heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) This is the most embarrassing that can happen and i want to hide in my room forever There was a cute boy i was interested in (the first guy i was actually interested in since my break up with an ex) and i think i ruined all chance of being with him EVER. I met a guy about 4 weeks ago (hes a friend's friend) and we hit it off right off the bat. But last weekend we decided to hang out and lets say thats where the disaster CAME. I don't go out often cuz im super busy ( i'm taking full 20 hours in college and i have a part time job) and im stressed .. so on weekends, i try to have fun. So that day, alot of friends got together and we started drinking. I got a little over tispy but not to the point where i was drunk. I forgot i was on my period and we started making out (no, we didnt have sex). I had no intentions in making out with him but if i did, i wish i was sober atleast. But lets say I was completely mortified when there was PERIOD STAINS EVERYWHERE. ALL OVER his room mate's bed sheets and everything. i was in complete shock and HOW CAN i ever recover from this embarrassment??? I havent heard back from him since then (its been couple of days and i don't think i ever will). Is my chance being with him over completely? HAHA.. i need a guys opinion on what they think about this and how they would react if they were in this situation. to make things worse, hes not a random stranger but a friend's friend. I have to run into him some times and i think i will (hes also a friend on facebook).. ehh how will i deal with the embarrassment? I ALMOST DIED inside when i saw the mess.. Edited November 16, 2011 by heIIokitty
kvinna Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 If he's not mature enough to understand that... 1. yes, women bleed every month and we can't help it, 2. no, we don't always know exactly when it'll start, 3. yes, you are sorry for messing up his roomie's sheets ...what do you want with him?
Cypress25 Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 More to the point, why were you making out in his roommate's bed? Does he not have his own bed?
Author heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 More to the point, why were you making out in his roommate's bed? Does he not have his own bed? haha he does but i went into his room mate room to sit down for a while. i was really exhausted cuz i pulled an all nighter before.. which was a stupid idea. so my chances of being with him is over right?
insertnamehere Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Offer to clean the sheets and set the next date. You can't shrink from disaster or life will destroy you. It happened. If you like the guy enough, you find a way and you make it work. Truth be told, done right he will think you're awesome.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 If I liked someone and that happened, I'd consider everything fine if she showed some modesty and regret that it happened. No need to express abject mortification. It's a lot better than saying nothing and hiding or worse, trying to get with him again and acting like it's routine for you.
Author heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 (edited) Thanks guys, i feel alot better. I wasn't able to tell anybody what happened cuz this was too mortifying.. im still a little shocked it happened and yes, i did offer him to buy new sheets and stuff. Edited November 16, 2011 by heIIokitty
Author heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 its been 3 days now and i havent heard back from him... i guess i should take the hint that hes just not that into me and i should move on.
cerridwen Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 its been 3 days now and i havent heard back from him... i guess i should take the hint that hes just not that into me and i should move on. I don't know, three days is only a lot if you texted/called him and he didn't respond. Otherwise, I wouldn't count him out until 5-7 days passed without a peep.
Author heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 I don't know, three days is only a lot if you texted/called him and he didn't respond. Otherwise, I wouldn't count him out until 5-7 days passed without a peep. ya, i definately didnt contact him and i dont plan to unless he contacts me first. thanks, ill wait 5-7 days and if i dont hear a peep from him, then ill just move on. 5-7 days seems like alot of days but i will see..
cerridwen Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 ya, i definately didnt contact him and i dont plan to unless he contacts me first. thanks, ill wait 5-7 days and if i dont hear a peep from him, then ill just move on. 5-7 days seems like alot of days but i will see.. I know you're feeling embarrassed but try not to fret. If he's any kind of guy, he'll recognize it wasn't deliberate and that you were truly sorry. If he wants to hold it against you, that's a shame and you deserve someone more understanding.
Author heIIokitty Posted November 16, 2011 Author Posted November 16, 2011 I know you're feeling embarrassed but try not to fret. If he's any kind of guy, he'll recognize it wasn't deliberate and that you were truly sorry. If he wants to hold it against you, that's a shame and you deserve someone more understanding. Seriously Thanks <3. You are right..if he isn't interested in me bc of that anymore.. then screw him. that really made me feel 10x better.. i really appreciate it :]
thatone Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 I know you're feeling embarrassed but try not to fret. If he's any kind of guy, he'll recognize it wasn't deliberate and that you were truly sorry. If he wants to hold it against you, that's a shame and you deserve someone more understanding. he won't recognize anything if they never talk again. and he probably doesn't know what to say. not the sort of thing that happens all the time... so sitting around waiting for him to call i think is not gonna pan out this time.
LexiB Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 Eh, I dunno. Since you did essentially ruin his friend's sheets (to a guy...that's not your bf...yeah, you ruined them ) I think you should be the one to initiate contact here, if for no other reason than to follow up on your offer to replace them. I don't know what the male equivalent of this would be, but if a guy accidentally destroyed something that belonged to a friend of mine, I'd think he was super inconsiderate (re: a jerk) if I never heard from him again after the incident (you said you don't plant to initiate contact at all) or he put me in the position where I had to ask him for the money repair the damage (again, you refuse to initiate contact). Give it one shot. If he ignores you or just accepts the new sheets/money for dry cleaning and then starts ignoring you, then you know for sure, he's an *ss.
LexiB Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 How can you trust something that bleeds for 6 days yet doesn't die? No, i would think it is over, he has seen how unnatural and evil you are.. :laugh:
insertnamehere Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 To the OP: Just text or call him. Life's full of humiliating disasters. Pick yourself up and move forward. Some day the conversations are gonna be "I missed my period" and "the doctor's not sure if it's cancerous". You can't shy away from the mortifying moments.
oaks Posted November 16, 2011 Posted November 16, 2011 This is the most embarrassing that can happen and i want to hide in my room forever Sometimes sex (and things approaching it) can be messy but, no, that's not the most embarrassing thing that can happen.
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