thickerskin Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Hello... first off, thanks for taking the time to read this. I've been on my own for about 6 months, separated from my marriage of 11 years, and relationship of 16 years. He was my first and vice versa. We have an 8 year old son and built a business together. He has forced me out of the business and put it in his mother's name in the time we've been separated. He pushed me out of our house stating that he would help support me and his son (I have the agreement in text messages). He told me that started fooling around day one after I moved out. Our trial, was no longer a trial separation. It was a separation. The summer continued with multiple affairs. When he has our son, he gets babysitters and goes partying & brings strange women around my kid (I have photos and facebook posts of his partying) After a couple of months, all support stops. He no longer helps and I've been behind on bills for some time. He lives in a tiny one bedroom apartment above our shop and my son sleeps in a storage room in the shop when he has him, but my son tells me that he stays at his grandmas a lot (I did not agree to share custody with his mom) He's been pushing to keep my son exactly half time because he believes that he won't have to pay support in that case. He's since filed bankruptcy and now I have to because he has legal issues against our business for non-payment of bills. He still runs the business, and takes an income, but hides it and now has put the business in his mother's name to avoid financial obligation from debtors or to me. He's hid his income so much that he's filed for a bridge card (food stamps/wellfare) Which is essentially crazy because he has the money an is just fooling the system... I don't know if anyone is a lawyer, or can offer me advice, but I need to know if I have a chance for full custody and if I will be getting support? I appreciate any advice I could get. Thanks for your time. I'm trying to grow a thicker skin. This has been a tough 6 months!
ChelseaLS Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I am no lawyer by any means but... If you can prove that your son is sleeping in a storage closet and things like that, you would stand a good chance. Until he is 12 years old though (at least thats the age here), the child doesn't have say in who they live with full time. I am not sure if he will be obligated to pay support if he has claimed bankruptcy. When my parents split up my father claimed bankruptcy and we didn't see a penny (and knowing my mom, I am sure she would have fought it). What a ****ty situation. I feel for you and wish you the best of luck.
i.bellagardner Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 I guess you are right. But you need not only a lawyer's advice but also his services. I'm also not a lawyer but I can see that you need a legal help. It is not enough that you made an agreement through text messages. Because in the end, you'll be the one to suffer.
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