OnyxSnowfall Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Bringing a daffodil in a small wrap would be good. Nah, it wouldn't (Actually it probably just depends upon the female..... but it's not going to be good for *all* of them. That's the way it is).
Ross MwcFan Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 It's just the thing that what people are saying here.. Bringing flowers on a first date will make you look like a douche, over achieving, creepy kiss ass. I'm not talking a bush of red roses here....Bringing a daffodil in a small wrap would be good. Hell, if I actually got a date today(being Christmas season) I'd bring her a god damn Christmas Tree! I guess it depends on the culture where you live, or the kind of person you're dating. But personally, even just any single flower seems corny and over the top to me, that's just how I feel. And I think it would seem that way to a LOT of people that I have known/know.
ScienceGal Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Flowers on a first date are a but much. But, on a second date would show that you were into her and thought about her since meeting. So, wait until at least the second date. Romantic gestures are appreciated, but don't dish them out to someone you don't even know. I dated one guy that would open the car door for me. Made me melt. Nothing like a modern day gentleman.
ScienceGal Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 (edited) Do not give up! Every woman is different. You should do what you want to do. Be yourself. And for the record, the guy that opened the car door ended up being a total womanizer. He charmed his way into as many skirts as he could (not mine though!) In my experience, I have liked confident men that can hold a conversation. What are you going to talk to her about? Maybe what you like to do, what your interests/passions are? What your goals are? It doesn't have to get too deep, but give her a sense of who you are. Women like men that know themself and know what they want (men like this about women too). And be a good listener when she speaks. Smile, make eye contact and breathe! You're going to be fine! Edited November 18, 2011 by ScienceGal
Mrlonelyone Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 Not long ago I was told that flowers on a first date was totally ok. Now its a second date? For my part if someone bought me flowers I would simply take it as a nice gesture. It really depends on the flowers though. Bright red roses on a first date, especially a whole bouquet of them would be over the top. A single rose of a red/pink variety should be ok if this is your first date, but not the first or second time you have ever met. A single of any other flower, i.e. a single tulip should NEVER be a red flag. If you want to bring flowers and want to say you thought about it but not TOOO much, there are always dandelions. Yes these "weeds" http://www.hobbyfarms.com/images/editorial-blog/cherie-langlois/dandelion-bouquet_255.jpg can actually be quite pretty and only a psychotic would be "overwhelmed" by such a gift. TL;DR Weather flowers are bad on a first date depends on the dating style and the flower given. Some people don't want to give up much of anything until they have been dating for weeks or months. Others want to just lay their cards on the table and find the hell out. Furthemore it depends on the flower, a dozen red roses is overkill, a single rose or a few of any other flower is not a huge deal to any sane person.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 18, 2011 Posted November 18, 2011 How about a heart Chia Pet ? No the clay would mean you put too much thought into it. You see the point of a first date in the modern world seems to be to act like you don't care about the other person at all.
ScienceGal Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 It's actually a good idea to be up front that you're a little nervous. She'll appreciate your honesty and be understanding. And she'll probably be nervous too, and knowing you are too will make her feel more relaxed.
Rose_Petal Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 I personaly don't mind when a guy gets mw flowers on the first date...but like some people mentioned, something simple and not a huge bouquet. Rose's are quite cheesy, but my opinion might also being reinforced by the fact that my name is Rose...so every guy automaticly assumes my favorite flowers are roses I do not see why a girl would think you're a creep for brining flowers, but you better have a good personality to back it up. Don't seem like you're just trying to "buy" her with nice things and don't need to make an effort for the rest. On the other extreme, you don't want to look cheap either. You'd be better off showing up with nothing then being cheap. I've had a guy give me plastic roses and it was a turn off. If you go to the trouble of getting flowers or any little gift for that matter, keep it simple but for god's sake don't be extremly cheap. I'd rather one little real rose then a dozen fake ones. To top it off, this guy said "I'll love you till these roses fade"...their fake and as it turns out so was his love lol anyway do what you think is best and only you know the girl`
Wolf18 Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 This isn't the world of our grandparents where women got 1 date a month. Nowadays women in big cities get numerous proposals from men per day, buying her a bouquet of roses on the first date is a waste for you and puts her in an odd spot in the very high chance you won't meet her expectations. Ditto for the goof asses that take women to 100 dollar dinners on the first date and don't even get a goodnight kiss for it.
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