in my sister? knowing that me and her are very close and share everything.

 

You answered your own question...

[diskostu]

i don't know. things got worse by the end of the relationship. we spent two weeks ignoring each other. this is the period she met this other dude and i hooked up with someone else.

 

she had apparantly texted this guy a bit as well. wanting to hang out, but he said no (involved with someone else). the thing is, my sister knows this guy fairly well. that's how i know this stuff. he told her. she told me. maybe that's why my ex confided in her. simply not caring about the fact that she is also my sister and would surely tell me.

 

****. i'm raging here. i thought we ended things maturely and on a good note. i was moving on. met this new girl who i like and then this. i feel like i've been lied to. manipulated. treated like an idiot.

 

i also asked her when i first found about this guy who he was and what the deal was. maybe not the smartest move, but we had ended things then and i wanted to know. she had previously yelled at me for hooking up with other girls after we broke up (don't know how she found out). she told me then that he was just some friend she had kissed once.

 

edit: yeah, she's young. 23. i'm 29.

Edited November 16, 2011 by diskostu